Spare the rod and spoil the child? Really?

I really wish everyone learns to see auras, its easier than learning to analyse horoscopes.

A small (perhaps) incident. A few years ago.

One of my clients had a small 3yr old son, cute, behaviour was as per his age, no big problems, no tantrums. My client had married against the wishes of his mother. Naturally she disliked his wife. And whenever she would come over to stay at his house, his son would misbehave, screaming, crying, out of control behaviour, very agitated. Then the MIL would scold her DIL saying ‘you are not a good mother’!

I had gone to meet up with his mother, a social call. The child was misbehaving terribly, screaming at his mother, and rather than coming to meet me as ‘Auntie!’, he came and spat on me. His dad was furious and was going to beat him.

But the reality was something very very different. The child was not being rude, he just was agitated beyond control. See, the child would play with his grandmom, she would give him his food, take care of him, sleep next to him in the afternoon etc while his parents went to work. A doting grandmom, no issues at all, she actually loved him. But her aura was still so full of anger at her son and her DIL for getting married against her wishes. The auras of the three were actually fighting. The client and the DIL were not aware of this, were just generally uneasy around her. Whenever they got within 2 feet of each other, the auras would send out flares of rage and all sorts of negative stuff! (sometimes auras are really not pleasant to see).

The MIL’s illogical rage and frustration had spoilt the energy of the house. And the poor child was caught in this wild storm of negative auras! The MIL was being with him, taking care of him but unconsciously passing on her feelings through auras! And children are most sensitive to the astral, subconscious etc! No wonder he was misbehaving, he had gone mad with all the aura-conflicts around him.childJust look at the kind of energies we are exposing our children to! The television is garbage, movies are full of negative stuff. We give them mobiles and the internet which spoils their eyes and expose them to age-inappropriate ideas and behaviour. The schools they go to, what kind of education do they get there? Overstressed with school-work and home-work! And the quality of education has also dropped. The food we give them is full of pesticides. The houses we keep them in are cramped, we cut them off from nature. Our cities are full of sound, which tears into their auras. There are just so many things going wrong.

And then us. We are exposing our children to our energies. I wish everyone looks into their own aura sometime. Frustration, tiredness, fear, negativity in our auras, our children are drinking it all in! We don’t give them time. We don’t enjoy their company! Most children are living a life of trauma caused by the intense negativity around them. Hitting them would be the worst thing that anyone can do!

A lot of these problems with children can be resolved if we add pran/vital energy to their energy-starved lives. Sitting in the early morning sunlight, massage by ayurvedic oils, fresh fruits/salads in the diet, listening to Sanskrit high energy mantra. Going for day visits or vacations in places of natural energy, seaside, forests etc where the air is rich in pran (Pine forests have the highest pran levels). Performing the Agnihotra is compulsory for all Hindus, its vibhuti is very high energy. (My son eats it all the instant the homa cools down, but if I have been distracted during the homa, he also points out that the vibhuti’s energy was low).

And the most important, if it is a boy-child, Upanayan/Yadnopavit must be performed at the age of 6yrs. And he should be encouraged to do regular Gayatri mantra puja. For a girl child, she does not need to wear a yadnopavit, on her 6th birthday she should be taught the Gayatri and she should also do Gayatri puja, at least recite it (27 or 54 or 108 times) every day in the morning and evening. Gayatri is the right of every human. It increases the mental stability and intelligence and is the most valuable gift you can give him/her, the foundation of his/her life-time’s spiritual practice. And the parents too, recite the Gayatri along with the child, give yourself these 10 mins in the morning and the evening, your own personal energy quality will improve. (When the age of 7yrs is complete, the chakras of the child stop being so receptive to external influences.)

Why would a child misbehave? It is not normal behaviour, it is a response to something going wrong with him. Find out what is going wrong and change it for the better, this is the parent’s responsibility. Children represent the ‘creativity’ and divine intelligence of the parents in every way possible.

I can never condone hitting a child. Scolding is one thing, but physically hitting or verbally abusing cannot be justified. Maybe I am too idealistic, but we are adults, so should be wiser, more analytical and more understanding? Children copy us. And because we are human too, if we do lash out in anger, we should be sensible enough to make up and reassure the child before it causes a permanent negative impact on his psyche. (I have seen several of my grown-up clients carrying childhood scars of negligent parents, it is very difficult to resolve them later in life.)

childAnd yes, there are children who are neglected by their parents, perhaps beaten up or abandoned or put in hostels and orphanages. There are several combinations which show neglect by the father and by the mother. The astrological combinations would be related to the 4th house/ruler or 10th house/ruler or the Sun or the Moon being damaged by malefics in the child’s chart. If it is physical hurt then the birth chart D-1 will show the damage and if the torture is more emotional, the chart seen from the birth moon’s sign will have the indications.

If small children are misbehaving, first analyse the behaviour of the parents and the child’s environment. From the astrological point of view the Dasha of the child and the parents should also be analysed. (Gandant nakshatra births often go through a difficult childhood.)

If grown ups abuse and neglect their parents, then such parents would have a damaged 5th house/ruler and from what examples I have seen, their own Sun /Moon and 9th house/ruler would be afflicted too. And their own charts would show combinations of parental neglect during childhood.

But all things considered, a child is precious. We all may not be able to afford a lot of things for our children but two things we can do. One is to hug the child, tell him/her that he is the most loved one in the Universe, really mean it (remember he can see auras better than you). And the second is to gift him with ‘faith’ (spiritual practice, Gayatri), let him know that someone is always there, looking out for him. This brings in Hope, the ability to withstand the challenges that life is going to throw at him.

And my client’s child? He went back to his usual sweet self after his grandmom went back to her own house after staying for 1 month. The next time I saw him, he sat on my lap and showed me a drawing he had made.

 

child(This post was in response to this comment I received in the comments form. “I have seen small children in my area hitting their parents with lot of angst and the parents stand helplessly. Are there any combinations of children physically abusing parents no matter what their age. I happened to read an article by E Sreedharan -“Metro Man” talking about parenting. He mentioned that children from the age of 4 should be disciplined with corporal punishment. He believes in “Spare the rod and spoil the child”. What is your take on this…..”)

The simplest spiritual practice.

I have written a lot on spiritual practices, from Dhyan, Pranayam, simple Tratak to easy lifestyle changes which will go in very deep. But someone in the contact form wanted me to write on the simplest possible spiritual exercise. So here it is, Maun/Silence.silenceOur ancients have practiced Maun/Silence and even today spiritual seekers often go silent for days on end. My brother stays silent for minimum 3 days at a stretch once in a while to recoup his energies. Maun is the easiest thing which everyone can practice. It is very easy, you just do not speak anything at all. If you can stay completely silent for one day of the week, it would be a huge achievement. It is easy, nothing esoteric, just stay silent for one day out of the seven, every week. You can do this on your weekly holiday. It is nothing special, you will do all your regular activities as you do them, but do not speak, under any circumstance do not utter a word. You can write notes to communicate.

Do you have any conception on how much energy you waste when you speak?

Speech is not just sound from your lips, it has very deep linkages with your energy body. I had written about the creation of the seed of sound, the way each Akshar links to your energy body in my previous posts. The three chakras in your head around the Bindu at the top of your head are called Vama, Jeyshta and Rudri but they are also the creation of sound. Sound in Sanatan-Dharma/Hinduism, is Shabda-Brahma, the vibrations of the Ultimate reality itself. The central Bindu is the seed of sound called Para-vak, the next three phases of sound called Pashyanti, Madhyama and Vaikari, these are linked to these 3 chakras set in a triangle in your head.

Para-vak is pure One-ness, it has no form nor definition, it exists at the top Bindu of the Shri chakra. It is the state of Ultimate realisation, the seed form with all possible potential. Next is Pashyanti where the energy is lowered and differentiated. Pashyanti can be understood as the faintest glimmerings of an idea, the thought, the feeling/Bhava. Then is the Madhyama phase, here we know what it is that we are going to speak, we have the clear formed intention and sequence of ideas ready. Finally is the lowest energy version of all this, Vaikhari, the actual uttered words which come out of your lips. And of course when you utter the words you are drawing on your body’s individual chakras to power them.

If you can control the Vaikhari portion of this sequence, gradually you will retrace this sequence till you achieve Para-vak, the Ultimate realization. This process will not happen in one day, it will take its time and with routine practice, one day a week. Initially you will just maintain complete silence for a day. Over a few months you will realise that you are overall speaking less words, but whatever you speak has increased in intensity. Be careful after this phase starts as you can actually bless or curse with your words. Later you will realise that on your weekly silent day your mind has started becoming still, no thoughts seem to rise in your mind. Enjoy this when it happens, it will lead you to more things within yourself.

Closely followed by Maun/Silence is another simple practice, if you can do it. Do not touch anyone else for this one day of the week. Touching another living being transfers energy. If you are doing your spiritual practice, and you keep on touching others, this will make your higher self give away your energy out of Kindness. The more you isolate your aura, and do not allow it to mingle with persons of lower energy levels than yours, the faster you will progress. And there are lots of lower energy living beings around you as very few people do regular spiritual practice. The real Yogis would stay in isolation for just this reason.

So if you do both together, Silence + No touching others, together for one day a week, its effects on your energy body will be enhanced.

(And am writing this because I have done this myself. I went through a rather curious phase in life for a few years. I was living alone in a rather remote place, doing my job which had 2 days off per week. So practiced Maun/silence on these 2 days. Then we Indians don’t shake hands, don’t hug or anything like that, and most of my work colleagues were men, so despite regularly working in my organisation I was not required to touch anyone for extended periods. And I always observe my internal energies very closely. Not touching others for upto 3-4 months at a stretch, coupled with the weekly silence sessions was energy-wise awesome.)

Spiritual realisation an inherent part of yourself, you do not have to go anywhere to realise yourself. It is natural, effortless and easy, and a part of you. When you practice Maun, you are telling your innermost self that you don’t have to do anything, just Be.

 

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Virgo and Pisces, the most sensitive axis – Part 1

Pisces, the 12th sign of the Zodiac, belongs Jupiter, the agent of expansion. Pisces represents the feet of the Kalapurush (The human archetype linked with Space – Time). It is the foundation on which the entire system rests. This sign represents movement in every which way. You walk with your feet! If you have your birth Moon in Pisces, or Ascendant in Pisces, or a significant number of planets placed in Pisces in your birth chart, this is what you would be on the internal subconscious level.pisces.jpgYou are deeply spiritual and like places and things of religious/spiritual significance. You are drawn to everything that ‘flows’ on all levels the physical, astral and spiritual. e.g. water, time, space, emotions, experiences etc. You are attracted to the other states, the other dimensions, the dream states , the spirit worlds/Pitru-lok, etc and can link with them easily. You can act as a bridge and help these others. You are restless, very deep and mysterious. You are interested in history, mythology and reflection. You like spending time with yourself, ‘feeling’. You create ‘imaginary’ worlds to ‘escape’ from physical reality. And you might be surprised to know that these ‘imaginary’ worlds are actually a reflection of some other reality of which you are subconsciously aware. You always need that other-dimensional touch to be happy. A life purely on the physical levels does not appeal to you.

You are generally quite fair and aware of your internal conscience, you will not be involved in moral wrongs. You might come across as eternally confused and dreamy, but that is just on the surface. You have unfathomable depths, unknown to yourself in the ‘wake state’. You ‘feel’ your way through situations and are one of the best decision-makers of the zodiac after Capricorn. You think and analyse very differently from other signs, you are more intuitive. And you know that you are right, so can be quite stubborn at times. You are quite responsible and are often burdened with several responsibilities. You may be a home-maker or an executive, but you feel satisfied when you provide for others. You are quite capable of sacrificing yourself, your comforts and pleasures so that others, people, ideas, traditions etc can benefit. You are very loving and large-hearted but at the same time you often suffer for no fault of yours. When in trouble, you refuse for advice and help from others. You do not like to put others to trouble because of you. You internally welcome the change which comes out of the hardship/trauma and are quite adaptable.

Internally the Pisces knows that it has to end, only then will its new existence begin. Thus you often carry around yourself a sense of undefined sorrow. This is the last sign of the zodiac so naturally has to provide the foundation for the next cycle, which will begin as it ends. It is a responsible position and  in a way it is the summary of the entire zodiac belt. It is completion in every way. It is two fishes in perfect harmony, in the fathomless ocean, moving, balanced, in opposite directions, indicating a balance which is ever evolving.piscesThe biggest assets that a Pisces has are the agents represented by Cancer and Scorpio. The 9th from and 5th from axis works here too. The astral body, the subconscious mind, the movement of pran in your energy body etc add power to the Pisces (Also the Sukshma and the Karan sharir, represented by the 4 higher layers of your complex energy body.). These 3 signs are the creative intelligence and thus the subsequent foundation of each other in a cycle. One intelligently builds the support for the other and likewise in a cyclic manner. A Pisces can effortlessly plumb the depths, survive catastrophic changes of identity and recover useful information/experiences which it again uses as a foundation to delve ever deeper. Its dreaminess is only external, internally this sign is ever in motion, highly focussed, searching for internal spiritual treasures.

You can be quite successful in material life too, may gain as a result of your activities, power and position in social life. But material gains do not satisfy and often cause problems for you. But the thing is that you don’t mind working for others without any material reward in return! You know that material gains, which the world sees as real, are ultimately not real. Your concept of gain is the sense of completion when karma has been balanced. And you are willing to work tirelessly for it, in all possible dimensions, in all possible ways.

Challenges for Pisces are presented by the agents of Taurus, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Here are some of the things which have the potential to make you really miserable. First is the desire to hoard material treasures for your own self. Gaining for your own self will make you miserable. Then for whatever reason, ‘limiting yourself’. If you limit yourself and your actions to the small groups of spouse, partnerships, legal bindings, family, neighbourhood, philosophy, peer group, humanity etc you will be miserable. You are kind-hearted and you have a karmic load to re-balance which crosses all these defined narrow limits. You also have untold sources of energy which you can tap into, if need be. So follow your internal self and set your thoughts and feelings free, you will be happier. This does not mean that you just break all rules of material life and behave irresponsibly. Instead, recognise that your existence is much more than what is visible on the physical levels. Doing some spiritual practice will help immensely by diverting all this where it belongs, in the spiritual realm.

But, understand that these these signs and their agents ultimately help you in your spiritual progress. Now Libra demands that you work, serve and give selflessly of yourself to rebalance, it demands perfection here. Taurus wants you use all the resources at your disposal for good of the society at large, that you work and benefit everyone, in the broadest sense. Sagittarius will force you to change your perceptions and philosophies and will transform your sense of understanding, knowledge and wisdom. Aquarius will make you lose your limited sense of self and grant you the widest possible understanding of your most expansive Self. These lessons can be harsh, hard, fast, insistent and even terrifying. But these processes will be on the internal subconscious levels and on the material levels will be accompanied with pain and distress. If you accept these processes with a sense of learning it will be easier to cope on the material realm too.

The perfect partner, the mirror for Pisces is Virgo ruled by Mercury. This is a karmic partnership where each completes the other’s missing bits, thus both achieve completion.

The gist of Pisces is “Yadno yadnena kalpetaam” from the Rudra Chamakam. “May evolution be perfected by evolution”. Completion is not stagnant, it is ever changing and ever moving, evolving yet perhaps still remains the same. A Paradox!

 

pisces.jpg(This and the next posts will be on the Virgo-Pisces axis, which I have mentioned in my pervious post, Effectiveness of the Signs to be the most sensitive. I hope they will be of some use to the kind soul who had put the question in the contact form.)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Personal faith and spiritual practice

I am an Indian and I follow the Sanatan Dharm (some call it Hinduism).

  • Sanatan means eternal, perpetual, unending, permanent, etc.
  • Dharm means nature, attribute, manner, essential, characteristic, rightness, to become, just, practice, ethics, morals, merit, good work, virtue, law, observe, foundation, established, firm, duty, devotion, mark, character, steadfast, etc.

There are only 2 requirements in this Sanatan Dharma/Hinduism.

  1. Follow your Dharm, do the action that you are supposed to do. And do it to your best possible capacity. There will naturally be constraints and limitations but if your conscience/Antaratma is satisfied that you have done your action, its all ok. You answer to your conscience, No One Else. Your conscience is your judge, your verdict and your prison or merit.
  2. You were born and as a result become a full-time resident of this living world/Martyalok. You are bound to your body. When you die, unless your body is completely dissolved into the fire (conscious energy of fire i.e. Agni) and the remaining ashes dissolved into the conscious energy of flowing water (Aap), you will still be stuck with it. So the 16th Sanskar (appropriate action), is cremation/Anteyshti (last desirable action) of the discarded body. This cleanly separates the soul from the old life and it can move forward into its next life.

namaste4Now I am a Jyotishi and come from a family of astrologers, I have seen my both grandmothers and then my Dad too in their counselling with clients and also doing their spiritual practices. India has several types of peoples who follow different faiths, Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs, Parsis, Christians, Buddhists, Jews, Lingayat, tribal/nature Gods, etc. I have friends/clients from each of these faiths and some atheists too who believe in their own self. Frankly from the Jyotish point of view and even from the spiritual point of view all this is immaterial, of no consequence at all. You can believe in whatever you want to, that is your personal choice. If your conscience is ok with what you are doing its good. If not then you have created new karma and it will be resolved in the future or in your next lives. Each is responsible for his/her own actions and own self.

I have observed that there is a trend in which aggressive people belonging to religious groups, faiths, cults etc are brain-washing/forcing others to follow their group’s philosophies. This is not correct as no one can force others in this aspect. This is not Dharma. And they are creating negative karma for themselves. This is a very severe deep wrong on the moral level. Cheating another on spiritual matters is the worst crime which a soul can commit. And will manifest as a pitr dosh in their families/descendants and also will follow them wherever they take birth in their future lives. That is the result of their morally wrong choice of coercing others. They will have to rebalance this karma later.

Now if in this life if you are a follower of whatever faith, do follow it as per your conscience. We all need crutches to help us on our way. Take inspiration from the enlightened masters your family/religion follows. Do read the books of your faith if you feel they are correct. But do not let anything you read stop your sense of inquiry. You have to ask, you have to question, you have to find your answers for yourself. Each one is different, with different thought processes and perceptions. You have to find the answer which makes sense to you. But what is the Question?

One of the attributes/names of Mahamaya/Creative force of the Parabrahma/Ultimate Consciousness is ‘Kaa’. All Ved, Upanishad, etc ask this question ‘Kaa?’, ‘Who?’. So this is the question you have to ask yourself, Who am I?. Only when you ask this question will you know the answer. First ask! So read everything that your faith has to offer, listen to the discourses, do the rituals but keep on asking ‘Who?’ ‘Kaa?’. Desire that experience of Yourself with all your intensity and focus.

(‘Kaa’ = Ka + Aa, is a Sanskrit word. Every Sanskrit sound has 2 aspects, the inward moving/Nivrutti and the outward moving/Pravrutti. One confers knowledge/experience of the self and the other of the manifested externals. There are 54 sounds in Sanskrit, each with their 2 meanings gives 108, the ‘magic number’.

  • ‘Kaa’ means the unfathomable unknowable depth, time, the tremendous energy which is hidden, the unknown behind the Illumination/light. Also removal of misery and sorrow.
  • and also the manifested forces of nature which combine to create the Universes. The magic and enchantment created by Mahamaya
  • The associated Mantra is Om Kaayai namah.)

You have to focus intensely, single pointedly on Who? Kaa?. You have to focus on You. This you is the central Bindu of the Shriyantra geometry. This in your physical body is inside your head at the middle of your eyebrows. So how can you increase your focus? How do you silence your mind for long enough that you can experience the real you? Your mind is like a whirlwind, ripples on water, unstable, fast, changeable! Are you your mind? Are you your body? No you are not. You are something else altogether Who? Kaa?

There is only one way you will progress in your spiritual path, do your Dhyan. Sit on your Asan, silence your mind. Focus on yourself/Center of eyebrows. Breathe 108 times with your Mantra Om/Soham/Hamsa. Faith is one thing and spirituality is another. Spirituality is not reading and talking about wow! esoteric stuff, that would be just faking it. The day your Conscience tells you that the right action is to practice, you listen and start doing it. Spirituality is practice.

Each one of us will ultimately do Dhyan, some might be doing it already, some will do it in this life, some a few lives later. But there is no other way. We all will open the locks on our kundalini, walk through the highest high tension energy channel Brahmanadi towards our Reality.

 

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There was a comment with a lot of personal details. “I never thought that I would happen to read all these articles you have posted. I am 43……………….May God bless you

Thank you for the compliment. However I do not do full-fledged horoscope readings anymore, but you are an astrologer yourself so pointing out a few combinations which to me are significant for spiritual growth. In the physical world you are well off, respected in society, comfortable in life.

  1. D- 1 – physical level – Sagittarius asc – with Jupiter/asc lord and Ketu/moksh karak in 5th – internal dissociation from physical identity/environment. You do everything but internally detached. Creativity/divine intelligence unlimited. No ego. At 48yrs of age, Ketu/Jupiter will both mature, so many many channels of divine inspiration will open, use them wisely. Venus in 3rd/internal confidence, you question your family’s faith because you somehow know differently. Saturn sadesati is on. Saturn transit in Sagi, Capr, Aqua will cause emotional upheaval focussed around family/resources. Use your time well to consolidate. Saturn is with Ketu in Sagi till Jan 2020, take care of your bones, etc parts ruled by Saturn and overall. Transit Jupiter/Saturn will speed up healing later.
  2. D-9 – in the subconscious – Jup 9th house/Taurus, you know the real philosophy which you should live by, trust your internal self. Ketu 2nd house/Libra detached from the ‘fruits’ of your existence.  Rahu 8th/Aries gives capacity to manipulate vital energy/pran, if you do something like Dhyan it will help in bringing it to the physical level. Debilitated Sun with Ketu, cut off from personal ego. Practice seeing auras or spiritual practice etc with your eyes closed and in the dark.
  3. You like travelling (Asc lord and Moon in Moveable signs) so may wish to live in the Himalayas etc, but you have the ocean near you, an equally powerful source of energy, if you can regularly visit the sea shore, it has tremendous pran available, Close your eyes, breathe in gold/silver milky shimmery energy breathe out brown/black negativity.
  4. Wishing you all the best in your studies and in Life!

 

 

 

How to not create Karma?

(This is in response to this Comment I received in the Contact form: Excellent post on medical astrology! Could you write about placements/nakshatras/planets that incline individuals towards the metaphysical and occult pursuits of life? How does one balance karma doing so and not get into karmic entanglements?)

Karma is the bogeyman! If something goes wrong with you, your neighbour will be like (a tad gleefully),’ it’s your karma, you have to face it!”. Or if your friends feel that you have got something going for you which you don’t deserve, they will be like, “this is your good karma from your past lives!”. Sometimes you will give Rs 5/- to a beggar to create good karma for yourself. Spiritually inclined people on the other hand are wary of creating more karma of any sort. However beautiful it may look, Karma is entanglement with others because of your desires/conditioning.

I have written a post on how to judge spirituality from the horoscope here. Metaphysics, I guess means ‘spirituality’, the things which cannot be perceived by our limited 5 senses. Desire to achieve Moksh is antithetical to living a comfortable life in the physical universe. It is obvious I think, when you have filled your store houses with all the experiences that the manifested Universe has to offer, when you have enjoyed all the relationships to the fullest, you leave . Combinations which may not be seen as favourable for the ‘real-life’ things will be conducive to the spiritual route. The spiritual route is the way out. All planets and houses contribute in some way to this ‘spirituality’. (will write about the astrological combinations related to ‘occult’ in my next post)

If there is a background of reasonably good level of ‘spirituality’ in the horoscope the chances of creating a load of negative karma will lessen. You will be less entangled and/or whatever karma is binding you, will resolve.karmaHow to not create new karma? Shri Krishna is quite clear in his Bhagwat Gita. To condense it in one statement, ‘Do your Dharm’. But as Bhishma says in the same Mahabharat, ‘Dharm is subtle’. After these two statements which say it all, I can just add my very limited thoughts and experiences.

The problem of recognition – There is a rather unfortunate (from the spiritual point of view) expectation that one needs to be recognised for doing their work. Simple example, I am a mother so am expected to take care of my child, pack his tiffin, give him Sanskar, etc. This is my Dharm. When I do all this my conscience is satisfied. I do not expect my son to thank me for this. I have done my Dharm.

And because it is my Dharm, I am supposed to do it, so there should be no sense of ego about doing it. Should I be awarded for doing something that I am supposed to be doing in the first place? If I leave my child unattended and neglect him, my conscience will point it out to me. If I ignore my conscience, it will be registered as a negative Karma. Only my conscience/Antaratma has the power to judge my actions, no one else.

The problem of expectations – It is human nature, one might say, to expect and anticipate. And then later to get disappointed. It is not being pessimistic, e.g. however well my son performs I might think it is less. He works hard in school and gets an A grade, but I might get disappointed as I want him to get a A+ grade! (Several parents think like this and cause deep-seated traumas in their child.)

Karma is caused because of human nature. I might say, “I looked after my child, now as I get old, he is bound to look after me”. This sort of thought process will cause needless pain. I had written a post on forgiveness earlier. I should focus on my own action now, not bother about my son’s possible future actions. If I do my Dharm because I expect my son to follow his Dharm later, this is a negative thought process. I should do my Dharm because I should do it, for no other reason.

The problem of emotions – Dharm/Karma concepts do not mean that I am a robot, without emotions. When my conscience is satisfied with my actions it gives me deeper satisfaction and joy not linked to the ego. ‘I did my job perfectly’ is ego. But ‘circumstances came about perfectly and enabled me to do my job’ is a better thought process. I should give credit to the Universe for bringing the exact resources to me so that I could cook food and make my child’s tiffin. This way I remain grounded. (And remembering a previous life where I was very poor helps in reinforcing this thought process!). I should feel happy, sad, irritated, dejected, guilty, anxious, etc, but with the over-riding awareness that this too shall pass. I try to not get attached to these emotions very deeply because these are quite temporary. And to feel an inner joy in every action that I perform, it takes a bit of work but I try the best I can.

The problem of blaming others – This happens a lot with the clients I see. We all refuse to accept responsibility for our actions, most often in inter-personal relationships with the people closest to us. And the people closest to us are linked with the biggest karmic link.

The narrative is the same, ‘my wife argues so I argue with her’. But then, ‘Focus on what you are doing. You are also arguing and reinforcing the karmic link. So you will be stuck with this same argumentative wife in your next life too! Do you want this? Instead try to talk through and resolve it like mature grown-ups’. Getting a client to understand this idea of karma is utterly difficult. I think they enjoy arguing at their inner levels.

I do this too, get trapped in activity/mental/emotional loops, but recognising this as a loop is the first step.

YOLO? You (certainly do not) live only once! No one goes anywhere, every act/feeling is recorded in the astral self. If I feel/act very with strong attachments it will be recorded strongly. If I behave irresponsibly because I think ‘I live only once’, it can create loads of karma for the future lives. So it is best to think twice about the thought processes and philosophical base of the life/actions.

Being independent – If I know what I am supposed to do/my Dharm, I am free. My actions are not dependant on other people. I know my role and I know that I am doing it to the best of my ability. Later even if my boss says that I haven’t done my part, my conscience knows that I have! I cannot be made to feel bad by the other’s behaviour. So listening to the conscience, not the ego is key.

Follow your conscience. And because we are so used to being deaf to our inner voice, we all need to do some tiny regular spiritual activity or be with nature so that we remain silent and listen to our conscience speak.

 

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Experiences in Dhyan

Here are a few things which may help you be more at ease with your Dhyan and the experiences which you will get while you engage in your spiritual practices. There is always a Guru (Guru is energy so can be in any form, physical, astral, anything) to guide through this phase but with so much misleading information on the internet, this is just to bring clarity and sense. If someone needs to read this, it will remain available.kundaliniDoing Dhyan or having experiences while doing it is nothing special. It is natural and not an achievement. If you create labels for yourself like- I am a ‘yogini’, ‘sadhak’, ‘kriyavan’ etc. you are falling even subtly into the trap of ego. This ego will be colored by ‘spirituality‘ thus even more difficult to get out of.

Do not expect anything to happen during Dhyan. Once you start expecting, you will feel the mental/ emotional response of achievement and disappointment. Anyways these experiences are as fleeting as the manifested Universe. There is no point in remembering and reliving them. If you think that you are controlling your pran or controlling your kundalini or whatever, your own thoughts are going to magnify your experience. Whatever you think of you will manifest. Do not think of anything. You are trying to manifest the Ultimate, you cannot think of That as it has no attributes. If you put labels in your thought processes you will never realise the Ultimate.

And stop thinking of Kundalini. It is over-hyped. It is the restriction on your self. It holds back the force of self-realisation, it is a lock. The first lock in a series of locks. It is the basic energy holding you to this manifested universe. If you have to break the ego you have to break this kundalini, not desire it! The lock of the kundalini is under the control of Devi Mahamaya. It is by her blessings that it will be opened. Thus Devi is often visualised as a compassionate benevolent protective mother. She is the Mother as She has created this illusion of ‘jivatma’/soul and the playground Universe. Visualising her as ever helpful, ever generous and protective helps. As you visualise you manifest.kundaliniAs your Dhyan deepens you will have ‘paranormal’ experiences, you might even doubt your vision and other senses. You might hear voices, see things, feel things, get strange disconnected from reality thoughts. This can happen even when you are doing your regular daily activities. So just be careful especially if you drive, you might lose your sense of coordination. These are random things and will eventually resolve as your body balances out the energy.

Now this is important, as you progress more deeply into your own self, try to limit physical contact. Interactions with others might also reduce, they will continue on superficial levels of course. Try to eat satvik food, cook something for yourself everyday, even a cup of tea! It might help if you wash your clothes separately, not with the general family’s clothes.

Remember you have activated the force of self realization. You are not your body and neither your physical environment. You might face strange responses from your family/friends. You are actively dissociating from them internally. Your physical body may act strange e.g. you will stop feeling hungry or thirsty, as your Dhyan generates enough pran for your sustenance. But consciously remember to eat, drink and sleep adequately. Yes, you are not attached to your body, but your body is the tool. You will attain reality only with the support of this body, so always take good care of its health. And the vehicle is only useful till you reach your destination, so do not get attached to your body/vehicle.

During this no-hunger phase do some fire related yagnyas/homa of whichever mantra which appeals to you. This will help in maintaining the digestive fire and create appetite. Or you can give Surya arghya every day at sunrise. After you Realise Yourself at the final step of your journey at the Dwadashant, you will have 2 choices, one is to simply discard the vehicle. The vehicle has served its purpose you have reached your destination. Or second option is to continue in the vehicle and function in the manifested Universe with full Awareness. This is Your Ultimate Self bring kind to the other mortals. If You choose the second option, you are going to need the body, so take care of it. Then you will be a Guru, guiding others on their journey to Moksh.

Now the idea is to have no desires and no thoughts. You have to discard everything related to the manifested universe and this is difficult as this creation is all you consciously know. Your mind consciously knows only these things, thus silencing the mind is necessary. So your foundation has to be strong, the more strongly you discard all evident and subtle desires during your initial phases, the easier it will be later after the locks on self-realization open.f3Now Siddhis. As the force of pran and then later the force of self realisation moves upward in the brahmanadi, at each point you will be shown an aspect of Yourself. (remember the 33 koti/classes of gods each occupying one segment of your vertebral column). Each of these ‘deities’ energies will offer you gifts, these abilities are called Siddhi. Siddhis are available only for that one life as they are not carried forward into next lives. Engaging in Siddhis will slow down your journey. If you get fascinated by these Siddhis and use them with a sense of self/ego, you get caught in the trap of ego. The higher up you get caught the more tightly and subtly you get entangled. You will require even more lives to resolve this subtle ego- trap.

Some might justify that they are using the Siddhis to help other people and do good. But this is self-delusion. You have started on your journey to experience yourself, first complete what you have set out to do. Helping people can be done later, first experience what you have to! Unless you know the Ultimate how can you help others in their journey?

Be very clear about what you think yourself to be at the deepest levels. Whatever you think of yourself to be deeply, a king, teacher, leader whatever, this entire Dhyan process will augment this thought. So be very very careful of your thoughts.

This path to self realisation is for everyone and still is extremely personal. Each one has a different experience depending on what his past expectations and studies have been. If you have followed the Devi Mahatmya, (you might see events described in it) or the Bhagwat Gita (you might perform the entire battle of Kurukshetra) or the Vignyan Bhairav tantra (you might experience the 108 ways of self realization) or anything else you will experience things differently. However one thought should be uppermost, ‘I am the Parabrahma, I have no attributes and no limits. I Am.”

Finally trust yourself and do not discuss what you experience with others. If you have doubts or questions, ask Yourself, before sleeping at night ask your subconscious self that question, it will be shown to you in your dreams.

Always, you are the Parabrahma, you cannot be defined by anything of this manifested Universe. All ideas, all words, all concepts are of Mahamaya, the creative force of the Parabrahma, these cannot be used to define ‘Parabrahma’. That is why it is called Para = beyond/other/higher, Brahma = knowledge/existence/absolute etc.

“Om Yoham-asmi brahma-aham-asmi | aham-eva-aham-maam juhomi svaahaa ||”

(Om, I am That, I am Brahma, I Am what I Am, I worship Myself, I offer Myself to My Ultimate Consciousness!)

 

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Myths and things in ‘energy work’.

In India, if someone does ‘energy work’, he/she is generally called a tantrik/shaman, and others respect him but are also a bit wary of him. He is a part of the society but still apart. People will go to him only as a last option and most think of ‘energy’ as superstition. But from what I see on social media is that in the west, people are eager to get into all this. It is nice, everyone should be aware of their energy and be able to work with it.

I will divide ‘energy work’ into 2 categories. There is a heaven and earth type of difference between the two.

  1. Working with your own energy for your personal spiritual development – Here you are following Shri Krishna’s advice, ‘Focus on your immediate action’. This dissolves karma.
  2. Using your experience with manipulation of energy to do stuff. Here you do not follow what Shri Krishna said because you are focussing more on the ‘reason why you are doing this action’! This can create new karma.

gayatriWorking with your own energy is the most natural thing that you can do. In India, we are taught from our childhood onwards to recite prayers, mantras, to do small pujas, homa, gayatri mantra jaap and stuff. Most houses will have a copy of a spiritual book, mostly Bhagwat Gita or perhaps Devi Mahatmya, but rarely even Vignyan Bhairav Tantra. In some families, children are taught how to do Dhyan. My family also taught me Jyotish.

If you follow your family traditions you are well on your way to being aware of your own energy. But for those who have missed out on having such a family background, the easiest thing is to start the Gayatri mantra jaap. Get a Asan and fix it in your mind that you will do 108 times jaap of Gayatri mantra once/twice/thrice a day, (morning/evening twilight and midday are the three appropriate timings), or anytime as per your convenience. Gayatri is the light which will take you on your internal journey, put your faith in it and allow it to transform you. (Or you can start with Dhyan, but as small children are first taught Gayatri jaap during their thread ceremony/Upanayan, this mantra is the foundation, it helps put you in the habit of sitting on one place and focussing.)

As you progress, you will feel a change in yourself and also in the people around you. As you become more aware of your own self you become ‘lighter’. You also become more aware of other people deeply. You pick up stuff from their auras, from the sub-conscious. You can sense the energies of stuff, houses and places you visit. If you go and pray in our ancient temples, you can sense the Deity looking back at you (often your hair will stand up in waves on your body, or you will sense a refreshing coolness). You will be able to repay your karmic accounts on the level of energy directly. Life becomes more multidimensional and very very beautiful. These are all indications that things are on right track.

As you progress even more you will be made to do specific activities which will manipulate the pran directly within your own body. You might be made to do specific Dhyan, Pranayams or Anushthans etc. You will be told by your own higher self. But you can listen to yourself only when you recite the Gayatri. It is the foundation of every Sadhana.

In this ‘energy work’, there is no danger and nothing to be scared of. You are trusting the ‘Vedmata’, Gayatri Herself. She will take you along the best possible route. Your only job is to recite the Gayatri mantra, again and again and again, it is this easy!

As you focus on the Mantra, your intense concentration wipes off every other thought from your mind, no past no future no parallels. You will ultimately experience the present Moment. Here you are stopping your mind from wasting its energy thinking frantically always and instead letting the Mantra power your soul on your true journey!gayatriNow to using your experience with energy manipulationSpiritual progress is ultimate but rather ‘non-glamourous’. Most people are more fascinated by the physical visible wow! ways of using energy. This can get a bit problematic if you do not pay attention. There is also a reason to be wary of things which are not a part of the regular physical existence. So here are a few things which you should be aware of when you engage in ‘energy work’. It sounds very exciting! But it is hard work and requires you to be vigilant and take precautions.

First of all this is a subject of the astral not physical. You manifest using your thoughts and your astral potential. So be very clear about what you are doing, a back-lash will register in your astral self and will carry on through your next several lives.

Once you start thinking on these topics, you will attract others from the astral dimensions who will offer to work with you for a bargain. Again be very careful about what you are doing, things are never what they seem to be, they literally have other dimensions.

Always cleanse, ground and shield yourself. As long as you are aware of only the physical world, others from the other dimensions do not bother about you. But once you enter their other dimensions, they also become aware of you. So always shield even when you are sleeping or dreaming or in deep sleep. The only place where you will be truly safe will be your Asan on which you do your regular spiritual practice.

You will need to develop enough confidence in your own energy. The other energies you work with are not from this dimension so look, feel, even taste weird, misshapen and often fearful! If you feel scared and lower your guard, you will be in trouble.

You will have to do some regular spiritual practice, there is no alternative for this. The amount of energy that you need to dabble in ‘energy work’ is enormous. So start something and stick to it. If you do not replenish your energies regularly you will fall ill and will feel drained for no reason.

Next is to be careful of what you eat and drink. You cannot allow tamasic energies into yourself. These are very ‘heavy’ and your energy bodies get uncomfortable under their influence. Non-vegetarian food and intoxicants are the worst because they overload the body. Your body is the geometry (Mahameru) through which you focus and channelise your energy. This has to be in perfect shape for you to use it. If you overload it with tamasic energies it loses its perfect balance.

And ultimately do only the work you are required to by Karma. Do not get carried away with the sense of power you will develop. When you start sensing your energy in whatever way, you ‘feel’ more. You sense the difference between you and other ‘normal people’. If you let it go to your head and start doing stuff to show off or to assert your ego it will result in negative karma. Just remember that everyone is a fragment of the Ultimate and keep your ego grounded. magicNow there are gentler ways of using energy like Reiki. This is a good way of accessing the Universal energy, but the philosophy of Reiki being taught now is not what Mikao Usui initially taught. He was very clear that Reiki has to be taught to everyone and everyone should do self-healing. Doing healing on others was not advised except in extreme cases. There is a reason for this. When you do healing on others even for that brief 5mins and even if you are well shielded, your auras link up very deeply, there is always a chance of exchange at the deepest levels. Not good! And the second reason is that if you get emotional (most of us do feel compassion for the client), you can end up sharing your own personal energy sub-consciously.

And finally if you choose to use your energy actively for any sort of work, you will have to control your thoughts. Your thoughts are your tools. You cannot get randomly angry or swear or think of harm. The reason is that you will then subconsciously power such thoughts with your energy and the negativity will manifest. You will harm others with your thoughts and earn negative karma for yourself.

I know that every one who starts accessing their energies through spiritual practice will at some point ‘dabble’ in the second type of ‘energy work’. It is exciting, no doubt! But always remain aware of what you are doing and be careful. Ultimately it is between you and your conscience. Play with energy if you so wish, but be aware of Karma. And sooner or later you will decisively adopt the category 1 of ‘energy work’, of working with your own energy for your personal spiritual development, just like Shri Krishna said.

 

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(Thank you to the kind soul who suggested this topic, I hope reading it triggers something good for you!)