Last Updated on October 30, 2024 by Tejaswini
The 7th house is not just about the marriage and the spouse. It has social aspects too which are linked to the world outside the home. The 7th house is the house of one to one relationships, legal partnerships, the social bindings we choose for ourselves. It is the way we interact with others in one to one meetings in life. It also has spiritual aspects, ie, it is the personal connection we feel with our the adored deity. The 7th house does represent passion, love, a strong desire for intimacy for ‘bindings’ with others. But do not limit the 7th house to the marriage event. It represents our deepest desire that is to fill our blanks, to become complete, to find that mirror which reflects ourselves perfectly.
Every planet placed in the 7th house gives a strong desire for a one to one binding with someone who matches your energy. This can be your business partner who matches your business energy. Or your spouse who matches your energy in the home. And these bindings are long term commitments which are recognised socially, legally, morally, culturally etc. The 7th is our capacity to get into such interactions with others. And also the nature of the ‘blanks’ in our personality that we wish to fill by interacting with others. Thus the 7th shows the type of the other that we wish to attract in our life.
I have observed that a well placed Moon in the 7th grants a good relationship on the personal level. In my opinion, this is the best option for a planet in the 7th. The relationship moves as per the needs of the two involved. There is some sort of a nurturing role in this marriage which feels good to the minds of both. In time, there may be a reduction in the passion that the husband and wife feel for each other. (The wild passion that movies show is anyways not quite realistic in real life.) Here the relationship remains cozy, comfortable, sustainable and helps both of them over a lifetime. It has a genuinely feel good factor that lasts. The children, parents in laws etc are good, supportive, comfortable etc.
Jupiter in the 7th is also another good option. But here do examine the role of Jupiter in that individual chart. If he is a functional benefic then yes, this Jupiter will grant a sustained marriage partnership. There will be occasional bouts of philosophising and one of the two will try to project himself/ herself as the wise elder. But their life together will be good. The children will be good, the parents and parents in laws both will support. The couple will have a good social image and they will participate in all the social events etc as expected in their culture /traditions. However if Jupiter is a functional malefic then check if there are any benefics who are additionally supporting the 7th house or its lord. Do not depend on just this Jupiter to grant a happy married life. Jupiter when malefic gives a very typical result (post here). This person should try understand this concept and learn to manage his/ her Jupiter for a more settled married life.
Then Sun in the 7th grants a spouse who is more self centred and the partnership thus has an underlying imbalance. This is also the maran karak sthan (post here) for the Sun so he does not give very auspicious results here. There is always an emotional distance. Personally, I consider the Sun in the 7th as an average position for marital happiness.
Mercury in the 7th is also an average position as he grants a superficiality in relationships. Mercury is either too intellectual or he is too frivolous or prone to quarrelling, nit picking and bickering. The general mercurial mindset is not very conducive for a long term equitable relationship. He wants change, does not prefer being responsible and generally he wants a teammate more than a partner. Try to understand this when analysing your Mercury in the 7th.
Then Venus in the 7th should technically give a perfect relationship as Venus is the natural ruler of the 7th house. But in real life I have observed that in the 7th he gives an overly sensuous nature. The personality is more attracted to the superficial things, like going out, dates, the perfect romance as is shown in movies, then its all about clothes, cosmetics, accessories, the visual and perhaps the ‘show off’ things etc. The person who has this Venus talks a lot about marriage etc but when the actual event occurs he feels the responsibility to be more tiring than he / she had expected.
Mars in the 7th is a powerful position. The personality is highly energised and outgoing. This Mars, if channelised properly can give a powerful marriage partner. If the two can work together they can achieve something unique. But channeling such a Mars needs a powerful personality (birth Moon, ascendant lord/sign), and an understanding of the energy involved. I have observed that this Mars often leads to conflicts in personal life. The partners compete with each other! Ideally they should work together as a unit and compete against the outside world but this rarely happens. And this often results in severe conflicts in the married life.
Saturn in the 7th is a restrictive influence. He often leads to detachment in some way or the other. This can at its mildest mean a ‘falling out of love’ but still living together for the society or children. There is a sense of duty and responsibility and so the marriage does survive. But I have seen that Saturn connected to the 7th in any way, gives separation in some way or the other. Most commonly this can mean that one of the two is in a job which requires separation, eg pilots, traders, soldiers, etc, people who have to live away for extended periods for their duty. This ‘duty’ motif is very strong in these marriages. Rarely I have seen this Saturn giving divorces. This happens only when there are additional malefic influences on this Saturn. As Saturn alone in the 7th generally will not want to go against the societal norms. But yes, this can give death of the spouse if the spouse has longevity issues in the personal chart.
Rahu or Ketu if placed alone in the 7th alone is generally not conducive to a happy married life. They generally cause problems on the psychic levels. In the very least they can cause undiagnosable psychological issues which affect marital happiness. If they are with some other planet then they can potentially spoil these too, unless there are some other mitigating factors. This is a subjective result and will manifest in the material life depending on the other planets involved and the 7th lord.
If you do not have a planet in the 7th, then read this post on interpreting empty houses in the chart.
And if you have a planet in the 7th house then remember that these are your missing things. You desire them to complete yourself in some way. So you will choose a partner who is able to give you this energy. But it is not possible that your partner will be always be able to do this for you. Dasha periods and transits always bring in change. So rather than being disappointed in your partner, look for the activities connected to this planet and do them yourself. This way you can satisfy the planet’s energy and also live a comfortable and happy married life. Marriage does not mean that you expect your spouse to give you everything all the time. This is a very unrealistic expectation which has been created in our minds by the movies. Learn to be self dependant in this aspect of life also.
(There was a question thus this short post.)
Dr. Tejaswini Arvind Patil
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