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  1. Hi there Guru – ref to discourses by Atma jnyani Mahapurush Granth – Ved Vedant Bhagvat Gita

  2. Observer on Forum

    Namaste Ma’am, Often when hearing the spiritual discourses or reading the commentaries on standard Granth. It is natural for our…

  3. Hello, I am glad this discussion has happened. I learnt Sudarshan Kriya decades ago. Our teacher made us give him…

  4. L on Forum

    Ma’am please do reply to this, can women workshop God, go to the temple and fast during their periods? If…

  5. Hi Madam, Totally agree with your opinion SKY as they call it commonly. It exceeds the repititions and depth of…

  6. Hi dear, From one moon ketu to another, chin up! Mental health professionals will help for sure. The best way…

  7. Hello Mr/Ms INQUIRER, I would like to convey my perception as per my limited knowledge if ma’am permits it.. if…

  8. Pathfinder on Forum

    Heartfelt gratitude Ma’am🙏 Appreciate your precious words.

  9. Hi there Daily practice. 10mins sincerely in the morning /evening and not as a task, u r not a machine.…

  10. Hi there You had asked this Q earlier also. First and foremost, do consult a medical professional for getting out…

  11. Pathfinder on Forum

    Namaste Ma’am, warm wishes on Navratri. I would request you to hide all the content I am writing after this.…

  12. Hi there It is a story fr regular people. But there are other ways of ‘translating’ it as Sanskrit has…

  13. Inquirer on Forum

    Dear Tejaswini Ji: This is an incredible blog with a wealth of insights. Thank you for writing and sharing your…

  14. Reader on Forum

    Hi madam and readers, Came across this video by Samarpit bhai https://youtu.be/MyzEz9Glbx4 What’s the least you can do, he has…

  15. reader on Forum

    Hi Madam, in the 108 names of devi, the last line translation is as below when it is bhaumavati amavsya…

  16. reader on Forum

    Hi Madam, you have mentioned that the true power of navvarna and eventually saptshati is possible only if 9 lac…

  17. reader on Forum

    yes, got it and downloaded, thanks

  18. Sandeep on Forum

    Just gratitude, rest you of course know astrally, please support as much as willing

  19. Hi there of course i am ok with interacting with people! i interact with at least 100 different persons in…

  20. Sujith on Forum

    Ok ma’am.. Thank you for guidance..🙏

  21. Hi there the technical definition of ‘yogi’ is something different. so i wll use the word ‘atmajnyani mahapurush’ or ‘jivanmukt’.…

  22. Reader on Forum

    Hi Madam, Sorry that my comments made you angry/irritated you. I thought about it more and remembered the example of…

  23. Sujith on Forum

    Namaste Ma’am… I have heard Manas dont exist in Yogis.. I did also read somewhere…Manas dies in such Yogis and…

  24. Hemangini on Forum

    Dear Tejaswinima’m , Thanks a lot for the guidance. I will consult the purohit brahmin for the same. Regards and…

  25. Hayls on Forum

    Hi, I recently ( over the past 8-9 months) developed a mole/mark under the ring finger of my right hand…

  26. sunny on Forum

    Hello ma’am, Want to read Saptashati in this navratra. There are 13 adhyay, so all these supposed to be read…

  27. Hi there Whenever you do any Vedic karma, ie the nitya karma, naimittik karma, Smarta karma, Anushthans, pujas, etc you…

  28. Sameer on Forum

    Hello! Can you please share the full version of the ‘chittashudhi…’ mantra? Where is it from? Would be very helpful.…

  29. Hi there i do not encourage any personal contact with me. i do not appreciate personal comments on me. just…

  30. Hi there If you are married then your husband can do it. (eg my parents had gone to Brahmakapal and…

  31. Nagarathna on Forum

    Great Answer! Thanks

  32. reader on Forum

    Hi Madam, thanks for reply. I can totally relate with this statement “once you start understanding the subtle vastness of…

  33. Hemangini on Forum

    Dear Tejaswinima’m, My father passed away a couple of years ago and there was no antyeshti done by brother/s. Only…

  34. Many thanks Tejaswinima’m for this wonderful article and I wholeheartedly agree with your perspective on milk. Although grass fed organic…

  35. Hi there what do you mean by ‘individualistic’? my personality has certainly not ‘dissolved’. my concepts are very clear. i…

  36. reader on Forum

    Hi Madam, I am curious about two things in particular 1) if a person becomes more and more spiritual then,…

  37. Hi there I have said this several times and in the kindest way possible that I do not interact with…

  38. LP on Forum

    What is the meaning of angel nos? Why do I keep seeing 111, 222, 555?

  39. Hi there wheat was grown in limited quantities but only as cattle feed. my grandmother used to say that serving…

  40. S on Forum

    Namaste Respected Madam, Deep gratitude for whatever it is that propelled you to make the decision of writing this blog.…

  41. Seeker on Forum

    Ma’am, 1. What is the energy significance of Tamarind? As a tree, it is connected to negative stuff, but as…

  42. Viju on Forum

    Dearest Tejaswini ji, Am so happy and grateful that you went ahead and shared your treasure of knowledge in this…

  43. Hemangini on Forum

    … and we are so grateful to Devi Saraswati to inspire you to write this blog ! It helped so…

  44. Hi there Thank u 🙂 i registered this domain 5yrs ago, but i actually started writing 4yrs ago. it took…

  45. Hi there wrote on combustion – combustion adds selfishness also on badhak – these things cause tangles in life also…

  46. Viju on Forum

    Hi, You can get the ones by Uma Mohan if you search in Google. Add the words “mp3 download” in…

  47. Hello mam.. Five years ago on this day, you started this amazing knowledge portal.. 🎉🤩😍 And seriously thank you so…

  48. Prasenjeet on Forum

    Namaskar ma’am. What does combust badhak planet signify? If placed in 8th house is it’s effect less as malefic in…

  49. reader on Forum

    Hi Madam and readers, Anyone knows where the mp3 versions of shreesukt and Ashta-Laxmi stotra mentioned in below article can…

  50. Shiva on Forum

    Namaskar mam I am more what my navamsa indicates than D1.Although some placements of D 1 makes sense but when…

  51. Rasaam on Forum

    About your article on narcissite. I am a doctor, specialist in psychosomatic medicine and emotional trauma. I have maintained a…

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  1. Neel September 12, 2022 / 10:11 pm

    Ma’am, you had a article on synastry.. I had this(Ketu-Venus) with a Guru(not spiritual), she taught me and I excelled in her class. I learnt so much more than just her subject and remember her very fondly.
    It has been 4-5 years now but her absence is still felt everyday. I want to spend more time in her guidance, only now it is not possible as I have already passed out from that institute.
    Why am I feeling it soo strongly? I don’t remember anyone that fondly and whenever I text her(teacher’s day) my eyes fill with tears reading her reply. She also replies very nice(you can tell as it is not the standard thank you but a rather 4-5 line message on how I was a sincere student).
    Will I ever get an opportunity to be in touch with her(more than this yearly message)? She feels different, I am happy and smiling like a little child around her.
    I am sure if my questions make sense but I miss her and intent to have a more regular form of communication with her but she is mostly busy with work and doesn’t really enjoy talking like that.
    Can you please help me here? Is that period over or can come again?

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    • astrologerbydefault September 13, 2022 / 2:42 pm

      Hi there
      she was your teacher and that function is over, 4-5 yrs ago.
      from her point of view you are a ex-student. and if she does not have the time or inclination to continue teaching you out of the regular syllabus then you too should accept that.

      i do not advocate living the past, however pleasant it may have been.
      doing so drains the precious energy of the present moment and also affects the future.

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      • Neel September 13, 2022 / 8:29 pm

        Thanks!
        But it would be fine if I continue to wish her every year and at times remember those days, right?
        She is kind of like you(Idk you but the little sense I have from your writing style).

        This kind of stuff always makes me believe in past lives, how we feel so connected to someone from past while being disconnect from so many in the present.
        Regards :))

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    • Viju September 14, 2022 / 1:09 am

      Hello Neel,

      I can relate to your experience very much! This kind of need to be with and communicate I have experienced with 2 persons – one was my reiki master and the other was a very good friend. Both were much older to me. I loved spending time with them because we used to discuss on various spiritual and esoteric topics. I had completed my graduation then, was doing further studies, had joined a meditation group and was planning to get attuned to Reiki and then did it. It was a beautiful time of my life in terms of spirituality. I was led by the Universe to study so many interesting things (I am not referring to the academic studies which I was also pursuing), had many “coincidences” and spiritual experiences. With these 2 persons I had several coincidences and learnings, we seemed to trigger these in each other. Unfortunately our interactions lasted only for 3-4 years. My Reiki Master got preoccupied with some problems for which I couldn’t help much at that time. And within some months we were not in touch. I never like to go after someone who does not want to communicate with me or be with me because I believe in free will. At the same time emotionally I deeply missed our conversations. My other friend moved to settle in another state and we are in touch through Whatsapp. But there are no calls, which I would have liked. These were people with whom it was very difficult for me to distance myself from but had to – they fulfilled a spiritual need that nobody could fulfill. It was a tough lesson to learn to let go, which is something that did not come easily to me in those days. For past many years there is no one in my circle, including family members with whom I can discuss spiritual, esoteric topics (That’s one reason I utterly love and cherish this blog♥️). But that hasn’t stopped the learning or the spiritual experiences from happening. I think we have to stop seeking to meet our needs from others and instead look within ourselves.

      Tejaswini ji is absolutely right when she says there is no point in living in past, however good it was. It only makes you more sad, wastes your energy and does not achieve anything. You can try taking the Bach Flower Essence ‘Honeysuckle’ – it will help heal your emotions. Add 2 drops in your glass of water and drink it. Take it for 15-30 days, till whenever you stop brooding over old times. Bach Flower essences are just flower essences, they have no side effects. You can get them in any shops that sell homeopathic medicines. Buy it in a drop bottle container so that it is easy to pour it in drops. Please note that adding more drops of a flower essence in water doesn’t mean better or quicker results – flower essences don’t work that way! So just add 2-3 drops in your glass or jug of water and drink them.

      Best regards

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      • astrologerbydefault September 14, 2022 / 8:18 am

        Hi there
        The pics of the flowers also work and in a pinch you can write the name of the flower on a paper and keep it in yr pocket.
        The system is very effective for emotional issues.

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      • Neel September 14, 2022 / 3:47 pm

        Hey Viju, thanks!
        In my defense, she was worth brooding hahaha!

        Will try these remedies, thanks to you and Tejaswini ji 🙂

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      • Viju September 14, 2022 / 11:28 pm

        Namaste,

        Neel, understand the feeling😉 Been there done that. But don’t stay in that brooding state for too long, more so if you have a tendency to brood!

        Tejaswini ji, you are an absolute treasure ♥️ That one sentence you wrote is priceless♥️ I had never heard about this tip before! And I had read about Bach flower remedies quite a lot in the past. (This was after I did Reiki-1). And I have used some of those essences for myself and my pets in the past – by adding few drops in drinking water. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏🏻♥️

        Lots of love and gratitude

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  2. NT September 12, 2022 / 10:27 pm

    Hi Madam,
    I have a questions regarding your post on the “giving away” with awareness what Ketu signifies for your chart.
    https://psychologicallyastrology.com/2021/08/15/ketu-your-instinct-is-the-perfect-remedy/

    I understand (and intensely experience myself) that there is an inherent apathy, lack of interest associated with the house that Ketu is placed in. But in remedies you suggest to somehow challenge this lack of interest in these aspects and to do sort of “opposite” of what the natural instinct is.
    I do not understand why/how this satisfies Ketu (as it is being/doing opposite of what HE is trying to make us do by his specific placement). Could you kindly explain and point out what I seem to be missing. For example, my Ketu in 11th house (Aquarius), I have never been interested in friends, social networks, anything social since childhood although I am fully capable of making friends and being actively involved in a flourishing social life if required (have done it off and on, but never willingly maintain for long, because I have no genuine interest). I have no elder sibling. From the advise you have given, I am interpreting that I should be actively trying to maintain social interactions/networks/ friendships in my life, to satisfy / balance influence of Ketu. I am not clear on this part…is it not that Ketu’s influence “wants” me to remain unsocial? so would not going against that displease him? To clarify, I am very happy and not lonely in any way…I am very spiritual and meditate, that is the main central focus of my life since childhood. Thank you for anything you can say to resolve my understanding in this regard. In case it helps you to understand my question better, my 5th house is crowded (with Sun, Jupiter, Venus, Saturn and Rahu). Do I really have to maintain superficial friendships (even though I am least interested) to best manage this placement? Thank you so much for your time!

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    • astrologerbydefault September 13, 2022 / 2:44 pm

      Hi there
      if you are oriented towards the inner world then yes you do not have to do anything.

      but if you are required to live a reasonably well balanced life in the society, the you have to do it.

      generally these two are mutually exclusive.
      so choose.

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      • NT September 13, 2022 / 9:20 pm

        Thank you for your answer! I see what you mean. I would much rather invest my time in meditating/reading anything spiritual which gives me genuine happiness, than investing my time and energy into cultivating friendships and social networks.
        But when I asked the question I was concerned if this imbalance would also affect all “gains” in general including spiritual gains (in addition to the social/friends aspect signified by the 11th house) and affect multiple other planets in the 5th house (so basically affecting many different aspects of my life through Ketu’s influence on 5 other planets), to address that/manage that better, I wondered if I would need to follow what you have suggested in the post about balancing Ketu’s “giving away with awareness”.
        Your reply seems to indicate that I need not bother doing anything specific (against my natural instincts) to balance Ketu’s influence, if inner life is what I choose (which I do). Thank you!

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  3. Reader September 13, 2022 / 7:36 pm

    Hi Madam,

    There are 2 days when we perform the yearly shraddha of departed people, once on the same tithi in pitru paksha and once of actual kshay tithi as per lunar month, when the death occurred ( which is not in pitru paksha). Now i can’t attend it on both days, so which one among these is best one?

    Thanks

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  4. KP September 13, 2022 / 11:09 pm

    Hello Mam-
    Yesterday night I had a dream where I saw a huge King Cobra looking at me from a distance. In my dream, I wanted to share this information with my brother. As I stepped out, there were several really long snakes in the road and a black one bit me. I actually ‘felt’ a sensation in my leg and woke up.
    Because I have pitru dosha in my kundli, I usually always offer my respects to the Pitru devatas during my daily puja during the Pitru paksha days. But this time I forgot and so I think maybe this was a reminder. Am I interpreting this correctly?

    Regards and thank you.

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      • KP September 14, 2022 / 10:13 pm

        Thank you, will do.

        Regards.

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  5. Sandeep September 14, 2022 / 12:56 pm

    Waiting for your take on the current retrograde season.

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  6. Simran September 14, 2022 / 9:45 pm

    Namaste dear Tejaswini, i listened to your Tantrokt Ratri Sukta in this link

    https://psychologicallyastrology.com/2018/12/27/the-story-of-hreeng/

    Please tell me whose the singer and where can I get the you tube version of it, it’s just sooo beautiful, sweet and melodious.

    Also of the divine musicals in this link https://psychologicallyastrology.com/2020/02/20/the-sure-shot-solution-to-prosperity/

    And thankyou for sharing such awesome, soul-uplifting renditions. 🙏

    Regards!

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      • Simran September 15, 2022 / 9:58 am

        Thankyou and regards!🙏🙏

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  7. S September 15, 2022 / 11:01 am

    Namaste Madam,

    Does the efficiency of Bach remedies reduce if we just rub the essence on pulse points instead of adding them to the drinking water?

    Much Regards

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  8. Sujith September 15, 2022 / 7:56 pm

    Namaste Ma’am..

    I have heard about “Lagna Shuddhi” in Astrology..
    And..it says Bhairavi in Dasa mahavidya linked to Lagna shuddhi..
    What it means(shuddhi of lagna)..?
    How lagna can be purified..?
    Why Perticular Devi linked to it..

    Plz ma’am..Can you clarify about this unknown information

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    • astrologerbydefault September 15, 2022 / 8:45 pm

      Hi there
      common meaning is to ensure that the asc deg chosen for an auspicious activity is perfect.
      it is used to decide on the best muhurt esp for marriages.

      it is also the process by which the asc degree is refined to the greatest precision. fr this ideally the time/date/location of conception is necessary.
      otherwise you have to go with the more tedious method of tallying the events from the past and with the divisional charts.

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  9. Rasaam September 18, 2022 / 6:27 pm

    About your article on narcissite.

    I am a doctor, specialist in psychosomatic medicine and emotional trauma. I have maintained a relationship with a woman with narcissistic and borderline personality, whom I have tried to help her by all means.

    I began to deepen my study in Jyotish to try to better understand her personality and I discovered many elements in her birth chart that confirmed her psychological diagnosis, from my modest knowledge:

    Ascendant in Leo. Sun in the 9th house, exalted, and with a shadbala of 1.98, it is the strongest planet and is its atmakaraka. Saturn debilitated in house 9 to 20 degrees from the Sun. Moon in 8th house, waning, at 9 degrees from Rahu and 5 degrees from Venus, which is exalted in Pisces. Jupiter, retrograde, in the 2nd house, at 3 degrees of Ketu and aspecting the 8th house. Mars retrograde (yogakaraka) in the 4th house and aspecting Mercury in the 10th house.

    In her Navamsha, Ascendant Scorpio with the Moon in the 1st house, debilitated. Sun Venus in the 2nd house, 16 degrees apart, aspected by Mercury and Saturn in the 8th house (6 degrees between them). Mars retrograde and Jupiter retrograde house 3 (8 degrees apart). Rahu in 10th house, Leo.

    Mahadasa de Sun Venus from February 2022. Since the transits of April (Rahu over his Sun in Aries, Jupiter in the 1st house from the moon and Saturn in Aquarius, the first phase of his Sade Sati, in the 7th house from her Ascendant), She has begun an escalation of emotional dysregulation, egocentrism, confusion, handling, accusation, devaluation … which has finally ended with the breakup of our relationship of 5 years.

    Thank you very much for your time and your wonderful blog.

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  10. Shiva September 19, 2022 / 2:34 am

    Namaskar mam
    I am more what my navamsa indicates than D1.Although some placements of D 1 makes sense but when I read your posts on planets in a house and compare with my navamsa the result is exact.
    Can you say something about this?

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    • Viju September 20, 2022 / 11:14 pm

      Hi,

      You can get the ones by Uma Mohan if you search in Google. Add the words “mp3 download” in your keyword search.

      Goodluck!

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      • reader September 26, 2022 / 12:41 am

        yes, got it and downloaded, thanks

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  11. Prasenjeet September 20, 2022 / 10:02 pm

    Namaskar ma’am.
    What does combust badhak planet signify?
    If placed in 8th house is it’s effect less as malefic in malefic house is good?

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    • astrologerbydefault September 21, 2022 / 11:16 am

      Hi there
      wrote on combustion – combustion adds selfishness
      also on badhak – these things cause tangles in life
      also on vipreet raj yog – malefics in dushamsthan actually help

      read those posts, use the index

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  12. Gratitude September 20, 2022 / 10:15 pm

    Hello mam..

    Five years ago on this day, you started this
    amazing knowledge portal.. 🎉🤩😍

    And seriously thank you so much for this thought and the most beautiful thing is you wanted to write this when you were so young not at all after retirement and all..
    Honestly you are dedicating the most valuable days for us.. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

    And Congratulations to five years filled with so many memories and many more to come..😍😍😍😍🤩🤩🤩🥳🥳🎉🎉

    Just love to hear a few words from you on this special day..✨😍😍😍😍😍

    Liked by 1 person

    • astrologerbydefault September 21, 2022 / 11:19 am

      Hi there
      Thank u 🙂
      i registered this domain 5yrs ago, but i actually started writing 4yrs ago.
      it took me a whole year after registering to decide if i wanted to do this or not.

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      • Hemangini September 21, 2022 / 12:45 pm

        … and we are so grateful to Devi Saraswati to inspire you to write this blog ! It helped so many hapless people like me and gave them a new vision !

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      • Viju September 21, 2022 / 5:39 pm

        Dearest Tejaswini ji,

        Am so happy and grateful that you went ahead and shared your treasure of knowledge in this blog🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️ Eagerly looking forward to reading more of your posts🙂 You have changed mine and many lives for the better!

        It would have been a great fortune for me to have met you and known you. But learning from you through this blog is also a blessing 🙏🏻

        🙏🏻गुरु साक्षात परब्रह्मा तस्मै श्रीगुरवे नमः।। 🙏🏻

        Lots of love and gratitude

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  13. Seeker September 21, 2022 / 6:31 pm

    Ma’am,

    1. What is the energy significance of Tamarind? As a tree, it is connected to negative stuff, but as a fruit/pulp it is considered healthy and with positive benefits in cooking?

    2. Rice is said to be wholesome only when the Sun is out, after sunset, sadhakas avoid it as it turns into ‘soma’, intoxicates, induces sleep if eaten at night, except for its milder versions like idli, dosa. I also noticed that ‘soma’ has connections to moon. Couldn’t help wondering if that was the reason.

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  14. S September 22, 2022 / 10:29 am

    Namaste Respected Madam,

    Deep gratitude for whatever it is that propelled you to make the decision of writing this blog. You have touched so many lives in a positive way! I also came here to ask a similar question about rice and wheat since they are our staple food. Now I’m rethinking if they were ever our staple food. From your comment I’m guessing not. We don’t have any people who own cultivable land. Would you be kind to let us know what was our staple foods and what did we cultivate centuries ? Did we subsist on a variety of millets? the so-called ancient grains?

    Thank you Ma’m.

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    • astrologerbydefault September 22, 2022 / 1:01 pm

      Hi there
      wheat was grown in limited quantities but only as cattle feed.
      my grandmother used to say that serving wheat chapatis was considered to be an insult.
      our staples were jowar in summer and bajra in winter, ‘Bhakari’ in Marathi, eaten with ghee of desi cow milk.
      and millets.
      our nation is majorly dryland and suitable for millets.
      rice and wheat are not our staple foods. rice requires too much water and wheat needs too much of fertiliser. plus both are very heavy to digest.

      Recently i met with a very senior and very learned couple from TN, and they were suffering from several health issues. the root cause was all that rice eaten all the time for a lifetime. but that Auntie recognised barnyard millet and said that when she was a child her mother used to make several dishes with this.

      we did not ‘subsist’ on millets.
      there are several delicious recipes for millets including idli, dosa, vada, thalipeeth, pulao, upma, and even kheer with millets.

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  15. Gratitude September 22, 2022 / 2:50 pm

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    • astrologerbydefault September 22, 2022 / 7:01 pm

      Hi there
      I have said this several times and in the kindest way possible that I do not interact with anyone on a one to one basis.
      There is a very typical reason for this rule and I will not change it for anyone.

      And I have stressed this several times that I, as in the individual, am not important.
      The message is important, which I have written in depth in this blog. I can answer genuine questions but only through the blog. I am not seeking friends or clients or any sort of one to one connections via this blog. I am very busy in my life and I really have no time for this blog or the people who read it/ ask questions but still I try because of my Guru’s ajnya, and only for that, no other reason. Only for passing on what he has taught. Nothing more than that.

      I am a student of pure Vedanta. I use … चित्तशुद्धि ममोपात्त समस्त दुरितक्षयद्वारा श्री परमेश्वर प्रॆत्यर्थम् ज्ञान वैराग्य सिद्धर्थ्यं कररष्ये .. as my Sankalp. And not … धान्यम् धनम् पशुं बहुपुत्रलाभम् शत संवत्ससरम् दीर्घं आयुः etc etc ..

      So this is again in the kindest way possible. Do not let your Mind run away with you. If you do you will not be able to move ahead on your spiritual path.
      Think of your own Self, do your Sadhana.

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      • reader September 22, 2022 / 7:25 pm

        Hi Madam,

        I am curious about two things in particular
        1)
        if a person becomes more and more spiritual then, does he also become less and less individualistic? Meaning the one-one relationships do not interest that person anymore?
        Like the person’s personality/traits get dissolved and he/she is not a person anymore but more of a tatwa or a quality or someone working on autopilot, like e.g. satwikta etc . You too have mentioned this via various comments that you have programmed yourself.
        I have heard similar thought process through a video by some of religious people too, hence was curious.

        if it is so, then wouldn’t the person’s family life be ruined? or then his family members will also be of similar category? means they could related with this person?
        2) i was also thinking of posting similar comment like this person. that some of the readers of this blog are very much curious about you, as a person, and would like to meet you if you permit, not one-one basis but as a group. Not for readings of any sort or anything, but just for the sake of curiosity. will it be possible anytime?
        would be very very very grateful

        thanks

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      • astrologerbydefault September 22, 2022 / 9:29 pm

        Hi there
        what do you mean by ‘individualistic’?

        my personality has certainly not ‘dissolved’. my concepts are very clear.
        i am not interested in one-one interactions with random people.
        there are only 4 people in my life who are on a similar intellectual plane as i am and with whom i can discuss things one-one
        3 are from my own family and 1 is my best friend.
        and i have a working relationship with other extended family members.

        i do not run on autopilot 🙂 i have a very clear logic, i take decisions.

        once you start understanding the subtle vastness of the Vedant, you see a strange shallowness? hollowness? in the regular people around you, which does not allow intelligent conversation or meaningful interaction.
        eg i cannot talk about movies or gossip or social chitchat. my mind does not feel inspired to do this small talk. i can if i have to, but i prefer not to.

        i am not “religious”. I follow the Vedant ie the Sanatan Dharma’s Uttar Mimansa.
        i have not ‘programmed myself’.
        my mind has been shaped by my Guru’s pravachans, all on pure Vedant.

        why should you be curious about me as a person?
        this is not good. i do not appreciate this.

        i do not meet anyone either one-one or in a group. there is no need.
        the blog already has a lot of stuff. and i answer the genuine questions posted on it
        that is enough.

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      • Nagarathna September 22, 2022 / 11:49 pm

        Great Answer! Thanks

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      • reader September 22, 2022 / 11:10 pm

        Hi Madam,

        thanks for reply.

        I can totally relate with this statement “once you start understanding the subtle vastness of the Vedant, you see a strange shallowness? hollowness? in the regular people around you, which does not allow intelligent conversation or meaningful interaction.”

        i have not read vedanta but i can feel it. the usual crowd one is surrounded with, is interested only in basic sensual needs like anna, vastra, nivara, etc. in fact the people much older than me, and close to retirement also seem engrossed in this rut, at max they are thinking what to do after retirement !

        may be the path via which i reached there is not smooth, because i had failures at professional/personal front which led to disillusionment, but i guess it doesnt matter. you can either reach this disillusionment via experiencing the success/fame/ good sides of life too much ( e.g. celebrities who had everything still were unhappy , e.g. marylyn monroe) and then realizing that there’s something beyond ( but don’t know what that is) or by failures. isn’t it?

        so when i observe the circle of people around me, i hardly found somebody in the same boat as me. people i discussed this with told me that you are just depressed because you had these kind of experiences and it is common, and you should change job/city etc and your life will be back on the track. I thought about it. i mean i can change the surroundings but i can not go back to the earlier state and be content with the usual package of good job+ good city+good spouse= happiness/satisfaction, isnt it? it’s like entropy, once increased, it can not be decreased. once you see and know the superficiality of everything, you can not undo it. even if you try, there is always part of you which has seen and known the vanity of it and wants something different/ something more/ something beyond.

        So, i dont see a role model person as such in real life. so i can not connect with anyone else in the deeper sense, like the conversations you have mentioned. it’s all superficial/working relationship, even with family members. may be because i am introverted nature and no close friends too.

        and i partly turned to spirituality, followed one person but was not satisfied as he was public image/not reachable mostly. so it was one way street. I saw/read your blog. and came to know that you have answers of everything. and it is logical to think that one can have answers only if one has actually gone through paradigm of situations which normally people go through in different lives. means only super set can know (realised/evolved person) , subsets ( different human beings/emotions etc). so i was/am curious about you. is it wrong? i dont know.
        you have seen matrix right? it’s like, i feel like agent smith, meaning i can relate with all the regular folks. it’s like different permutation and combinations of same sensual desires, i can know what moves them.
        and i feel like you are mr anderson/neo in this matrix. 😀 who has figured out the matrix and is surviving happily in this matrix.

        i know you have family and personal life so, should not bother you with such stuff. but, i see no body else, absolutely no body who i would rather want to be like. sure there are people who are good at some particular things but they cant be role models, isnt it?
        i see you as an immensely advanced aspirant ( i mean it is evident from your own comments about breath e.g. If it is 7angula, your vision will change, seeing into the past, present, future, parallel is possible now.
        you mentioned that when you meet a person, you dont see him as a person but rather in different time frames)
        so hope you are not angry if i feel like interacting 🙂
        i know you wont allow it, some other time then.
        sorry i drifted and wrote many random things,

        thanks,

        random person

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      • astrologerbydefault September 23, 2022 / 8:29 am

        Hi there
        i do not encourage any personal contact with me. i do not appreciate personal comments on me. just because i write a blog does not mean tht i have given anyone that liberty.

        and you should not want to be like me!
        that is why i have put a page on my Guru and my Guru parampara. wrote several posts on the Guru. that is the example that everyone should aim for.

        if you really want to make sense of this world or the Self then you have to read books by Adi Shankaracharya.

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      • Sameer September 23, 2022 / 12:18 pm

        Hello! Can you please share the full version of the ‘chittashudhi…’ mantra? Where is it from?

        Would be very helpful. Thank you.

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      • astrologerbydefault September 23, 2022 / 1:13 pm

        Hi there
        Whenever you do any Vedic karma, ie the nitya karma, naimittik karma, Smarta karma, Anushthans, pujas, etc you are supposed to tell the deity why you are doing this karma. This is called the Sankalp, the intention behind the action/karma that you are doing.

        There are two options for Sankalp.

        1. Material happiness – pravrutti lakshanam karma – basically attainment of Pitrulok, Dev lok or Sagun Brahma.
        If you observe your Brahmin during pujas he will start with “Jambudweepe, Bharatkhande etc…. and then come to धान्यम् धनम् पशुं बहुपुत्रलाभम् शत संवत्ससरम् दीर्घं आयुः etc etc. ie the intention/ Sankalp for wealth, prosperity, having children, living a long healthy life etc etc. he will define the fruit/karmaphal of the puja/vedic karma and the deity will grant you this at the completion of the puja.
        This is the Gruhastasharami Sankalp and we all do this very regularly.
        even when you go to temples you have to request the deity to grant you a job, or marriage or children or money etc. otherwise the deity will not know why you have come to do his/her darshan.
        you have to first ask only then you will get what you have asked for.

        2. Chittashuddhi – nivrutti lakshanam karma – if you choose this then you are on your way to the self. In short you are asking for the deity to purify your Chitta ie the very depths of your mind. In simple words you can ask the deity “to purify you in the most loving way possible”.
        This is the Sanyasashrami Sankalp.

        Karma does not give Atmajnyan. no puja no deity no anushthan no nitya karma no naimitta karma no smarta karma will give you Jnyan. these karma can only take you up to chittashuddhi.
        After chittashuddhi, you need a Guru, to prepare you to receive the Atma Jnyan and then give you the the Atma Jnyan and then you need to continue in this Atma Jnyan state and this final stage is called Jnyan Nishtha. that is the final ‘enlightenment’, mukti.

        I don’t know if this Sanskrit line is from a formal text.
        i had read it in a book long ago and tweaked the words to convey what I want.
        ममोपात्तसमस्तदुरितक्षयद्वारा श्री परमेश्वरप्रीत्यर्थं ज्ञानवैराग्यसिद्धर्थ्यं (whatever.. puja, anushthan, japa etc.. karma that I am doing) करिष्ये …
        It broadly means चित्तशुद्धि …
        समस्तदुरितक्षयद्वारा by the destruction of all the difficulties (obstacles in my natural and smooth movement towards myself), which I perceive/feel ममोपात्त, I am doing करिष्ये (this karma.. ) for achieving सिद्धर्थ्यं the pure love of the Parameshwar/ Eternal Self श्री परमेश्वरप्रीत्यर्थं and perfectly understanding the knowledge of the Self ज्ञान and achieving the ability to discard all unrealness वैराग्य .
        You can write your own words if you know Sanskrit.
        But after saying this Sankalp you cannot go back to ‘धान्यम् धनम् पशुं बहुपुत्रलाभम् शत संवत्ससरम् दीर्घं आयुः etc’ ..
        The nivruttilakshanam Sankalp once taken sincerely is the closure of the pravruttilakshana sankalp. i have asked for Jnyan and Vairagya. i cannot again ask for Ajnyan and Moha.

        Now how do you know if you are prepared for Nivrutti?
        Ask yourself these two questions and analyse your own answers.
        1. Am I am dependant on anyone outside of me for my emotional happiness?
        – The answer will be …. yes! My mom, my dad, my husband, my wife, my children, my teacher, even the guy who drove my cab to work today, my staff who was supposed to finish the assignment that I had given him a week ago, my boss and so many many more… etc all influence my emotional happiness.. or even my lipstick, or the way my dress looks on me, or the new shoes I bought or the money that I have in my bank account….. the list is endless..

        Now that you know that you depend on things outside of you for your happiness and you have accepted it, ask yourself this second Q…
        2. Am I willing to learn to depend on only my own self for my own happiness?
        – If this answer is a strong and solid ‘yes’ then you are a spiritual aspirant, otherwise you are not.

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      • Reader September 25, 2022 / 9:40 am

        Hi Madam,

        Sorry that my comments made you angry/irritated you. I thought about it more and remembered the example of cup and ocean you have given. Even if we do get the opportunity of meeting you/any other being further on the path of realisation, we wouldn’t know what to say/do, so first step has to be to increase the capacity through books you mentioned and Sadhana. We have to increase cup size. May be then later on, if we are worthy, we may get the opportunity.

        I was thinking that you are ok with interacting with people as you live in public domain because of job so are used to it.

        Now the query i had, you have mentioned that we should do the small shraddha/tarpan on sarv pitri amavsya and that too when when sun+moon are in Virgo.
        As virgo symbolises the debts we owe, so if we perform these rituals on that particular time frame it will be even more beneficial/effective. Is it the logic behind it?

        Also, the coconut to be dashed, has to be done in house or terrace of apartment is also ok?

        Thanks

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      • astrologerbydefault September 25, 2022 / 2:57 pm

        Hi there
        of course i am ok with interacting with people! i interact with at least 100 different persons in a day. i am a regular person, i work, go shopping, travel, drive etc.

        several reasons, but this is also a good one.
        break the coconut wherever you are doing the rituals/ tarpan.

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  16. LP September 22, 2022 / 5:56 pm

    What is the meaning of angel nos?
    Why do I keep seeing 111, 222, 555?

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  17. Hemangini September 22, 2022 / 11:00 pm

    Dear Tejaswinima’m,
    My father passed away a couple of years ago and there was no antyeshti done by brother/s. Only ashes were submerged after electric cremation – due to absence of belief system. It hurt me tremendously and I have tried dana etc since then, but wish to do something more on 24th or 25th Amavasya. I read post and answers about tarpana etc but it requires male relatives which is unavailable . Is there any way in which I can do some remedy…I am desperately wanting to do something and where can I turn to but you for guidance…..

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    • astrologerbydefault September 23, 2022 / 8:23 am

      Hi there
      If you are married then your husband can do it.
      (eg my parents had gone to Brahmakapal and my maternal grandfathers tarpan etc was done by my father here. it had reached him as later he came in my mom’s dreams and thanked her.)

      or if you have a genuine Brahmin, you can discuss it with him. it can be done by the brahmin on your behalf.

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      • Hemangini September 24, 2022 / 9:44 am

        Dear Tejaswinima’m ,
        Thanks a lot for the guidance. I will consult the purohit brahmin for the same.
        Regards and gratitude,
        Hemangini

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  18. sunny September 24, 2022 / 1:12 am

    Hello ma’am,

    Want to read Saptashati in this navratra. There are 13 adhyay, so all these supposed to be read everyday or what is the ideal way to read? any specific rituals/rules to be followed?

    most of these navratri days I will be away from home for work. Should this be a concern?

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      • reader September 26, 2022 / 12:48 am

        Hi Madam,

        you have mentioned that the true power of navvarna and eventually saptshati is possible only if 9 lac repititions of navvarna are done.
        So, better to start with that first from tomorrow’s auspicious day OR actual saptshati book adhyay OR both partly if possible?

        Also, if i dont have the “aasan” made as mentioned by you, then its better to first get it ready and then only begin any serious sadhana ( i mean anushthan of any mantra) right?
        Also, if i dont have any idol/photo in front of me during sadhana and i am changing places some days, then will it be compensated by intention, right?

        thanks

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  19. Hayls September 24, 2022 / 8:38 am

    Hi,

    I recently ( over the past 8-9 months) developed a mole/mark under the ring finger of my right hand and I am trying to determine what this means. I had thought that beginning spiritual practices/mantra eventually gets rid of these moles so I was concerned when this one popped up.

    Someone had previously asked about moles/marks on the palms and I believe that you had recommended a book but I can no longer find the comment. Could you please provide the name of the reference? I have a book called Astro Palmistry by Mihiracharya but the version that I have only discusses birth marks and not marks on the palms.

    Many thanks!

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  20. Sujith September 24, 2022 / 8:07 pm

    Namaste Ma’am…

    I have heard Manas dont exist in Yogis..
    I did also read somewhere…Manas dies in such Yogis and becomes still..
    What it means..
    I felt..I didn’t get it properly..

    I dont understand context behind those statements…

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    • astrologerbydefault September 25, 2022 / 9:46 am

      Hi there
      the technical definition of ‘yogi’ is something different.
      so i wll use the word ‘atmajnyani mahapurush’ or ‘jivanmukt’. at this stage of self realization you destroy the sense of the individual soul/jivatma.

      you live your life inside your Mind.
      so you destroy the Manas, and all the other tattvas of creation. these are all illusions.
      only then can you realise the Atma.

      eg you think you are fat – but no, your Sthool sharir has this property of fatness.
      you think you are feeling unhappy – but no, your sookshma sharir has this property of unhappiness
      you think that you are ignorant – but no, your karan sharir has this property of ignorance
      you think that you know – but no, the chidabhas has the property of this ‘know-ness’.. Chid-abhas is broadly the jiv portion of the jivatma.
      so by the time you reach the reach Atma you realise that there are no attributes left! you are the Self.
      as you study the vedant, you learn to assign these attributes to their proper locations and then you realise that You the Self the Atma has no attributes. this is the gist of the vedantic study. but to understand and to practice this requires a lot of effort.

      you will have to read the Vedant or books by Advaita Guru s like Adi Shankaracharya.
      if you are still at the Puran level, then first read the Mahabharat. buy the Gita press volumes.

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  21. Sujith September 25, 2022 / 1:52 pm

    Ok ma’am..

    Thank you for guidance..🙏

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  22. Sandeep September 25, 2022 / 10:32 pm

    Just gratitude, rest you of course know astrally, please support as much as willing

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  23. reader September 27, 2022 / 1:43 pm

    Hi Madam,

    in the 108 names of devi, the last line translation is as below

    when it is bhaumavati amavsya ( means falling on monday) and when the nakshatra is shatabhisha, one who writes and reads this stotra will be wealthy.
    my query is when this combination occurs generally?

    thanks

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  24. Reader September 28, 2022 / 1:25 am

    Hi madam and readers,

    Came across this video by Samarpit bhai

    What’s the least you can do, he has mentioned.

    Also, one more observation, if you are reading for the first time, better read translation first, you will get the context and sanskrit reading may become little easier, if you have introduction of it earlier.

    @Madam,
    Different adhyay are different stories. How come they work as mantra too? All thanks to Samskrut?

    Thanks

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    • astrologerbydefault September 28, 2022 / 8:35 am

      Hi there
      It is a story fr regular people.

      But there are other ways of ‘translating’ it as Sanskrit has thousands of meanings depending on ur level of understanding/decoding.
      The first shlok of the first chapter can also b translated as ‘this is the method in which the beej Hreeng is to b used.’
      Thts why i wrote my post on the Devi mahatmya with the title’the story of hreeng’

      People have forgotten ‘Om’
      And ‘Hreeng’ is equally powerful and more capable of being actively used. Regular people today dont know tht beej mantras even exist.

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  25. Inquirer September 28, 2022 / 7:23 am

    Dear Tejaswini Ji: This is an incredible blog with a wealth of insights. Thank you for writing and sharing your knowledge with us.

    My question is: how do we keep steadfast in faith, when our environment presents hurdles? Changing environments is not an option at the moment.

    My family is not as “spiritually inclined” and criticize/make fun of me for keeping mantra jaap/abstaining from meat. I grew up in a Hindu family.

    I left home at a young age, and it’s been 13 years- I’ve just returned back (one year ago). When family and friends inquire about my relationship status: they’ve lied about my relationship state (that I’m in relationship with someone) when in actuality I am single. When family friends come over, they just say I’m out of town. Or they constantly compare me to my “peers” who are now married and are having children. It feels like I’m burden/embarrassment to them.

    Ironically, a lot of the patients I see are families who have children with disabilities and it my journey seems to parallel that of my patients. (Some parents hiding their children because of their child’s physical disability).

    I’ve asked them to help me find someone, as arranged marriages are customary in our culture, but they’ve also stated at my age (early 30s), it would be very difficult to find someone unless lying about my chart and caste. I definitely do not want to do either.

    For contextual reference, I’m a physician. Right after I finished my post graduate training (last year) I felt the desire to be in a committed relationship/marriage- I started these remedial measures earlier at the beginning of this year.

    On one hand, there’s a bit of disillusionment that I haven’t come across someone where both our energies align. I see marriage as an opportunity for spiritual growth, amongst other things- it’s important to me have intellectual/emotional connection with someone. My family states that these expectations are not realistic for the times we live in.

    On the other hand, the opinions of my family seem to drain the energy out of me to the extent it is hampering with my work productivity.

    When I’m away from home, it feels easier to keep them at bay- and I’ve flourished career wise, including my artistic pursuits. (Venus AK, gave me several opportunities in media/acting/modeling) However, when I’m at home, it’s a constant battle: within myself, with them, and my energy is quite stagnated.

    They question me and ask: if the remedies worked, you would have been married by now. I know remedies are not a quick fix solution, but can redirect/lessen certain karmas.

    Your blog has helped keep me sane. I’d be grateful for any additional guidance you may have for me. Thank you.

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    • astrologerbydefault September 28, 2022 / 3:50 pm

      Hi there
      Daily practice. 10mins sincerely in the morning /evening and not as a task, u r not a machine. This is because you love your deity and have faith/shraddha that he/she loves you in return.
      Do everything because you love the deity you adore. Leave it to him/her, ie always ask for ‘prasadsiddharthyam’ or ‘preetyartham’.

      Ask your parents to look for a match as per your family / culture.
      Or if you have someone you know from your work etc and think that the person is suitable then you can take the decision yourself.

      If you have done an activity with a specific intention in mind then it has to work.
      1+1=2 always.

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    • Gratitude September 28, 2022 / 10:14 pm

      Hello Mr/Ms INQUIRER,

      I would like to convey my perception as per my limited knowledge if ma’am permits it.. if it’s not worthy comment could please delete it mam.. 🙏🏻

      I don’t know why but I’m suddenly drawn to read and reply to your comment..

      “””My family is not as “spiritually inclined” and criticize/make fun of me for keeping mantra jaap/abstaining from meat. I grew up in a Hindu family.””””

      👆🏻👆🏻
      That’s okay let them make fun of you as well as just feel proud of yourself as you chose this noblest path..

      “””they constantly compare me to my “peers” who are now married and are having children. It feels like I’m burden/embarrassment to them.”””

      👆🏻👆🏻
      If I understood correctly, you are getting some discomfort/pain from your family..
      In your chart check 2nd, 4th, 10th houses and moon, sun placements and venus for relationships.. anyways as we humans took birth means we have to face both positive and negative things..

      Life is never fair to anyone.. Some get hurt from parents, some from spouses/kids/friends/in-laws/friends etc etc.. again it’s all we chose when we were born.. So first we have to forgive ourselves for choosing this kind of discomfort..🤦🏻‍♀️

      “”””Ironically, a lot of the patients I see are families who have children with disabilities and it my journey seems to parallel that of my patients. (Some parents hiding their children because of their child’s physical disability).””””

      👆🏻👆🏻
      Maybe these kinds of people want to give more importance to their status in public or are afraid of any insults.. again it’s their own battle in this birth.. people might get true wisdom when they really realise as early as possible that we always have people*above us* and *below us*

      “”””they’ve also stated at my age (early 30s), it would be very difficult to find someone unless lying about my chart and caste. I definitely do not want to do either.

      . I see marriage as an opportunity for spiritual growth, amongst other things- it’s important to me have intellectual/emotional connection with someone. My family states that these expectations are not realistic for the times we live in.”””””””

      👆🏻👆🏻
      Age is just a number.. it’s better not identifying yourself with age until you meet your soulmate.. having good/decent/minimum wishes for a soulmate is completely fine.. if anyone discourages you just act as a deaf person, don’t listen to them..

      And just try to understand your 7th and 8th house of chart. Is there any delay in marriage? etc etc..

      “”””They question me and ask: if the remedies worked, you would have been married by now. I know remedies are not a quick fix solution, but can redirect/lessen certain karmas.”””””

      👆🏻👆🏻
      If any child cries for a match box mom won’t give it right ? As mom knows that it might hurt him.. but the child feels unloved, unwanted and so sad.. but it’s for his own good only.. he will understand that later in life.. in the same way sometimes we might get some delay from our favourite deity’s response.. it doesn’t mean that deity is not loving us it’s just that time hasn’t come yet that’s it..

      Here you have superb clarity that remedies sometimes may not give immediate results.. that’s great to have this kind of strength and knowledge.. it’s just that your family interference in your belief system is disturbing you so much.. whoever they are let them speak anything as we cannot stop them.. but just stop giving importance to their words.. it’s not your duty to make them realise the importance of sanatana Dharma.. when time comes they will realise..

      Knowing astrology and gaining knowledge simply doesn’t mean that we never get problems and we get whatever we want in life, but it surely strengthens our mind and our acceptance capacity will be increased.. we can take life as it comes..

      “”””My question is: how do we keep steadfast in faith, when our environment presents hurdles? Changing environments is not an option at the moment.”””‘

      👆🏻👆🏻
      And finally how you made yourself to choose this noblest spiritual path staying in the same environment in the same way you can strengthen your faith.. Just trust your process.. you came all this way.. you are not alone and you found this blog means you are already super lucky and have immense support from your favourite deity.. 😍

      All these problems,emotions, feelings, solutions everything is created by Devi mahamaya.. it’s all her game.. she can make us feel for an emotion, if we get it we remember her in the name of gratitude, if we don’t get it we go to her with pain.. so in every situation Devi mahamaya is constant.. ✨✨

      I heard that during navratri she will be very pleased to bless her kids in the kindest way possible.. 💗💗

      I wish you good luck in your spiritual way..✨✨

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  26. Pathfinder September 28, 2022 / 9:56 am

    Namaste Ma’am, warm wishes on Navratri.

    I would request you to hide all the content I am writing after this.

    ——- deleted ———

    Ma’am, this is is a request only and I will respect whatever you chose to respond this.

    Regards

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    • astrologerbydefault September 28, 2022 / 3:25 pm

      Hi there
      You had asked this Q earlier also.

      First and foremost, do consult a medical professional for getting out this stress. This is a typical post traumatic stress disorder PTSD type of a condition in medial language and there are professionals who have been trained and have specific ways/counselling etc to help relax the mind.

      This below is a general observation, which you may or not feel to be useful. It is not a personal consultation in any sense.

      The departed one is a pitru for you and your family. So you are required to perform pitru tarpan/ pindadaan regularly as per your family’s customs. This is all that this jivatma needs from your family now onwards. (The yearly tarpan on Sarvapitri Amavasya is compulsory. But there can be additional tarpans during the year as per the family customs, so ask your Brahmin).

      For your other child, you can perform special anushthans, kamyakarma etc as per the advice of your Brahmin/Jyotishi etc.

      But as a Nityakarma, ie daily puja activity, it is advisable if the parents do the following.
      1. Worship of Shri Baal-Gopal. keep a small silver moorti, ie the one where a small baby is shown crawling on the ground holding a sweet in his one hand. Basic regular puja to be offered, ie kumkum flowers etc.
      2. Recite that one line mantra of Devi Santaan Laxmi in addition to your daily pujas.
      3. Worship of Shri Maruti. If you have his temple near your house then go there every Saturday with your child (boy/girl) and offer oil into the lamp in his temple. Or if you have his moorti in your puja ghar then light a special oil lamp for him every Saturday.

      And the worship of the Kuldevata. This deity is the foundation energy which will add energy to everything that you do. Make it a point to perform all the pujas connected to this deity sincerely.
      Daily regular practice is the most effective remedy for all problems in life.

      Every boy – child from the age of 6yrs must take up the Gayatri/ Yajnopavit. If your family has some typical customs regarding the Yajnopavit, then follow them.

      The point is that all children (both boys/girls) above the age of 6yrs must compulsorily recite one mantra daily. And not by force.
      Teach them with love and by your example. If you are giving Surya Arghya, giving water to Tulasi, doing your pujas, putting kumkum, offering flowers, doing Aarti, showing Naivedya, then eating that Prasadam etc. then the child will also do all this and very happily.
      The Gayatri mantra, Mahamrutyunjai mantra, the Ganapati Atharvashirsha or any Maruti stotra eg Anjaneya Bhujangam by Adi Shankaracharya has a very beautiful rhythm.
      Teach your child one stotra which he has to recite daily. Initially he may not want to or pronounce it wrong etc. but you have to teach him with love and pure intentions in your heart. It will increase his strength, something to hold to in his heart always. The child must be taught to give 5-10 mins in the morning and evening for this daily practice, but always with love and for the love of the deity. He must really love a deity from the bottom of his heart. Know that this one deity /this mantra/ this stotra is always with him and keep him safe. This is the real meaning of Sanskars which the parents are required to give their children. give them this lifetime gift of faith/shraddha in a deity.

      And your condition is the same as Arjun’s.
      Extreme despondency caused by the pain of death of loved ones.
      So read the Bhagwat Gita.

      There are 2 types of Gurhast people as per Bhagwan Krishna.
      1. Karmi – all who are worried about material things, son, daughter, husband, wife, money, health, land, etc, a never ending list. This is all the Gruhast people who do Nitya karma, kamya karma, prayacshitta karma etc with the focus on themselves. “I want money, I want children, I want a job, I want health, i want my child to have money, i want my husband to have a new job, … I want.. I want… “ this never stops and there is really no solution for this karmi mindset.
      2. Karmayogi – This is the Gruhast person who does all the Nitya karma but with the intention of general ‘prasadsiddhyartham’ or ‘preetyartham’ ie it is only for the grace/blessing of the deity as the deity chooses fit.
      And every deity, if it is left to him/her, gives only spiritual blessings. With this ‘prasadsiddhi’ you are technically asking for chittashuddhi. and nobody does this sankalp these days. no one leaves it to the deity to decide the best blessing.
      Taking the ‘I’ out of the Nityakarma is very difficult. But this is what ultimately brings mental peace. When you do your nityakarma with this mindset, for the preetyartham of the deity, you gain mental strength to handle every situation in your life with equal attitude. you are confident that whatever it is, is because your beloved deity has decided it, and you love your deity so much that it is all the same to you. you do your activities but you are not bothered about the results as both options are same to you, and the reason is because you love your deity. your deity is with you as you go thru your prarabdha karma.
      This is a hard lesson for the average householder but it helps to come out of such traumatic situations. You offer everything you have including your joy/sadness to the deity and request only his divine love. That takes care of everything.
      This concept might be too much fr you. But this is what Bhagwan Krishna has said and there is no better advice.
      Ultimately you cannot let your mind run away with you like this. If you do so then you will miss the joy that is yours to gain from your other child.

      however the first step is to seek help from a medical professional.

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  27. Pathfinder September 28, 2022 / 7:51 pm

    Heartfelt gratitude Ma’am🙏 Appreciate your precious words.

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  28. L October 1, 2022 / 11:08 am

    Ma’am please do reply to this, can women workshop God, go to the temple and fast during their periods?
    If no, then why not?

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  29. Observer October 1, 2022 / 10:43 pm

    Namaste Ma’am,

    Often when hearing the spiritual discourses or reading the commentaries on standard Granth. It is natural for our mind to draw certain inferences or make assumptions. Ofcourse people who learn from particular teachers or Gurus can systematically learn concepts with certainty. And I understand that from your previous answers in order to accept a concept beyond doubt one must find validation on three levels,

    1. Guru
    2. Grantham
    3. At level of our own consciousness

    But sometimes it takes time and efforts in right direction to confirm on levels 1 and 2. And given the fact that ours is such a diverse and heterogeneous way of worshipping is it helpful to keep an open-mind and flexibility when we encounter contrasting views. The sheer diversity and guru shishya parampara in our culture is beyond amazing.

    Thank you

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    • astrologerbydefault October 2, 2022 / 9:32 am

      Hi there
      Guru – ref to discourses by Atma jnyani Mahapurush
      Granth – Ved Vedant Bhagvat Gita

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