Men are men and women are women

Today I went for a cultural fest in the town where I live. There was a dance and drama troupe which performed 3 dances and 1 short drama. Excellent performances all of them. But there was one performer who amazed me, the likes of which I have never seen in my life and probably never will again. The best female dancer who also performed a solo dance as female was in fact a young man! He was much more graceful than all the other female dancers and most importantly felt feminine. He was so immersed in his performance as a female dancer that he was also giving out the energies of a female in his aura. It was beyond belief, but auras do not lie. Then I saw him perform as a dashing young man in a male role in the drama and again his immersion was so complete that he was the perfect example of masculinity. I met him after his performance to congratulate him and to see his aura when he was not acting. A simple clear aura of a normal healthy young man with his girlfriend in tow.

Men are men and women are women

That got me thinking, men and women are fundamentally different, never can be compared and should not be compared ever.

Men are generally more selfless when it comes to giving to the Society at large. Men are protective of the entire society as such. Men are capable of immersing themselves, even destroying themselves in the greater interests of the society. They can do anything required for the greater interests of the group, rather than their own personal family. The men are not centred around their personal selves or the children that they father. They are centred around the society they live in. The physically robust male did not have to rely on ego games and selfishness to survive. Instead they could afford to spend some of their strength in protecting persons not related to them by blood. This mindset is very deep and the core of maleness, protect the group and the individual is taken care of automatically. If a few individuals die it does not matter because the group survives. Probably this is connected to their XY DNA structure.

So a man will generally be deeply more comfortable performing activities related to greater good of the group. Abstract concepts like patriotism, long term tactics, strategies  appeal more to the male mindset. A man would be a better spymaster than a woman. And you cannot expect a man to look after the tiny things around the house.

Anonymous soldiers and even more anonymous spies and those charismatic men who lead their nations often at great personal losses are just this example. A great leader will be a man and most often a single man. He may have a family but for such a man the nation will always be more important. A Man will always be for the protection of the Society. This is a general observation.

It is in the genes. This is the evolutionary trajectory and cannot be altered by a couple of feminist generations and media shouting.

Men are men and women are women

Now what about Women?

A woman is generally selfless only when it comes to her own children, her own blood. Only then. She is physically weak comparatively so has developed different survival mechanisms for herself and her offspring. She is psychologically stronger. She has more ego and more selfishness. These two traits are linked to her survival during evolutionary history. A woman is extremely vulnerable at several points of her life eg during the 5 days of the monthly cycle, during pregnancy, during rearing a small child, and has had to learn to play mind games just for survival.

A woman always remains aware of her individuality and cannot immerse herself deeply for anything other than her children/herself. In fact women are not so deeply connected to their their husbands even. If they find a better care giver for themselves and their children they can shift. A woman’s focus is on her and her children’s individual survival. She can do anything for this. She has a narrower mindset which limits itself to herself and her bloodline. Women are in this do not think much of the larger interests of the society. But she is extraordinarily aware of the tiniest things in the house, eg the sugar in the kitchen is finished, there is dust under the bed, the curtains need airing etc.

A woman will generally feel more satisfied when she does something for the good of her children/herself. She is more practical and survival oriented. She will prefer dealing with immediate issues rather than long term tactical strategies.

This is micro level priority and may be linked to the presence of XX DNA structures of a woman. Again this is a general observation.

This post is not for blaming either of the sexes. This is how they are on a deep level subconsciously and they have become this over millions of years of evolution. Men manage the society and women manage the family and both these functions are equally important. There cannot be a vibrant society without families and there can be no safe families without a society existing over them. And at the core of both is the individual.

One interesting example, Chefs or people who cook for village fests, weddings and in large volumes are almost always men. Women on the other hand generally cook just for their personal families. It is not about the taste or efforts, it is linked to the ability to “give”. Women can better “give” to their families. Men can better “give” to large groups / society.

And with due apology to both men and women, I am neither a feminist or a chauvinist. This is my observation and my experience. Both men and women exist so that the macro and micro levels are both taken care of. Both are different and both are essential. And neither can be compared to the other.

And that young man today, whose performance triggered this post. I will always remember him, his aura in a female role was feminine, as a male role was masculine and when I met him he was not even aware of the level to which he had immersed himself in his roles. An extraordinary performance indeed.

Men are men and women are women

2 thoughts on “Men are men and women are women

  1. Annaresh March 15, 2020 / 5:11 pm

    This is such an insightful article. However I have my own questions that I have always been pondering over. If this is what it is, what about the ones addressed as ‘Tritiya Prakruti’ in Indian culture? What is the reason for their existence? Is it like there is a dissonance between the soul and the body? Where do they fall in society and in their role? Is it the same as same sex relationships or do they have a different purpose – how are they different? Sometimes I look at older rishis and gurus condemning them but the question arises about why the soul would choose it in the first place. Is it like a trial or cleansing that is needed to ‘rid’ them of such things as suggested by them? How are they different energetically? Are they the same as ‘Kinnar’? Whyis the pull towards the same sex when as a race you’re meant to procreate and lead the generation further?
    Sorry for this barrage of questions but they have never been sufficiently answered by any source I have encountered so far. I hope to know more from you. I remember reading somewhere on the blog that you’d write an article about them later since they’re very different energetically.


    • astrologerbydefault March 15, 2020 / 11:10 pm

      Hi there,

      ‘Gender’ can be a mind-set but ‘biological sex’ is reality.
      You are biologically either a man or a woman or a neuter.
      No other option.

      The ‘third biological sex’, or ’neuter biological sex’ is extremely rare.
      Genetic aberrations which lead to syndromes or physical/mental instability are not ‘neuter sex’.

      If the horoscope is good, ie crucial houses are not afflicted by malefics, then the person’s biological sex and gender is the same. We Indians maintain this auspiciousness by doing our regular pujas/ mantra jaap /homa, etc.
      Especially the mantras due for the departed souls are essential in this.
      These activities sustain our physical, mental, emotional etc health and also our children’s/lineage’s health.
      If there are afflictions in crucial houses of the chart, then there are problems with the concept of ‘gender’ which can then differ from the biological sex. Such children are born in families with inauspicious karma from their past ancestors. Or these negative karma are from these peoples own past lives. Anyways, their damaged charts ensure that their family line dies out.
      You can check their charts if you have any in your study sample. You will see clear-cut patterns in the D1 as well as the D9, the D7 will be damaged too. these patterns are linked to Rahu/Ketu, 1-5-9 house, 8-12 houses and will repeat in the detailed divisional charts.
      And if you can see auras, do so, but after seeing their auras remember to cord-cut so that you do not suffer because of your brief aural-interaction.
      If there are no normal children or no DNA passed on to the next generation it is the end of the lineage. This is a curse in the individual horoscope. Or if someone has seriously cursed a family, it dies out. I will not go into all that. I do not write about ‘gender’.

      Now about the ‘neuter sex’, it has absolutely nothing to do with the physical activity.
      Most Hijda/Chhaka, who are seen on the streets harassing people are frauds. There can never be so many neuter sex individuals born at a time. It is energetically impossible.
      I had a school-mate who left school suddenly when 11yrs or so. After almost 25yrs I met him, he is a genuine neuter sex. and that was why he had left school then. I remembered him from back then as a child and now his this neutral-ness. It was an eye-opener. The energy of these individuals is very different.
      I have seen just 2 such individuals in my life time. The real few individuals who understand their destiny are very much into Chhinamasta sadhana. She is a Devi of the Dash-mahavidya. If you ever meet such a person you can understand what this means. These persons are the ones who can curse or bless with their words. You won’t find them harassing people for money. They are very unique. They are here in this neuter form for a very good reason, they are internally very indifferent to the matters of the world. They are the observers/Sakshi in the real sense so have a very fast track to karma resolution and Moksh. No real Guru will condemn a neuter sex individual.

      The neuter sex is called ’Kinnar’ in Hindi in recent times.
      But actually ‘Kinnar’ is a type of beings like, Yaksha, Gandharva, Rakshas etc.
      Our human bodies are made of the 5 mahabhoot, their bodies do not have all the 5, eg Yaksha have Agni-dominated bodies.
      You can see these other classes of beings in areas where humans do not live, ie in high Himalayas etc. There are several places here where if people go out on certain times, they go insane. There are places named after these beings, temples built by them still exist.
      So neuter sex is technically not a Kinnar.

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