Tensions in relationships, astrologically

There are some periods when you and your wife is going to really be best buddies and you two will have loads of fun together, made for each other types. And then those times when both of you will be so irritated with each other. Nothing will be right and both of you will be in despair.astrologyTime is everything. If the planetary positions in transit and in Dasha are good to you, you will receive appreciation, love and respect. There will be enjoyable moments which will boost your ego, sense of worth and validation. Your loved one will be with you. Your boss will be happy with your work, your mom happy with your choice of wife, dad proud of your your social position. Your children will actually listen to you, your wife will kiss you, your husband will remember your birthday and you will get gifts. These are times spent with friends and parties. You gain in business and expand your profits. Materially you feel creative and may be blessed with children.

And then you have those periods/Vimshottari dasha of the planetary owners of the houses of turmoil, dushamsthan, 6th, 8th and 12th. The theme of these planetary periods will be a sense of general invalidation, un-love and unworthiness which will result in pain.

As always you have to see the physical manifested reality from the birth chart D-1, emotional context from the birth moon sign and the astral/sub-conscious expectations and potential from the divisional chart D-9, Navamsha. For example Ketu may be placed in the 3rd house from ascendant and 2nd when counted from the birth Moon sign in the D-1 birth chart. And placed in the 7th house in the D-9. So in Ketu’s periods, there will be a physical detachment from cousins, team-mates, trade, communication. This will be felt emotionally as a dissociation from the family resources and interactions. And the astral expectation will be a break in legal contracts and separation in partnerships. So now how you interpret it will depend on the client’s entire chart.

Now to narrow down those planetary periods which can create tensions in marriage. These planets in their periods and sub-periods even sub-sub periods can create a break in the feeling of being ‘loved’ and ‘valued’ by your loved one. If your horoscopes have been matched before marriage these periods will be less intense but no one can escape tiffs in married life.

  1. Open your birth chart, and note the owner of the 12th house.
    • The 12th house when counted from the 7th house is sixth. Sixth from any house is an expression of ‘breaking of partnerships’, ‘unfair alliances’, ‘breakdown of bargains’, ‘accusations’, ‘invalidation’, ‘arguments’ and ‘un-appreciation’ of the matters related to this house.
    • The 12th house counted from the 1st house/ascendant sign is naturally twelfth, indicating a loss in the manifested physical self, confidence, strength, social status etc.
    • So the 12th house lord in his periods will cause tensions in your personal and professional partnerships. Depending on the other factors it can cause permanent breaks, followed by depression, sleeplessness and losses to health, social status, etc which are indicated by the 12th house normally.
  2. Now note the planetary owner of the 6th house counted from the ascendant sign
    • The 6th house is breakage of legal witnessed contracts as always.
    • And this 6th house from the ascendant is twelfth when counted from the 7th house. The 12th house from anywhere represents the losses of whatever is indicated by that house
    • So the 6th house lord will represent the loss of the partnership. Depending on the power of this planet he can pull you upto divorce and dissolution of the alliance.
  3. Now the planet owning the 2nd house from the ascendant sign.
    • It represents the family lineage, treasures, family wealth and all sort of resources available to you.
    • But it also represents the 2nd spouse.
    • And it is the eighth house when counted from the 7th house. The 8th counted from any house defines the sudden, forced, fast and chaotic transformations associated with that house. When the house we are concerned about is the 7th, the 2nd lord can create changes in the ‘love’, ‘value’ felt in the marriage. Then 8th is also secret stuff, so there will be loss of transparency in the relationship perhaps secret affairs. The ‘worthiness’ felt in the lawful marriage may change into a ‘validation’ and ‘love’ experience from the secret paramour.
    • So this planet too has the potential to create tensions in your married life during his planetary periods.

astrologySo now you know what is possibly going wrong in marriage and why. But this is not what we are after, we want to fix things. So this how you get through this period of tensions. Divorce though legal and accepted does not really work on the emotional and spiritual levels. This should be the very last option. Things always change. If you can get through this bad patch, which you soon will as your planetary period changes, you might regret the dissolution. So what can you do to reduce tensions and use this period productively? Shift your focus on something else?

So check the quality of the horoscope. Some of us can survive in a marriage with the barest minimum of ‘love’ expressions. If the Ascendant lord and the Moon are powerful enough such a person can manage on his sense of self-worth and self-love. He won’t need expressions of ‘appreciation’ from his wife. But if these 2 important planets are not able to generate enough self-love it can get quite tricky. In such cases there may be support from the other planets who can compensate by providing validation through the aspects of life that they control.

Check out who can help. The siblings, friends, team-mates, office-mates and your positive thought processes – Mercury. The society, boss, knowing you are doing a good job in the social and professional field – Saturn. The self-ego, the children, taking up higher education and knowing you are creative and confident – Sun. Getting to know yourself and knowing that you are doing your spiritual practice regularly – Venus. Your philosophy, kindness and a sense of humanity which you have nourished by reading books and learning more and more – Jupiter. A sense of detachment which Ketu can confer. And finally a new ambition and new direction in life which Rahu can supply.

There is a time when you need to sit down and talk through things and there is also a time where you have remain silent and let events unfold. You are not defined just by your relationship with your loved one. There is so much more to you. Let the relationship take a back seat and focus on other aspects of life for a while. You will get the appreciation you deserve, always!

No one goes anywhere, least of all your loved one. Times always change, and there is always going to be a Time.

 

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Venus the owner of Taurus and Libra

Venus owns the 2nd and the 7th signs/rashi of the Zodiac, Taurus/Vrushabh and Libra/Tula. Thus he is also the natural owner of the 2nd and 7th houses/bhava of the chart. He is the agent/Karak of treasuries and partnerships, of everything that adds value and validation to you. Venus is all the ways you feel good about yourself.astrologyVenus is the Ruler of Taurus

This Venus personality has to maintain the resources of value in every sense, from the physical, spiritual, emotional, histories and songs. And he is very good at increasing his collections, hoards and treasuries of every type. He is the soul of every party and knows how to get the mood going. This Venus may sound easy-go-lucky but has an important role in maintaining the social norms and he is very serious about it. He is the custodian of the traditions, knowledge and stories of the family culture. He will resist every change which will unbalance. But his resistance is also beautiful and balanced, the iron fist in a velvet glove. At the very basic levels, he feels good about himself in the society when he has money!

This Venus can get so attached to money and the things that money can buy that he can subsume his personality to these things. He then considers his brotherhood and neighbourhood to be his biggest assets. He is interested in the stability of his homeland and also the welfare of his mother and maternal relatives. This Venus is quite at home with expressing his creativity and being in the public eye.  However he is susceptible to malefic evil eyes and jealousy, which are a result of being too much in the public eye. He is distrustful about equitable sharing of resources with legal partners and prefers keeping it to himself, however secret ways of increasing his assets appeal to him. With his chosen spouse he will be on good terms but there will be an undercurrent of unbalance, of complaints and stress. He is again not very interested in listening to his peers and paternal figures. His profession and actual father are very important to him though. His life philosophy will be to work hard and play hard! And he does gain through his profession and has multiple sources of income. Social status and power is the foundation of this Venus’s life and pleasure.

Attached to idea that he needs to be valuable in the eyes of the society by displaying his collections he will forget that he needs to find his own real personality first. By the time he realises that the validation he receives from society can be quite unpredictable, fleeting and erratic, it might be too late to seek his own Real Self.

Venus is the Banker in Taurus.astrologyVenus is the Ruler of Libra

Venus in his second form is required to maintain legal and equitable partnerships of every type in every context. Personal, professional, emotional, spiritual, counselling, trading, etc, all sorts of relationships are defined by Venus. At the very basic levels he will feel good about himself if he has a good marriage. I have written a detailed post on the inherent balance of Libra here.

Libra seeks balance. Anything that is out of balance or unfair is deeply disturbing to this Venus. He is fair, impartial and quite intellectual here. He bargains and keeps track, if he has given out something he will expect fair returns. The earthy good humour of Taurus-Venus is absent here. Venus-Libra likes refined intellectual company. (I wonder does he even laugh out aloud till tears come in his eyes). His level of intellect can be so rarefied that he sometimes comes across as an intense workaholic driven personality. He is quite secretive about his own resources and his pleasures are also not in public. His favoured company is peers, patrons, religious and spiritual personalities with whom he can interact on the intellectual plane. He is on good terms with his own father and often is involved in a family business, most likely a lawyer! He likes his work and his office soon can become a home.

This Venus loves displaying his creativity in public, in front of an audience of strangers. Stage fright is simply out of the question. His children are also quite the little performers in school plays and lucky in life. His losses, diseases, debts and enemies are few on the physical plane but he suffers in secret. His partners are vigorous, physical leaders. He partners with pioneers and then follows them up creating bargains and alliances. He has few close friends and siblings with whom he connects. He can be very passionate about humanitarian ideals as long as it is fair for everyone concerned.

Venus is the Lawyer in Libra.astrologyIn my personal opinion Venus is even more dangerous than Saturn. Saturn is at least ‘in your face’ straightforward even, if he is going to make you balance your pending karma he will openly do it. You know you are in for a phase of hard work and stress. Saturn and Venus are also best buddies, with Saturn getting exalted in Libra.

But Venus coats every action of his with such sweetness that you never really understand what is really going on. He is the strictest teacher, Daityaguru Shukaracharya, and his karmic lessons are the most difficult because they don’t look like lessons. If you are satisfied with the validation you get from the society or your partners you will not look inside for the real spiritual validation from your Real Self/Moksh. And validation from fellow humans is very dangerous, it is erratic, changeable, un-predictable and volatile.

Back to physical life, if Venus is not in a position to give good results in your horoscope you face an inner sense of invalidation. ‘Un-worthiness’ is created. The only way to get out of this crippling feeling is to understand that you have to first realise your own self-worth! If you can generate this sense of approval, value, worthiness and appreciation for yourself at your deepest emotional/psychological levels this is forever.

If you analyse your marriage and your relationship with your loved one, you will realise that you both basically make each other feel ‘worthy’. Talking, romantic dinners, movies, travelling together, physically touching, gifts, flowers and jewellery is a way that we offer validation to our loved one and expect the same validation in return. If we do not receive this in return we get dissatisfied with the relationship and seek a way out. Else if validation turns into devaluation and criticism we seek to dissolve the partnership. But there is tremendous spiritual and emotional energy in addition to financial, legal and social aspects in this alliance. Thus the dissolution process affects the emotions and spiritual stability of both. So what do you do after this break-up? Search for another human partner for validation or search for your inner worthiness?

In a business partnership also validation exists, the financial statements and the profits you two make together is appreciation and proof of ‘worthiness’. Once this validation is lost eg. the business makes losses you two break the partnership. There is little emotional involvement here so dissolving the partnership consists of wrapping the remaining material, financial and legal issues. Starting with a new business partner or going solo into new ventures next is also comparatively more simple.

So here is Venus the owner of Taurus and Libra. He is not so romantic as he looks. He is a Guru, so he will by the best means possible take you onward on your spiritual journey. He has infinite patience too, so will wait patiently till you ask for his real gifts. Only then will he show you the Ultimate which is behind his facade of beautiful pleasures.

 

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Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology – Part 1

In Vedic/Sanatan Dharm/Hinduism marriage is called Vivah and is a Sanskar. It means that this is compulsory for a man and a woman to undergo this Vivah-Sanskar and thus enter the Gruhast-ashram stage of life. There are 16 Sanskars in life.

  • Vivah is a ‘force which is used to bear/carry’. It is not just a ‘marriage’.
  • Sanskar is ‘accomplishment, refinement, culture, foundation, purification, formation, creation, making ready, creation of the mind/mental processes, education’ etc. Sanskar does not mean just a ‘ritual’.

fire4.jpgThere are 4 stages of the Vedic/Sanatan Dharm/Hindu life.

  1. Balya-ashram – The childhood phase where you are taken care of by your parents, family, neighbourhood and the society. During this period from the age of 6yrs you learn basic schooling and the foundations of your life’s philosophy from your teachers. After you cross 16yrs of age you start learning your business/profession from your peers and senior family members.
  2. Gruhasta-ashram – The married life where you are the active Karta/doer of the family. Vivah is the Sanskar which brings you into this phase of life. It is ideal to get married before or around 25yrs of age. Everyone has to get married and contribute to the society in different ways. Also produce children, teach them, as they are going to be a part of the society in a few years. All 4 aspects of life Dharma, Artha, Kaam and Moksh are linked to a successful gruhast phase. The only people exempt from this phase are those who take Sanyas and thus leave their Family and Society forever.
  3. Vanprastha-ashram – At around 51yrs of age is the gradual withdrawal from the society coupled with passing on the baton of Karta/doer-ship to your children. This phase starts with you ensuring your children’s Vivah Sanskar when they are around 25yrs of age.
  4. Sanyasa-ashram – At the age of about 76yrs you completely withdraw from the society and family concerns and concentrate only on your spiritual path and practice. Your children are also in their 45-50yrs of age on the verge of their Vanprasthashram age and your grandchildren are on the verge of becoming Gruhast themselves.

In Vedic/Sanatan Dharm/Hinduism, in all astrology texts from Parashar to Jaimini etc and all the the Indian systems of astrology Vedic, KP etc, refer to marriage as between a man and a woman. In a Vivah the husband and wife are called Dharmapati and Dharmapatni. These are again Sanskrit words so have several layers of meanings.

  • Dharma – knowing, justice, virtue, right, religion, establishment law, practice, merit, steadfastness, observation, property, propriety, duty, ethics, use, to-become, good works, devotion, character, morality, arrangement, support etc. This in short is the foundation of your life, from the physical environments to the spiritual principles.
  • Pati – Is the one who is – honor of, responsible to, going with, owner of, possessor of, protector of, ruler of, male spouse of – Dharma. He is always called Dharmapati.
  • Patni – Is the one who is – female spouse of, owner of, mistress of, ruler of, protector of, being with – Dharma. She is always called Dharmapatni.

marraige9.jpgVivah is the main phase of life which supports the other three, the young, the retired and the aged. The man and woman who marry each other are required not only to look after their personal family and their children but also protect the larger interests of the society. It is a very serious commitment as the witness of this Sanskar is the Sun/Agni/Internal Sun. There is no word for divorce in Sanskrit. And if you can see auras, then it is a delight to see the two auras interacting so deeply during the Vivah ceremony, the astral selves/Jeevatmas also accept this Sanskar. The two allow it because of their Intention and Will which are reinforced by the MantrasWomen are more suitable for micro-managing and men for marco-managing. Both the woman and the man are required to contribute to the family. And families contribute to the society.

Marriage is arranged between a man and a woman depending on several factors, social to astrological. The most important one is the gotra, a person can marry only into a family whose gotra is different from his/her father’s, mother’s, maternal grandmother’s and maternal great-grandmother’s gotra. This ensures healthy progeny in every way. The astrological basis of matching charts is detailed in this post here. Maybe readers from other Non-Vedic cultures may find this strange, but we follow these rules so as to maintain a happy and healthy husband-wife relationship, healthy children and positive contribution to the family and society. Marriage is just not a personal private affair, it has social, cultural and spiritual ramifications too. (It is especially important in the spiritual sense that unmarried men/women, or widowers/widows cannot do important pujas. Only Sanyasis and persons with a living husband/wife can perform them.)

If you get a chart for analysing the marriage prospects these are the few basic houses you should analyse, have written about this in details in my previous posts on analysing marriage. But briefly.

  1. The 7th house in the birth chart for the manifested real life. Also its owner planet.
  2. The 7th house from the birth moon for the emotions, stability, comfort and security expected from the marriage.
  3. The navamsha, divisional chart 9, D-9 for the sub-conscious expectations regarding marriage and the ‘mirror’ you expect in life.
    • The 7th house and the placement of the 7th lord in this D-9.
    • The placement of the 7th house sign and lord from D-1 seen in D-9.
  4. Jupiter and Venus in the charts, both D-1 and D-9 and from the birth moon sign
  5. Other details like Manglik or multiple spouses etc which I have mentioned earlier.

marraige4.jpgUltimately why do we marry? If we think deeply, we are all looking for our mirror, the one who has the missing pieces of our life. Now just close your eyes and ask yourself what kind of a wife/husband you want? What do you feel about your desired spouse? Be true to yourself, know that only your own Conscience is judging you. This is your private feeling. And then read this following list.

  1. Sun – You want someone glorious, regal, rich and creative, with lots of money, fame and position. You want to marry a king or a popular cine-star.
  2. Moon – you will feel that you need emotional comfort, protection and comfort and shelter. Someone who will tuck you in bed sort of maternal support.
  3. Venus – you are attracted to the surface, beauty, looks and soft sensual pleasures. A very handsome/beautiful husband/wife who will give you undivided attention.
  4. Mars – you are interested in a physically strong, bold, competitive and the rougher more physical pleasures. You might like your spouse to go with you to drinking contests, to the stadium, or a hike or for jogging daily in the park.
  5. Mercury – you want someone rich, interesting, youthful and intelligent. You would love having long chats and read interesting books with your spouse. Your spouse is your best friend.
  6. Saturn – will make you focus on the social image, the necessity of marriage, you think of marriage as a a work you have to do. Even after getting the spouse you want you will be more engaged in the social aspects of the Vivah union.
  7. Jupiter – you want someone more mature than you, older perhaps, and who will take care of you in a more paternal expansive way. Someone who will teach you and guide you, help you make sense of this world and life.
  8. Rahu – someone like the stars, unattainable from your current situation in life. It will be a constant craving for someone much higher than you in terms of social mobility and privileges . ‘Everyone wants him/her so I want too, and I will do anything to get him/her.’
  9. Ketu – you are not really into marriage so much. If your family and society are after you, you might just drift into marriage without much sense of attachment. Or you might in a flash of extreme dissociation just take Sanyas and leave the society for ever.

Now look back into your childhood, all the memories you have buried in your sub-conscious. Did you feel your mother wasn’t around? Or your dad was not available? You had no brothers/siblings to play with in your house? You had no friends to play with in the neighbourhood? Didn’t get pocket money or were poor? Wanted to learn in school but were unable to understand your teacher? Was left out of popular activities? Felt that your family’s social status was a liability? You have felt that you are nothing yourself but felt that there is something bigger at the edge of your awareness? Do these deep feelings relate in any way with how you feel about your ideal partner?

These emotional unmet needs from your childhood are often caused by very subtle or one-off events. A random unkind word or act hit you with more force that it should have. Your astral self registered it. If your conscious self had noticed it you would have taken active steps to fulfil this need. But the impact on the astral can be so deep that you feel this part of you is lost and you search for it in your spouse, your mirror! Sometimes guided mediation helps in bringing out answers from your sub-conscious in a very gentle way.

Some of life’s events and questions are just so very deep. One can just hope that with time and experience we will find the answers and solutions. We need to understand that every relationship especially that of Vivah/’marriage’ brings us face to face with our deepest emotional unmet needs. And the sooner we understand, the better we can resolve it and move towards understanding our own self, our Real Self. Else everything is between ourselves and our conscience.

This post will be in 2 parts. Link to part 2 here.

 

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Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 2

This post is a continuation to the part 1 linked here.

These 2 posts are in response to this comment I received in the Contact form. {“Hello astrologer by default! I am an astrologer myself and so much to learn from your blog which I randomly found… Recently been receiving a lot of requests about same-sex relations in my practice. How do you spot the same in the chart? What does Hinduism have to say? Can it be judged from birthchart or divisional charts?”} marraige8.jpgNow for those charts who do not follow the Vedic definition of Vivah there are certain pointers. This does not happen much in India, but here is a logical answer based on Vedic astrology principles. As this question relates to a person’s very personal psychology you need to analyse things in detail before coming to a conclusion. The positions from the birth chart D-1 will indicate the manifested reality. Counting from the birth moon sign will give the emotional context and the Navamsha, 9th Divisional chart D-9 will give an insight into the astral/sub-conscious expectations.

  1. The Ascendant and Ascendant lord. There is a deviation from the Dharma of the biological sex which the client him/herself had chosen at birth. So there will be discomfort and malefic influences here. The personality and its environment are at odds and in extreme unease.
    • In a female nativity, the ascendant sign or ascendant lord being under the effect of neuter or masculine planets. In male nativities the same being under the influence of female/neuter planets.
    • Malefic planets placed here or aspecting, especially the influences on the Ascendant lord.
    • Ascendant lord being placed in 6th, 8th, 12th houses will also tend towards secret diseases, shorter life-spans and several secret losses in life.
    • The power of the ascendant lord to give benefic results is very important. Where is he placed and is he comfortable? Is he in the sign of a friend/neutral/enemy planet, is he exalted/debilitated, or combust, or retrograde, or conjoint or aspected by malefics/benefics etc. Can you expect it to give its results completely or not? Has it matured etc. Do check this out carefully.
  2. The emotional context is also conflicted. The client had chosen his biological sex at birth, thus the mirror sex too at birth. Some event occurred somewhere which caused a change in the way ‘gender’ was felt later. Then the answers must come from the astral/sub-conscious realm too. So analyse the Moon, the sign he is placed in and the planets conjoint and aspects. Dissociative and malefic influences should predominate.
  3. The 5th house – This is the house of creativity and higher education and also represents selfish passions, lust and self-referential behaviours.
    • The natural ruler of the 5th house is the Sun (Leo being the natural 5th house of the Zodiac). The Royal one is often not bothered with rules, equitable alliances and considers himself above the society.
    • Malefic influences on the 5th house will turn the chart away from socially accepted spousal relationships.
    • Check the position of the 5th house and its owner’s placements too.
    • 5th house represents children too, obviously denial of naturally conceived children will be indicated here.
  4. The 7th house is true alliances and legal partnerships which are recognised by the society and also the soul.
    • the 7th house represents Vivah. In such charts the 7th house will be under malefic influences which will deny marriage. Check out the aspects on the 7th house and the placement of the 7th lord.
    • Venus will also not be very comfortable wherever he may be. He always has a subtle influence on the legally accepted and witnessed alliances of the 7th.
  5. The 8th house for hormonal issues and oddities related to the reproductive organs. Also analyse the owner of the 8th house. Mars as always with his subtle influence will be a factor.
  6. The 9th house is the Dharmasthan. The ancestors are seen from here. Do you have permission from them to carry forward their DNA? Check out the owner of this house and also Jupiter with his subtle influence on the matters of the 9th house.
  7. Finally the 12th house will show some irregularities regarding sexual activity.

marraige6Wherever there is breaking of rules and taboos you will have Rahu. He will flaunt himself, until he loses control and falls. Saturn to some extent can control Rahu’s society-disruptive behaviour. Sun, if decides to turn bad, will be selfish, the rock-star bad boy, and will break rules. Such a Sun will develop a strange above-the-masses type of ego, not be bothered with societal norms. Moon if scared of losing emotional security, under Saturn’s influence or debilitation or goaded by Mars will seek comfort in which ever way makes sense to him. Now if there is support from other planets, this Moon can seek comfort in breaking the rules. Mercury in his childishness or peer pressure may experiment in college and with friends. Venus if debilitated may decide to seek pleasure in the off-the-beaten-track. Ketu is headless and if gets in the driver’s seat on relationships you really dont know what all he can get into! But the gist is, look into vulnerable planets and houses which are responsible for mental and emotional security. Relationships and intimate pleasures.

I hope these posts have been of some use for you. However as you are required to respond to questions and counsel people on their relationships with their partners, I would suggest using Cards, both Cartomancy or Tarot give very good answers. Or Runes. These divination systems give on the spot and amazingly accurate answers. And if you ask questions like, ‘What can be done to make this situation better?’ you will be able to counsel regarding the best possible line of action. But if you want to use Astrology, consider focussing on the 5th house rather than the 7th house as an indicator of such partnerships. You can also use Prashna rather than a full blown astrological chart analysis if there is only a single pressing question.

So now for those who reject the Vivah Sanskar, do search into the childhood memories of the male and female relatives you were in contact with. Evaluate especially your deepest feelings related to your mother and father (and grandad/grandmom if they lived with you.) Why did you choose to reject your birth choice of biological sex, male/female and the associated biological sex mirror image? Why did you change your definition of ‘gender’?. ‘Sex’ is a reality it is biological, ‘gender’ is a concept, an idea. You cannot change your sex, it is either XX or XY but you can change your gender. Why did you choose to search for a person of the same sex and the same/opposite gender as yours, in your search to fill your blanks? There is no right or wrong but you need to know why? Even if you fail a school paper you want to know why!

Even for those who are in abusive and chaotic marriages, do this bit of introspection. Why? The spouse is behaving the way you want him/her to behave in your deepest subconscious.  Why have you held such damaging beliefs so tightly in your depths? You are experiencing your own beliefs, fears, expectations and karmic baggage through your spouse. Marriage amplifies all of our feelings about our own self. We receive our deepest Karmic lessons from those closest to us. We love someone, means we wish him/her the deepest happiness. We expect the same love from him/her. In short we expect validation. But validation from another human will always be erratic and uncertain. All relationships will have their periods of tensions and problems, one cannot expect a complete merging with another human. Even in the closest relationships there exists an infinite distance.

So understand that you have to love yourself too, wish yourself the deepest happiness. That is the way you will ultimately realise the consciousness in your own self and the real source of happiness.

There is no right or wrong. Each one chooses their path and then accepts the consequences of the choice.

 

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Mala for Mantra Jaap

There are several types of Jaap mala in the market. From the exotic to the commonplace, I once saw a mala made of plastic beads! So be careful of what you are buying.

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In my opinion and experience counting on the fingers is the best way for counting your mantra while doing your jaap. Here you are actively balancing all the tattva (Prithvi, Aap, Tej, Vayu, Akash) and doing the mudras with your fingers as you recite your mantra. This method of counting is very potent and preferable to using a mala. However for some reason, if you are not comfortable with counting on your fingers you can use a jaap mala. There are some rules regarding this mala then which you will need to remember.

  1. One mala for one mantra ideally.
  2. Before using it you need to energise it. Your pandit can do it or you can do it yourself.
  3. Depending on which mantra you are going to use you might need different malas. Here is a list of malas which you can use without too much trouble. These are easily available in the market and generally will not be faked.
    • Clear quartz/sphatik mala – for all Devi mantra, Gayatri mantra
    • Rudraksh mala – for all Shakti or Shiv mantra, all planetary beej mantras, Gayatri mantra
    • Tulsi mala – for all Vishnu mantra, Gayatri mantra
    • Lotus seed mala – For all Laxmi mantra, Gayatri mantra
    • Red sandal wood mala – Ganapati
    • For doing jaap of planetary beej mantras you can either use Rudraksh mala or then a mala made out of the planetary gemstone of that planet (this can get expensive!)- eg Moon-pearl
    • There are malas made of Conch, turmeric, parad/solidified mercury, etc which are used for specific purposes, getting rid of diseases, overcoming problems tantric rituals etc.
  4. There will be 108 beads in a jaap mala which will be held together by a 109th Sumeru bead. You will start from the first bead from the Sumeru and end at the last bnead next to the Sumeru. Now when you do jaap of more than 1 round, you cannot cross the Sumeru, you will reverse the direction of the mala for the next round.
  5. Now how to count. Hold the mala in your right hand, with your ring finger and thumb and use your middle finger to pull the beads for counting. (It forms the Gras mudra in the energy sense.) Do not touch your index and little fingers to the mala at any time. When you reverse it for the next round use these 3 fingers only to twist the mala around.
  6. When you do jaap your fingers should be at the level of your heart chakra, and your mala cannot dangle down till the ground, so you need to use a small cloth bag tied to your wrist. Sort of, stuff the mala in the pouch so that you can easily count and it stays in it. It should not touch the ground or your legs while you are doing jaap.
  7. Do not sleep wearing your mala. Do not leave it around and do not let others touch it.

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How to start using your mala? There is a very long procedure for energising your mala but you can do this very short abbreviated procedure yourself with full Intention and Will.

  1. On a suitable day during the bright half/shuklapaksha of the month either during sun-rise or sun-set sandhya-kaal. (Monday for Shiv, Tuesday for Ganapati/Hanuman or the energetic/raudra forms of Devi, Friday/Ashtami/Navmi for the peaceful/saumya forms of Devi, Thursday/Sunday/Ekadashi- Vishnu, the planets on their days, etc)
  2. Now after having a bath etc do your regular pujas, what ever you do, burn incense, light a lamp etc.
  3. Then take your jaap mala. First wash the mala with Ganga-jal or purified water. (You can also wash it in desi cow milk, but you won’t get this milk. You only get the hybrid cow milk in the market which has zero auspicious properties, its aura has brown streaks. I never drink it.)
  4. Then place it on a clean white cotton cloth, apply chandan/sandalwood powder (Vishnu, Gayatri), saffron/kesar (Devi, Ganapati, Gayatri), or ash/ bhasma (Shiv, Gayatri) to it depending on which type of mantra you are using. If you are not sure just put vermillion/kumkum on it. Put flowers, offer incense, offer it ghee diya or camphor fire and finally a Naivedya of 5 items mixed together in a silver or glass bowl (honey, ghee, milk, curd and coarse sugar/’khadisakhar’). If you do not have these items you can use 5 different types of fruits, choose them carefully as you have to eat them all yourself later as the prasadam.
  5. You can recite any brief prayer in your language where you will request the Jaap-mala to take on the mantra which you will now recite. You are requesting the deity of the mantra to enter the jaap-mala so please be serious here.
  6. Then recite your mantra 108 times with full faith (murmur in as low volume as possible, do not shout it out). After this take your mala in your hands and blow on it 3 times. Here you are intending that the energy of the mantra you have just recited enters the mala with your breath.
  7. Hold the mala in your cupped hands and focus very deeply on it. Think of your deity and sincerely request his help. Feel his presence in the mala.
  8. Now use the mala to count out your mantra once more 108 times. Now it should be in a very soft murmur so that even if someone sits next you, he won’t be able to hear it. With time, it will become a mental recitation. Mental jaap is the most powerful way.
  9. You have charged it and it is alive with the power of the Mantra now. You should eat all the Naivedya after your puja as it has become prasadam now. It is personal to you and you should eat it all.

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Now a bit on women. I am a woman myself and have a child too, so I know what happens during certain times for women.

  • Women should not do pujas during the 5 days of the monthly cycle. During these 5 days the energy vertices/chakras of the body are moving in the anti-clockwise direction as there is physical destruction going on in the body. Doing pujas etc which generate clockwise energies will cause damage to your astral body. Also avoid going to temples and touching your household deity moorthis. Ideally you should rest completely and let your body heal. But in these modern times this may not be possible, so no puja and minimum cooking for the family during this period. Try to rest.
  • During pregnancy you can do your pujas but no Dhyan. During Dhyan you are manipulating the vital energies/pran in your body which will affect the vital energies of the baby you have in your womb. No sitting on the Asan which you use for doing Dhyan either. You should sit on a separate mat or a chair to do your pujas/jaap. After childbirth, give time to your baby, and only after the baby is 6 months old you should resume.

Doing jaap, you train your mind to concentrate on a single sequence of sounds which are not random words but Sanskrit. Each syllable has power to create, sustain and destroy. So choose your mantra carefully. It is very important that you do at least one round of 108 counts of any mantra which resonates with you. This is the first step on the spiritual path. If you are not sure about which one to do, use the Gayatri Mantra, this mantra is the source of all knowledge.

 

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Ketu Mahadasha

The most commonly used system for timing events is Vimshottari dasha here. Depending on which lunar mansion/nakshatra you were born in you will experience the planetary dashas/periods. Not everyone will experience all the 9 graha/planetary forces’s Mahadasha during their lives. This post is about interpreting Ketu’s times.ketu 1As always there is no point to doing astrological predictions if you do not have the precise birth details. Even a difference of 1 minute will put off your Dasha calculations. Do your birth time rectification using maths or life-event matching or palmistry and then get into the dasha predictions. If your birth moon Nakshatra/Lunar mansion is Ashwini, Magha or Mula you will have your Ketu mahadasha going on at your birth. The balance of the planet’s dasha period remaining at birth is calculated using the location (degree/minute/second) of Moon in the nakshatra. If you get this birth time wrong your starting point will be wrong thus your entire life-time’s calculation will go wrong.

And of course Ketu’s main periods/mahadasha or sub-periods in other planets Mahadashas will give results as per Ketu’s ability to give results in your chart.

To evaluate Ketu’s Mahadasha in your life, there are 3 steps.

Step 1 is to check out these following about Ketu in your chart. You need to know the power of Ketu in giving results and also the aspects of life which he represents. These keywords are going to be in focus during his periods.

  1. Location of Ketu in your birth chart (divisional chart 1/D-1). Can you expect it to give its results completely or not?
    • Which house and in which sign is he placed? Thus which aspects of life is he influencing.
    • Is he in the sign of a friend/neutral/enemy planet. How is this planet placed? Is he strong/weak etc, as Ketu will take on his powers and ability to give results.
    • Is Ketu exalted/debilitated?
    • Which planets is he conjoint or aspected by? Thus which other parts of the personality is he influencing? Also Ketu will take on their powers and ability to give results too.
    • Is the birth during an eclipse? Or a kaal sarpa yog?
    • Has he matured?
    • Which lunar mansion/nakshatra is he placed in? He will be influenced by the ruler of this nakshatra too.
    • And finally is there any planet placed in Nakshatra owned by Ketu? He can be influenced by these too!
  2. You can repeat this same analysis from the birth Moon sign to get the effects that this Ketu Mahadasha is going to have on the emotional aspects.
  3. And you can repeat this same analysis using the divisional chart 9, Navamsha chart to get perspective on the sub-conscious and astral expectations and also the sum total of his potential. (If you find this complicated right now, don’t overwhelm yourself, do it whenever you feel more confident.)

Ketu is primarily the force of detachment and dissociation. As mindful dissociation from the manifested world is required for spiritual growth he is also called the Moksh-karak (agent of enlightenment). But broadly whichever house/aspect Ketu touches, he will make you indifferent to them. These will simply not be relevant to you, you will be apathetic to them. Sometimes being detached can give better fruits than being overly attached to things. If he is favourably placed and in the company of benefics and influencing the powerful houses of your chart he will give good results. Gains from overseas, business where you deal with intangible stuff (eg stock markets are just numbers not solid stuff), journeys to distant places including astral travel etc are possible. If he is heavily influenced by malefics and is going to give unpleasant results then he can cause, deaths, separations, amputations, losses, diseases, anxieties and related stuff. Ketu in his periods will shed off all that is consuming your energy for no good reason. All the things which are not wanted at the deeper inner levels will be cut off by Ketu.

But go through his karakatva/all that he stands for in the chart, before predicting hopeless things and causing yourself needless stress.

Step 2 is now you will need to evaluate upto the antardasha/sub-period levels at least. (Even smaller segments are called successively Pratyantar-dasha, Sookshma-dasha and Pran-dasha. The logic on how to analyse these even smaller units remains the same for each planetary owner of the sub/sub periods.) The lord of the sub-period will give his results within the broad framework of the overarching Ketu’s karakatva as above.

  1. Find out the power of the sub-period planetary lord like you did for Ketu above.
    • Which houses he rules over is more important now because Ketu is headless and will take cues from this sub-period lord.
    • Especially if this sub-period lord is the owner of the 2nd or 7th house (Marakesh) its sub-period within the Ketu mahadasha can cause physical death.
  2. The mutual relationship between Ketu and the sub-period lord. Are they friends/enemies/neutral. And their placement, if they are in the 6/8 or 2/12 uncomfortable aspects, that sub-lord’s sub-period will not be comfortable.

Step 3 is the routine planetary transits/gochar which will modify results during their transit periods. You can get this from your software and superimpose it on your D-1 birth chart. Use a different pen so that you can make sense of the composite chart you are drawing.ketu-9.jpgKetu Mahadasha/main period lasts for 7 years. His energies are quite intense thus this relatively short period. Within this, you will experience the following antardasha/sub-periods. These are very very general readings just to trigger your own thought processes. Each horoscope is unique so each will have its own unique analysis. Readings/combinations from books should be used for reference, as a starting point and to build into your own further analysis.

  1. Ketu antardasha – 4 months 27 days
    • If Ketu is placed well he will give gains in terms of professional life, personal life, may give awards and recognition, separation from negative things in life. But despite this he will give an underlying mental stress, maybe headaches.
    • If Ketu is not placed well, debilitated or under malefic influence he will be no condition to give positive results. Then he will give his results of apathy and separation in the negative sense, causing separation from the positive things in life. As Ketu is a headless graha, most problems will be in some way linked to the ‘head’.
    • He follows Mercury’s Mahadasha, so first of all will cause a sudden end to things which were going on in life. Things will suddenly start going out of sequence, karmic stuff will come up for resolution. Mostly endings! However if you can remain in control intellectually, you can actually make use of the spiritual things from your past lives which will now be accessible.
    • You might feel alone, introverted, caught in the past during this period. Try to divert these energies into your spiritual practice if you can so that your material life remains more stable.
  2. Venus antardasha – 14 months 0 days
    • If Ketu and Venus have a fruitful working relationship then expect pilgrimages, visits to sacred places, companionship, profits and gains through partners. Learning opportunities and broadening of philosophical outlook.
    • But if these 2 are in an uncomfortable relationship in your chart then expect eye problems, headaches, problems in relationships, they can also cause separations and divorces.
  3. Sun antardasha – 4 months 6 days
    • If Ketu and Sun are comfortable with each other and will give benefic results then gain in wealth, creativity, political power, favours from political leaders, a good relationship with the father, wins in legal issues is possible.
    • However negative results of such a combination can give problems with the government, health related issues, fevers, heart problems, unnecessary travel to foreign locations etc.
  4. Moon antardasha – 7 months 0 days
    • If Ketu and Moon are mutually comfortable then expect profits in your businesses, you may construct new houses, buy new cars or start something new connected with liquids. Interactions with women will increase. More results depending on all the things Moon stands for in your horoscope.
    • Else the negative effects are like this, problems from women, emotional issues destabilised life, lack of comforts etc.
  5. Mars antardasha – 4 months 27 days
    • If Ketu and Mars are on good terms in your chart you will start something new as can be seen from the karakatva of Mars in your chart. Eg, you can start new businesses or lands. There will be energy and confidence in pursuing your interests.
    • Else the negative effects can include traumas, surgeries, accidents, damage to the vitality of the physical body, diseases which cannot be diagnosed etc.
  6. Rahu antardasha – 12 months 18 days
    • Rahu and Ketu are always 108 degrees apart. Ketu desires Rahu and Rahu desires only his ambitions
    • If Rahu is well placed with benefic planets and is capable of giving positive results, your ambitions will be high and also will be fulfilled during this period. Especially sucess in foreign lands, markets and speculation.
    • If not then you will suffer from over-reaching and falling while chasing your ambitions. Troubles and diseases may accompany.
    • Here karmic influences predominate and free will is at its lowest ebb, so best lie low while this is on.
  7. Jupiter antardasha – 11 months 5 days
    • If Ketu and Jupiter are favourably situated then you can perform rituals like pujas, yadnyas etc, publicly visible ceremonies. There will be prosperity, celebrations and gains. Maybe marriages and birth of children.
    • If not then there will separations from the aspects of life defined by Jupiter in in the horoscope.
  8. Saturn antardasha – 13 months 9 days
    • If Ketu and Saturn are both capable of giving good results with each other then social mobility, hard work which yields success, change of job for the better,
    • If not then this period can cause physical problems related to bones, teeth, nerves, obstacles, death of parents (if indicated), social defamations, loss in power and money, theft, long journeys etc.
  9. Mercury antardasha – 11 months 27 days
    •  If Ketu and Mercury are favourably disposed towards each other can lead to pilgrimages, good health and comfortable lifestyle, huge profits in trade and good communications, birth of children etc.
    • If not then, can cause losses in mental and intellectual capacity, problems in speech, losses to the children and siblings etc.
    • This is the final sub-period of Ketu Mahadasha. In this period you will release all that related to Ketu and prepare yourself for the upcoming Venus mahadasha of 20 years.
    • If, in case, you have your Venus and Ketu conjunct with each other then you will have a massive 27 (20+7) years of life as a seamless Venus/Ketu combination mahadasha. And if by chance Venus is your ascendant also here you will face 27 yrs of a strange dissociation with your sense of self.

The generic remedy for those suffering from problems during this period of Ketu is pujas of Shiv or Shakti. Doing the Rudra-abhisek once in a while or a daily recitation of any Shiv mantra will be good. Or if you are more drawn to Shakti, a yadnya of Devi Mahatmya once in a while or reciting any mantra of Devi daily will help.

Analysing the effects of planetary periods requires an understanding of several factors in the horoscope, the most important being the karakatva of that planet (which areas of your life are controlled by the planet) and the power of the planet to give good/bad results. If you can determine these two things with confidence, analysing the effects of that planet’s periods will be easy.

This is the second shortest mahadasha at 7yrs. The shortest is the Sun Mahadasha at 6yrs. This 7yr period is very intense thus is very short. If you can do some spiritual practice during this period it can provide significant back-up for you for a lifetime. Ketu’s main period  is followed by the Venus Mahadasha, the agent of relationships, the longest one which lasts for 20yrs.

Ketu’s periods will be characterised by his keywords, separation, dissociation, apathy and disinterest. But these will be very intense periods where karma will be in the forefront and your options will be rather limited. It is a very short period of 7yrs as Ketu’s separative fiery energies cannot be tolerated for more than this. In this period, try to remain calm, try to actively take interest in things unfolding around you and do start some simple regular spiritual practice. These simple things will act as an anchor in Ketu’s periods and help you resolve your own karma more easily.

 

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Rudraksh Again

I had written a bit on Rudraksh earlier. But there has been a request for more on the different faceted ones. There is a huge market for weirdly shaped higher faceted Rudrakshs which the dealers capitalise on. You might be swayed by your dealer into parting with large amounts of money for beads named, ‘Gauri-shankar’, ‘Ganesha’, ‘Saraswati’, ‘Laxmi’, ‘Trijuta’, etc. But remember the Shiva Puran and the shastra is the basic resource for information on Rudraksh not your dealer. So be very careful while buying this bead. You should buy a round, spherical Nepalese bead not the Indian/Indonesian beads as far as possible.mandir bells ghantaAccording to Shiva Puran following beads should not be worn.

  1. Beads which have been damaged by worms and have visible holes where the worms have eaten them.
  2. Rudraksha beads have natural holes (Nepalese beads) through which the string is tied. This natural hole is irregular and not drilled smooth. Indian and Sri Lankan beads do not have holes and these are drilled artificially to give smooth holes.
  3. Roundness. Beads have to be spherical and smoothly round. Irregularly shaped beads are either not genuine or not good energy.
  4. Rudraksh of faces above fourteen are not mentioned in the shastras.
  5. Buy a bead which looks light for its size. So a light weighted large bead will be good or if you want to wear a small sized one it should be perfectly round in shape and size and the ridges on it should be pleasantly rounded not spiky.
  6. As far as I have seen Rudraksh is not a planetary remedy. (It is possible that some people have had other experiences with the Rudraksh as a remedy for planets, but I have not). So if your astrologer asks you to wear a 1-Mukhi bead for balancing your Sun, do take a second opinion and follow your conscience.

So how can you check out if the bead you have is genuine? It should be first of all round, spherical and pleasing to the eye. Indian beads are elongated. Indonesian beads are small and do not have prominent enough ridges.

  1. Break it open? The bead is a seed-case. The ridges on the outside/the facets correspond to the number of seed chambers inside. But do not destroy your bead, just X-ray it. The number of faces outside should be the same as the number of seed chambers inside it.
  2. Presence of a natural irregular hole is genuine. (not a drilled smooth perfect hole.)
  3. If you drop a rudraksh in water, it should sink vertically straight to the bottom.
  4. Avoid rudraksh on which dyes, vermillion etc has been applied, even if your dealer says it is a puja done to enhance the potency of the bead. More likely it is been done to hide the fake bead till you have paid for it.
  5. And finally for those who can see auras and feel the energy, a real Rudraksh has a silver-gold aura and if you hold it in your hand you can sense its force through your palm chakras.

ancient antique architecture artNow for the question on the number of faces on the bead.

1-face. A rudraksha of a single face is Siva himself very potent and with powerful energies which will grant Moksha. It is a round bead. It is extremely rare and never seen in the commercial markets. ‘Kaju-dana’ (Cashew Shaped) is not an ek mukhi/1-faced bead, it is not even a Rudraksh.

2-faces. A rudraksha with two faces is the Isha form of Shiva. It is also called the Ardhnarishwar as it symbolises the union of 2 forces which results in Creation/manifestation. It will grant you all the desires you want. Is quite rare, recheck before buying.

3-faces. A Rudraksh with three faces is dedicated to Shiva in the form of Agni. It represents the illumination seen at the third eye/Agni. This helps in clearing chakras especially increases focus on the third eye. Is quite rare.

4-faces. A Rudraksh of four faces is Shiva is the form of the creator Brahma. It will help in completing the 4 aims of life Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha. This one is easily available in the market and is never faked.

5-faces. A Rudraksh with five faces is Shiva in the form of Kalagni-Rudra. It helps in balancing the 5 tattvas (Prithvi, Aap, Tej, Vayu and Akash). Is found in all sizes and very common. The smaller this one is the potent its energy.

6-faces. A Rudraksh with six faces represents the son of Shiv-Kartikeya. It is worn on the right arm or the right wrist. It adds to learning and wisdom of all types. This is also quite easily available.

7-faces. A Rudraksh with seven faces is called Ananga and is linked to prosperity. This bead is easily available.

8-faces. This bead is called Bhairva and is easily available. It helps overcome fears of every sort and allows you to do your sadhana with single minded concentration.

9-faces. This Rudraksha with nine faces is also called Bhairav but with a difference. This one is presided over by the 9 forms of Shakti Herself and worn on the left arm. This bead is easily available.

10-faces. This is also called as Janardana and helps removal of all sorts of obstacles, evil eye and negativity. This is also available in the market but should be verified before buying.

11-faces. This bead is the 11 forms of Rudra Himself. It allows control over the vital energy/pran flowing in your body. It is available but is often faked, so be careful while buying it.

12-faces. This bead is linked to the 12 Adityas and is worn on the head in the hair. It is simply brilliant and helps in sadhana. If used properly can accelerate your spiritual progress so that you are able to ‘see’ the Golden Sun in your third eye(Hiranyagarbha).

13-faces. This bead is called Vishvedev. It is often used by religious leaders. This bead in the market is often fake made by cutting more grooves in the lower faced beads.

14-faces. Is the highest energy of Shiva, Tripurari. This bead is worn on the head in the hair, is called the Devmani (jewel of illumination). This bead in the market is often fake, made by cutting more grooves in the lower faced beads.

Now a bit on how to wear. You can wear all the types of beads as a single bead pendant. (wearing the specific faced ones on the arm or head will be obviously better). Or you can make a jaap mala of 108 beads (plus one Sumeru bead) and use it to count your mantra jaap or wear it in your neck. You can also dip them in water, do your mantra jaap over the water and sprinkle the water over yourself and in your house.

Then the mantra to be used with the Rudraksh in your puja. This bead like any other is a tool for channelising energy. You need to do some puja daily if you want to derive the benefits of the bead.  For normal householders like you and me the best and easiest way is to recite, ‘Om namah Shivaya’ 108 times (will take 5 minutes of your time every day). Or if you have a bit more time recite the Mahamrutunjai Mantra, Om Tryambakam yajamahe, sungandhim pushtivardhanam, uruvarukmiva bandhanat, mryutor mukshiya maam amrutat. Om’ 108 times (will take 15 mins of your time everyday).

(There are beej mantras different for each type of bead. But beej mantras are to be treated with respect and not randomly used. Pronunciation is paramount in using beej mantras. And rudraksh is a very potent energy. If you wish to find out more they are mentioned in Shivapuran, Padmapuran, Skandapuran and Brahajjalopanishad. I will not give them out in a post.)

 

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