Judging someone else is the worst thing anyone can do. Because at a deep level we are all judging our own selves, at every instant. Our own eyes are watching our actions and our Conscience is aware.
If you have read my past posts, the main theme of Life is to repay our debts, get rid of the excess baggage and finally see our true Reality. On this road to Self realization, there is no right and no wrong, everything is possible and doable. The only condition that your actions must satisfy your own Conscience. If your Antaratma, inner self, is satisfied with what you are doing then a part of the debt is considered repaid, karma is balanced out. But if your own conscience raises an objection then your this act gets registered as another item of debt and will have to be repaid in the future. You have created new karmic baggage.
So who are we to judge someone else? And how can we judge them? By social standards? Moral standards? Law? All these terms are a product of the age we live in.
In some other age it was acceptable to fight duels and kill persons who had wronged you. It was possible to carry away someone’s wife and daughter and then marry them. It was considered acceptable to enslave other humans and treat them as animals. It was expected from 14 year old boys to join armies, fight and kill. And even 12 yr old girls got married and had children by the age of 13.
So there is really no point in wasting our energy thinking and judging others. We can never understand why they did what they did. Everyone carries their own judge, jury and prison too, with them. A soul may choose any means possible for the most effective resolution of his karma. Not convinced?
One example is a Sanyasi who has left the society, he has literally taken in the fires of his cremation Agni within him and is doing very intense penances/ tapa for attaining the Self. The society looks on the Sanyasi with a mixture of awe and fear but he does not care about what they think of him. He has chosen this off-beat path for faster resolution of the dual mindset and realising the Non-dual. Man is a social animal. A human staying away from the society either by choice or force is a very drastic step.
And then the other extreme example, a prostitute who lives on the edges of the society. She is considered disreputable and shunned by the “respectable society” but she does not care. She is paying back her karmic debts by sharing her energy with random persons. She does not know what she is doing consciously but her higher self is clear on why it choose this path in this life.
There is no right or wrong, just the personal conscience/ Antaratma. Who can judge you, but you yourself?
There are more examples of such drastic choices. One of my clients is doing quite well on the spiritual path. She came to me because she was worried her in-laws were sending her ill-will. I checked her aura and the horoscope and yes, a rather low level spirit was around her causing minor troubles. But she was sufficiently able to deal with it herself, she had the strength, why come to me? She told me she was rather uneasy, but not able to define why. So I took her through a guided meditation. Then she told me what she saw, in some previous life, she was killed when pregnant and her spirit/ pretatma was used, trapped. She, as a bound spirit, was forced by her master to do such horrible things that she was severely traumatized herself. Her mind had shattered to such an extent during that phase, that she was born insane for a few lives thereafter. In this life, strangely she was scared to even look at insane persons. It was the first time I had seen such a case. In her horoscope too there were indications, I just never even imagined such an interpretation. My client wept and then with that release came understanding and acceptance. Now she is not scared of insane persons and can deal with the spirits carrying her in-law’s ill-will herself. And I have now a new respect for the insane persons on the streets. What could be their history that the soul made such a drastic choice to live with no mind?
I cannot judge anyone for the choices that they make. Especially after seeing such clients and their horoscopes.
What ever one does is between him and his conscience.