So you are a Manglik!

I have seen so many young men and women traumatized by the bogey of this “Mangal dosha” so I had to put this post. If your Mars at birth is the 1st, 4th, 7th, 8th and 12th houses counted from your ascendent or even your birth lunar horoscope the “astrologer next door” will declare you to be Manglik.  And once labeled, getting a good arranged match will be so utterly difficult. So just see this, in your horoscope, birth Mars in 5 out of 12 houses is considered Manglik and if you escape this then the astrologers will count these 5 houses from your birth moon sign also. If still your Mars is clear he may even open your 9th divisional chart/ navamsha chart to further check. So now everyone will turn out to be a Manglik (facepalm) !

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At the outset, the Manglik tag for a woman is more severe than for a man. For a man, Mangal Dosha is not really a dosha. It in fact is an advantage if you can direct the energies. But there are some important things which must be highlighted. If you are such a “Manglik” man remember,

  1. You are a highly masculine man, and your energies of high competitiveness, vitality and drive should be directed away from your marriage and house. Go to the gym, train for marathons, learn physical contact games, football, boxing/karate etc. On your spare evenings go driving or any other physical activity to take the edge off your aggression. Create opportunities in your life outside the house where you can be aggressive and channelize your competitive spirit responsibly not rashly.
  2. Take vacations like trekking and camping outdoorsy vigorous things.
  3. Marry a feminine woman. You wont think of her as a competitor rather you will want to protect her. Preferably one who is a homemaker, likes dressing up and girly things and would prefer having lots children and take care of them too. Give her total freedom in the house and let her be creative about it. Let her make your house beautiful and harmonious. The house is her domain, do not compete with her here.
  4. Or if you marry the same Manglik type of woman then both of you should remember that you are not competitors against each other, but are a united One against everyone else. Your aggressive energies will at least be directed outside your home and your marriage.
  5. You cannot take out your aggression on your wife/children or family members.
  6. Avoid alcohol. Substitute for lemon sodas and grape juice but avoid alcohol and other addictions.
  7. Take up some spiritual practice or meditative exercise for just 5 mins a day.

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Mars, the Red Planet, is the Expression of your Ego. How you express your internal energies, your boldness, dynamism, competitiveness, vitality is the domain of Mars. He grants us the energy, independence, will and self-confidence to carry out our endeavours. He is the active brave warrior who can be noble and dynamic but also rash and ruthless. A low Mars energy will mean a droopy frail person with little energy, no real interest, passion or motivation. If unchecked, a wild Mars can lead to accidents, aggression, domination, violence, injury and death. As too much or too less of anything causes problems, similarly too much or too little Mars energy will be a problem. A correct balance of Mars is quite rare. Mars does not share, he competes and wins. In a partnership his ideal partner is Venus whose karmic responsibility is to teach him to harmony, beauty and to share fairly.

Mars influences 4 aspects of your life, 4 houses of the horosope directly. The house he is in, the house 4th from it, the house 7th from it and the house 8th from it. Eg, If your Mars is in Aries, it will influence Aries, Cancer, Libra and Scorpio directly.

Mars is exalted in Capricorn. Saturn teaches Mars discipline and restricts his energies to just the what is required and useable. He also provides him a goal of working for the general welfare and society. And Mars is debilitated in Cancer. Moon drowns the vitality and fire of Mars in dreaminess, vagueness, emotions and confusion.

The traditional mind-set in India is still that the bride must not be aggressive, not work professionally, stay at home, not break up the house etc. A manglik woman finds it more difficult in the marriage arena rather than a manglik man. But in today’s life the man himself wants a wife who works outside and the houses are so small that the parents themselves buy a separate flat for their son after his marriage. So while checking out the horoscope matching do keep the realities of today’s lifestyle in perspective.

If you are such a Manglik woman remember the following.

  1. Work professionally in a regular job, or start a home business or try to find a job where some physical activity is indicated. Or a job like a lawyer maybe where you can be aggressive. You need to find a channel for your aggression. Go to a gym if you have the time.
  2. Take vacations like trekking and camping outdoorsy vigorous things.
  3. Try to get on with your father/mother or mother/father-in-law. Request them to live near you, maybe a flat in the same building and help look after the children. This is something you have to do, no options.
  4. In India at least your marriage options will be limited to similar Manglik men. Then both of you should remember that you are not competitors against each other, but are a united One against everyone else. Your aggressive energies will at least be directed outside your home and your marriage.
  5. Do not take your aggression out on your family members, husband and children.
  6. Take up some spiritual practice or meditative exercise for just 5 mins a day.

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Lets briefly see how Mars’s Mangal dosha in the 5 houses will perform in real life. These descriptions are the extreme cases, the aspects of benefic planets will make it better and the aspects of malefic planets will make it worse. So if you or your prospective partner has such combinations take remedial action.

1st house/Ascendent – Mars will influence, 1st, 4th, 7th and 8th houses. Mars is the natural owner of the first house as his rashi Mesha is the natural 1st sign. If Mars himself occupies the first house, you are highly active, energetic, super-competitive individual and your anger is of a typical animal nature. You must always be on the move and need targets to achieve, cant sit still. You might expect friction and competition with your maternal relatives, mother, concerning landed properties, partnerships, wife/husband and occasional accidents.

4th house – Mars will influence 4th, 7th, 10th, 11th houses. You might expect friction and competition with your maternal relatives, mother, father, profession, concerning landed properties, partnerships, wife/husband, in social situations and sources of income. Mars aspects the 10th house, thus you might be better off directing your energies in your career.

7th house – Mars will influence the 7th, 10th, 1st, and 2nd houses. You might expect friction and competition with your partnerships, husband/wife, father, profession, family assets, lineage, concerning personal ego and role in society. Mars aspects the 10th house, thus you might be better off directing your energies in your career.

8th house – Mars influences the 8th, 11th, 2nd and 3rd houses. Mars is the natural owner of the 8th house. His scorpio is the natural 8th rashi. If in the 8th house himself, he may be an agent of major surgery, deep therapeutic healing, emergence from catastrophic change, tantrik magic, accidents and death too. You might expect friction and competition in social situations, networks, sources of income, family assets, lineage, extended family, brothers/cousins, neighbours. Reproductive organs may be weak or the diseases you may suffer will have hidden beginnings and then suddenly flare up.

12th house – He will influence 12th, 3rd, 6th and 7th houses. His energies will be directed to the subconscious, astral, spirit worlds. Essentially drowned fire. May manifest as over-stimulation of imagination, disturbance to emotions and intuition and even insanity in presence of malefic aspects. You might expect friction and competition in family assets, lineage, extended family, brothers/cousins, neighbours, your partnerships, husband/wife, may suffer from poisoning type of diseases eg food poisoning, septicemia. Overly anxious personality may develop and express as verbal criticism and resentment.

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And at the last as I am an astrologer, every Tuesday morning, to keep your mars energies positive, light a small copper lamp with sesame oil and cotton wick with this mantra, “Om kraang kreeng kraung sah mangalaya namah, om”, repeat it once, thrice or 108 times as you wish. Request for help from your Mars and intend that you will live a happy healthy life with your wife/husband, children and family.

I have written a post on the deep motivations and inner psychology of Mars and the signs he rules, Aries and Scorpio here.

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