Soul mates and twin flames

There is a lot of discussion and chatter on ‘Soul-mates’ and Twin-flames’ on Facebook and other social media. People are managing to find other people who share their ‘soul-stories’ and stuff. Karmic love stories and Karmic relationships! It sounds so romantic, being connected since several lives and remembering who exactly we were back then for each other.

But the way I see it on Facebook, ‘twin flames’ seems more a reason to make out rather than a way of balancing Karma.

All our relationships are karmic. Whoever we meet, even for one second, has met us because of Karma. If we give Rs 5/- to a beggar it is not because of the goodness of our heart but because we owe him that money from our past lives. My brother had one rather traumatic experience recently, in a flight he was seated next to a man with a completely tattered aura. An alcoholic, drug-addict and a womanizer. In flight seats, the auras connect deeply as the arms touch at the seat’s arm-rests. The flight was full, so there was no option of sitting elsewhere. My brother couldn’t do anything to protect himself from such a close contact, such a dirty aura touching him and had to endure for the 1.5hrs of travel time. The fellow traveller was sub-consciously requesting energy and my brother’s higher self was giving it. It drained him and he ended up with a heavy skin rash and indigestion that lasted for 2 days. This was his Karma to help and suffer for it!

Soul mates and twin flames

We all remember our past lives to a limited extent in the conscious awake states and almost completely in the sub-conscious states. If the planetary positions permit you can remember the events from the past life easily. It is the navamsha kundali at work. The 9thdivisional chart is the resources that we have gathered over our innumerable lifetimes. It is here that we keep track of all our past lives, the experiences and the karmic burdens. The D-1 birth chart, is the manifested reality, just a small part of the D-9.

I have had several clients who remember their past lives and their exact relationship with some other person who is alive and around them. A common thread was that they were doing some personal regular spiritual practice. After they saw these memories and came to terms with these, their spiritual practice improved dramatically. A few examples may be interesting to read, thus recounting.

  • A 44yr old man remembers his daughter. A 25yr old wife of his business partner was his daughter from a past life. He was very strict with his daughter and didn’t pamper her, he regrets it, so in this life he makes it a point to buy the young woman some small presents and also for her baby also from time to time. He is balancing his Karma.
  • My brother was doing reiki attunement on a woman and during the attuenment, visions of her past life as a very powerful woman tantric flashed before him. She had a brief intense head ache which represented the blocks on her sub-conscious being opened. This is very rare to have a headache during reiki attunements. She had helped him in his past life thus he was helping her now, returning the energy.
  • A client remembers his present birth mother being his mother in several of his past lives. In one past the mother tortured his wife to death and my client turned into an alcoholic and died in trauma. In another this mother had my client as a daughter and promptly sacrificed her to a goddess. In another this same mother was a male tantric who killed my client and trapped his spirit to perform his tasks in the astral realm. This was a very toxic relationship for my client even in this current life. But knowing about this past helped him to find his personal balance.
  • Another client remembers his current wife being his best friend in several past life, both were men together, and in one life both were male sanyasis. He even remembers how they looked like and where they were living. This helped him and his wife make more sense of their marriage.
  • My brother once saw a vision one of my clients as a small girl playing with her sister in some past life. This sister died as a child so was buried near a temple. The goddess had taken the sister’s spirit in her care. My client was being asked to give a gold ornament and a sweet dish of rice and milk to the goddess. As my client too saw the same visions she happily did as required. Her sister’s soul connected to her briefly before moving onto a new life, bringing my client the deep joy of Karma balanced.

In all these years, I have seen only one example of a heavy-duty karmic relationship. Two friends in this life. They have been with each other in every possible way in several lives, father-daughter, mother-son, husband-wife, brothers together, sanyasis together, brother-sister, doctor/patient, teacher/student, etc and have lost and found each other in every combination. It is quite traumatic for them in this life. They keep seeing new memories from their past lives practically every month, which then have to be resolved by conscious effort. But as they heal from every memory their spiritual growth accelerates.

Soul mates and twin flames

These examples may seem quite interesting reading, maybe like a story. But each vision from the past has been an emotional experience of release and growth for the person experiencing them.

I do not advocate hypnotic trances, I feel it to be a forced violation of the integrity of the sub-conscious. There are hypnotists who perform past life regressions and can retrieve information from the sub-conscious. But then what can you do with this information? And what if you see more than you should and wake up with a new more horrifying memory? Your sub-conscious is the Real You, and is your higher self. It provides you answers in the form of ‘instinct’ or ‘gut-feel’ when you need it. Forcing it will result in an unregulated or even dangerous flow of information. This may over-whelm the conscious self and literally shut it down. In a hypnotic trance the conscious self/ gate-keeper has been removed and you experience the events of the past again. Why should you? You have already experienced it once, why relive them? And remember you are not that person from the past who had experienced that issue. You are a different person in this life with new perspective of seeing things. (Both your incarnations have different D-1 birth charts). E.g. In a past life you got beheaded, maybe it was routine in that life’s context, the French guillotine. Now, if your present self sees that event and feels your neck get cut and sees your head rolling on the ground, it will 100% create new traumas. There have been examples of people suffering mental health issues after such hypnosis sessions.

However there are some typical cases especially when the client has some blocks in his spiritual practice. As I have mentioned earlier, the energies generated in deep Dhyan can literally ‘burn’ Karma. But sometimes there are Karmas of such intensity that they cannot be ‘burnt’. They have to be consciously resolved and balanced. Such blocks are a result of extremely deep seated emotions. So in cases where I feel that the issue can be resolved only by delving into the past lives, I use the birth chart, the D-9 chart then the Prashna Kundali of the present moment. Generally I get my answer from these charts. But if not then I use either of the following,

  1. Guided mediation – it is a very gentle method of finding the solutions. I never go searching for the problems of the past life. Instead of reliving the problems and the traumas, search for the solutions. This is not hypnosis, the client is just relaxed so that the sub-conscious gives him the solutions and the healing energies that he needs.
  2. Tarot cards – If I feel that the client is too upset to focus, I use Tarot cards. I ask the Universe to show me the images through the cards which I can use to counsel the client. This also helps the client but puts an additional burden on me as I have to ‘see’ and then explain.

So all those who are chasing twin flames and soul mates understand this, you have lived the past and its gone. Remembering the past (read the post here) is of no real value unless you can integrate the experiences and its learning lessons in your current manifestation. If you feel that you need to know the reason for your suffering and only then can you heal yourself, then you are in for some serious unnecessary mental/emotional suffering.

So trust Karma, whatever you have done will come around, you have sown and you will reap. The timing is as per the Laws of Karma. It may be good or bad, but it is your action, not anyone else’s. If you cannot trust Karma then at least trust your Higher Self, your D-9 Navamsha!

For the average person there is no need to delve into the past lives, doing so will create more problems than it will solve.

 

Soul mates and twin flames

Remembering Past Lives

It is rather easy to remember past lives. Small children can do it very easily, but as we grow up the present life’s impressions become stronger thus remembering the past life more difficult. But there are several means of doing this, most commonly past life regression trances, or guided meditations, or Dhyan-mediations.

Our past lives are always accessible and if you really need some information from there you can pull it out. In fact, your sub-conscious will make it available to you. If you have some spiritual background it will be easier to do so. Even normal people with little or no spiritual base find themselves doing things because their intuition tells them the way. Intuition is nothing but the accumulated experiences of all your past lives. It is the real you, and it is always available as a ‘gut feeling’! Sometimes you like someone for no real reason or hate someone on sight, these are not irrational feelings but are sourced from deep within your entire lives-experiences.

If you are really interested in knowing about your immediate past life, you can, easily. This past life chart is same as the D-1 birth chart, but here you will count the 2nd house from the ascendant, as the 1st house of the past life chart. So to find out your personality of the immediate past life, check out the 2ndhouse of your current birth chart. Use the keywords from this post to check out the rest of the houses and thus know your immediate past life.

There are some combinations which allow you greater access to the astral store of past lives. The most important one is Rahu/North Node in the 12th house or in Meen/Pisces rashi, especially aspected or conjoint with Jupiter either in the D-1 birth chart or D-9 navamsha chart. This will allow you to remember the wisdom acquired in the past lifetimes. The combinations involving the 12th house which force you to leave your home and settle abroad are also favourable for accessing past lives.

The Navamsha D-9 kundali is the chart you have to refer to know about your Real Self forged by the experiences of all your lives. For example I know a chart where the person in his past lives, either was always left a widow/widower or continually abandoned his/her spouse.There was intense love on the subconscious levels but not much physical interaction because of these death events. His Venus of the D-9 in the 12th house shows this episodes of loss of physical relationships as a permanent feature. If he marries again, this pattern will be repeated. But his D-1 has Venus exalted in the 9th, aspected by the Moon and Jupiter. This indicates that he was able to convert the loss of the physical into the gain of the spiritual and has developed a perfect relationship with his personal philosophies and Self. This will lead to his Moksh soon.

Remembering Past Lives

However there is a recent trend where people visit a hypnotist for knowing about their past lives, through induced trances and regression. This in my opinion is needless and can lead to even more trauma. E.g. you have an irrational fear of thunder and lightning so you go to a consultant. He puts you into a regression trance and you realise that you have in some past life been killed in a lightning strike. All good, the trauma will be resolved now that you know why. But now this hypnotic trance is not a normal action, someone has actively invaded your sub-conscious self. The self has no control on what it is showing you from your past life. So then you see that you were out in the rain because your husband beat you and threw you out of the house, you had nowhere to go. And that husband is now your present life’s son, who now genuinely cares for you. Now what? You have unnecessary information which will now affect your relationship with your son!

There is a reason why the D-9 navamsha kundali and the D-1 basic birth chart are different. You cannot experience the present if you always have the entire past from all your past lives in front of you. In a very broad sense there is nothing called as ‘Time’. There is only a single moment and all your lives from the past, present, future and all the parallel universes are all happening just this instant. The seers and sadhus experience this Moment and thus Enlightenment. As you progress spiritually, you also will access even more information as your mind is able to absorb. Training the mind to absorb the Experience of the Universes and Itself is a slow process. If your mind gets over loaded with information that it cannot make sense of, it will shut down and go insane. There have been several incidents where hypnotic trances went wrong and the person lost his mind. Too much information was revealed during the hypnotic ‘rape’ of the astral self that the physical conscious self, collapsed.

We are continually evolving, in each life. Even if you are not consciously aware of it, you move even closer to your ultimate desire, Moksh! So concentrate on your present manifestation, the experiences you are here to learn and the karmic balances you are here to work through. You learn through your interactions with other humans. This is a continuous process. You cannot desire to go back to your past and relive or re-do anything. It has already occurred and you have already learnt from it. And it may be confusing too. We move as a soul-group, inter-connected souls living with each other in all ways, in all relationships and experiences through several lives together. Your mother from your past life is now your son, so how do you wrap your mind around this concept? Even if your best friend, a man now, was your sister in some past life what can you really do with this information?

Remembering Past Lives

Another important thing is that in every life the soul manifests a different reality D-1 which is derived from the D-9. Now when your best friend was your sister it was a different personality, it was not her as he is now. Now he is a very different person from who your sister was. It is a mind bender! Too much information about the past causing problems in the present.

Since we have been discussing our continuum of lives, here is something that you should think about. The physical body does not endure, it destroys itself. But the astral body endures. If you focus on developing physical attributes in your life remember that you are investing your energies in a very temporary thing. But if you develop your mental, emotional and spiritual qualities they will be stored in your astral body. These assets will be available to you in your subsequent lives too. A tiniest bit of activation and your assets are back. This is the reason in the Sanatan Dharma (Hinduism), there is a huge focus on spiritual development. It is your asset for all lives to come. You will build on this resource in every life till you finally attain Moksh!