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Abusive spouse from the horoscope

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All of us want a happy married life, with a loving husband/wife, sweet children, domestic peace and harmony. Then again as married couples know, marriage, just like any other relationship has its ups and downs, and most of us are ok with that. But for a few of us this dream of a happy marriage shatters completely as we face up to the reality of an abusive spouse.

Most Indian parents match the charts of their children before getting them married to avoid problems later. But sooner or later you will get a client who says that he/she is being abused in the marriage. Abuse can be on several levels, physical hurts even murder, psychological, mental, financial, jealousy, control, domination, blaming, etc. Both the husband and the wife can be cruel, I have seen both examples. However the woman is more likely to try and seek help. In cases where the wife is abusing the husband, he generally remains silent unable to speak out regarding his misery.

You might be given horoscopes of both the husband and wife. Generally the question is if they should try to conciliate or go for a divorce. You should analyse the victim’s chart for specific pointers for ‘victim-hood’. Check the chart of the spouse if he is involved himself or is it his family doing the torture. If the spouse is clearly the aggressor. Or is he a mute by-stander while his family is abusing the spouse. (In one eg. it was the brothers of the wife were abusing the husband). If you get their children’s horoscopes too, they might show typical combinations where the parents do not get along well together, ie their 4th, 10th houses will show the effects.

In this situation generally everyone either lies or exaggerates, so be dispassionate, check the horoscope for the truth, or refer to a prashna kundali for confirmation.

Abusive spouse from the horoscope

First the houses, check if there are overt malefic influences and no supportive beneficial influences. Go through the following houses, depending on what kind of a problem is being described by the victim you will see the patterns.

Some typical combinations. Fiery or dissociative planets like Sun, Mars, Saturn, and Rahu /Ketu in the 1st or 7th house can indicate the violent nature of the spouse. Any association of Venus and Rahu should be examined with due care, ie even if they are in the same trikon they can influence each other. They can give affairs outside marriage. Look into the relationship of 3rd and 6th houses with Mars, Moon and ascendant lord. Another pattern is if the ascendant lord and the lord of 7th are in the 6/8 axis. (eg Cancer ascendant, Moon in 3rd house, Saturn in 8th house, the 6/8 axis operating). If the owner of the ascendant or 7th house with the nodes/ functional malefics. If the 2nd 4th 7th houses together are damaged at birth or in transit there is a marital problem with clashes in the family/house, etc.

  • The ascendant sign i.e. the 1st house will indicate the personality and the environment that the person has.
  • 2nd house – indicates the birth family of the person. Sometimes the birth family does not support the person if he/she complains of problems in the in-laws house. (I saw one horrific example where the father point-blank refused to support his daughter. She was left with nowhere to go, died soon after.)
  • 3rd house – can indicate a potential criminal mind-set (read a post here)or the involvement of the siblings.
  • 4th house – the environment of the home where he/she lives, the birth mother, the father-in-law. Analyse this in detail.
  • 6th house – problems that the person faces, debt, enemies, infamy, bad luck, slavery, servitude, being sold off?
  • 7th house – relationship with the life partner and social status after marriage. this house will require detailed analysis.
  • 8th house – organs of reproduction, hormonal issues, marital-relations, accidents, surgeries, secrets which can create traumas, etc. The family of the spouse. The 8th house is catastrophic transformations, which also includes marital abuse, divorce, widowhood, death etc. It indicate impotency or deviant sexual habits which can exacerbate domestic violence. Malefics here, even if they own that same sign can cause problems. Analyse this house critically.
  • 10th house – the specific mother-in-law
  • 12th house – subconscious hate, guilt, suppressed feelings, things that happen behind closed doors in secret, behaviours in the bedroom.

Now check the planets for their power to give auspicious/inauspicious results. The ascendant house/ lord, the birth Moon and the 7th house/ lord in the birth chart are especially important. If these are strongly placed there may be problems but the marriage might survive but if these are severely damaged then the possibility of divorce cannot be ruled out.

  • Ascendant lord – how well does the personality and the environment match. Is the personality stable, well-adjusted or not
  • Moon – Identifying criminal tendencies and perversions of the mind is linked to the position of the birth moon. The mind-set as a whole. If he is afflicted by cruel and malefic planets.
  • Sun – a very powerful Sun in the spouse’s house invariably means unhappiness in the marriage. If this strong Sun further occupies the 1st 4th 7th 10th houses, this person ignores the spouse, can be ruthless, dominant and psychological torture cannot be ruled out.
  • Jupiter: as a significator of husband Dharma-pati, marital auspiciousness. If there are any positive aspects of Jupiter on the 7th house or its lord, he can reduce the malefic impacts. But if he is stopped from giving his beneficial results then the problems can be aggravated.
  • Venus: pleasures in marriage. pleasures outside marriage. If with Rahu/Ketu or influenced by the malefics can indicate extra marital affairs.
  • Mars: if damaged can indicate a jealous, violent and aggressive, nature, sexual energy, accidents, physical violence, murders, surgeries, trauma, risky behaviour etc. This is why a Manglik nature is considered risky in marriage. This means that Mars in the 1st, 4th, 7th, 8th and 12th houses counted from your ascendent or even your birth Moon. Mars aspecting 7th house/lord. So analyse Mars carefully.
  • Saturn: can give fear, guilt, dejection, insensitivity, strictness in the marriage. There is little or no love if the 7th house is in any way connected to Saturn (you will get classic examples in some Cancer and Leo ascendants).
  • Rahu: can give tendency towards harshness, lying, socially unaccepted behaviour, cheating, psychological issues etc. Mars or Saturn or Rahu combination in any way can give violent traits. eg Mars aspecting Saturn, Saturn aspecting Rahu, Rahu and Mars in same trikon, or Saturn in scorpio etc. You will see patterns in the horoscope.
  • Ketu: can give an erratic nature, sly, not concerned about the spouse/marriage, cold, psychological issues etc.

Finally go through the transits/ Dashas. Even if the horoscope shows negative readings, if the dasha is of a supportive planet then severe negative results do not show up. ie If the Dasha periods after the marriage event are of auspicious planets as per the person’s chart there may be some painful events from time to time but the situation does not get really bad. The marriage survives so you can predict some hopeful results in the future. And do look for such patterns which can help the marriage survive. We are supposed to counsel and help the clients not scare them out of their wits.

But if the ongoing Dasha periods are of the malefics in the chart who will actively cause havoc in the marriage then the clashes start and continue on high pitch levels. Transits over the 1st, 7th houses, the birth Moon can cause temporary issues or bring a simmering situation to a boil. (If you have any Cancer or Leo ascendants in your sample study, for the next 5yrs Saturn will be transiting Capricorn/ Aquarius, this is a very significant transit for these people). The role of current transits/Dashas is important in analysis, and the future transits/dashas are essential for predictions so take time over it. (Astrologer’s keep track of the planet’s current position in the skies, over time it becomes a habit to mentally superimpose these positions over the birth charts. But to begin with draw the chart on paper and use a different colored pens.)

Abusive spouse from the horoscope

Finally remember that there should be at least 3 or more combinations in the birth chart and these should be powerful enough to cause the unhappiness in marriage. Just one combination does not make a reading. The current transit/ dashas should activate that tendency of the birth chart ie its influence should be active at that point of time. This is making a very personal judgement on someone’s personality, married life etc so do analyse properly.

One point is this, the birth chart has to show the ‘victim’ combinations for the abuse to occur in real life. The moon chart is used as extra data.

  • eg if the Moon chart shows ‘victim’ combinations but the basic birth chart is auspicious. And the chart of the spouse shows that he is incapable of abusing anyone. Then this means that the person is living a good life but her own mindset is not allowing her to enjoy it and the claim of intentional abuse is not correct. She would then require some psychological counselling.

In my opinion these are the most difficult cases to judge. It is a traumatic situation in the first place and if there are children then the trauma for the little ones is very intense.  Advising some one to continue the marriage or go for a divorce is a very difficult analysis especially if there are children involved. If the children’s charts are a bit supportive then also you can advise them to remain together for the sake of the children, ‘agree to disagree’ types. But every situation is different.

If you see danger to the life/ health of the victim spouse and the children, you can ask them to consider a temporary separation till the triggering transit/ dasha passes over. (eg, a client couple separated and reconciled 14yrs later. They already had one daughter and 15yrs later they had one more son.) But if the situation is irreversible then a legal divorce remains the most logical option. However all these are very sensitive issues so do handle them with due tact. As astrologers, we must not get involved personally in any client’s life else it becomes our karma too. But because it is our karma to see the charts and counsel, we must always follow the predictive principles, our intuition and our conscience. This sometimes is analysing the darker side of human nature.

Also read this post on Narcissists, abusive relationships and the horoscope.

Abusive spouse from the horoscope

The Dark and bright halves – Part 1

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Astrology is not just about which planet falls in which sign and aspects what. It is seeing patterns. There are just the 12 houses, 9 planets and they tell you about your entire life. Every nuance is important here. Analysing the distribution of the planets in the horoscope can be used to determine if your current life is for ‘enjoying’ the ‘fruits’ of your past lives karma (bhog yoni) or are you more into action using the potential of your past lives (karma-yoni)? Open your horoscope, (Vedic astrology app). Locate your exact rising degree. Add (or subtract) 180 deg from this to get the exact setting degree. The 10th house is the zenith, the highest degree above your head as you were born. The 4th house is the nadir, the degree exactly below your feet.

The 1st and the 7th houses are a bit special as the center of the house lies on the horizon. Half above, the ‘bright half’ the conscious and half below, ‘dark half’ the subconscious. These two houses are different, planets placed here also behave differently. But for the purposes of this post, let’s divide them also into two halves, one in each half of the zodiac, dark and bright. (But do try to think for yourself the significance of the 1/7 axis and their half bright/dark natures.)

The houses 2nd 3rd 4th 5th 6th and half of the 1st and 7th are in the dark half. You have limited conscious control on these things. Here you are dished out karma, depending on your past lives actions. If you have more planets below the horizon ie 5 or more planets, then you are in a Bhog-yoni. You are more into enjoying the fruits of your past karma. These fruits may be auspicious or not depending on the actual placement and power of the horoscope. The planets are the karma active for you in this life. Eg planets here can give a luxurious life but only for this one, their influence will not go onward to the further lives. The houses/ signs/ planets here are active for only one life, the present one. You are required to bear with this karma, sweet or rotten, in this life. You do not have significant opportunities to create new directions for your future lives now. Involution.

The houses 8th 9th 10th 11th and the halves of the 1st and 7th above the horizon (bright half). If you have more planets above the horizon ie 5 or more planets, then you are the action hero, it is a karma-yoni. Here you can change the direction of your current and future lives by your conscious actions. If the planets here are capable of giving auspicious results, you have more options, if they are unfavourable you have less options. But you will have the option of active choice. The possibility of creating new karma exists as you use the potential of these planets to act. And what can create can also destroy, so if you use these planet’s energies, you can also destroy the seeds of karma and also prevent new karma from being created. You will be put in situations where you will choose your path. These choices will be very significant, momentous even, as the path you choose will affect your current as well as future lives, far-reaching karmic consequences. Evolution! Choose well.

Note in which half, the Ascendant lord, the Sun and the Moon lie in. These 3 planets are the most important ones for your chart. They work differently in the dark and the bright half.

There is nothing good/bad, correct/wrong or auspicious/unfavourable here. Both bhog-yoni and karma-yoni are important for the soul’s evolution. One represents the power of current choice and the other is the choice of birth. You might think of them as ‘will’ and ‘instinct’. These represent the way your current life is oriented. If you know this you can be better adjusted and satisfied with your current life, Jyotish is self-illumination.

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The 1st house is half dark and half bright, its exact center on the horizon. Your essence, personality/immediate environment. Some of these things are in your control but some are in-built. Eg your vitality or your body structure is in-built but you can consciously increase it by doing spiritual practice or going to the gym. Or you can reduce it by living an unhealthy lifestyle. Your choice. This house represents your potential energy and your conscious action both. How you convert the entire potential of the dark half into the action of the bright half is majorly controlled by the 1st house.

If you have a planet in your 1st house, he will have a very significant effect on your entire self. The sub-conscious karma can be converted into a powerful spurt of conscious action if this planet is very strong. Now is this planet is in the bright half, you will have a choice on where you direct the energy, the conscious will is strong. But if he is in the dark half of the 1st house this choice was made by you at the time of birth, the instinct will dominate.

(I know a chart with a Yogkarak Mars debilitated in the dark half of Cancer ascendant. It is very instructive to observe him, his birth chart, the effects of transits on him and the conflict between his sub-conscious instinct and conscious will. If you have any Cancer or Leo ascendants in your study, observe them the next 5yrs are going to be very happening. More so for Cancer.)

The ‘bhog’ fruits of karma represented by the subconscious half have to be gone through. This fruit baggage at your back determines the power of your essence, your personality. As you finish these fruits, you are given options to create new. This is the morning dawn, things are being brought out into the open, into the active conscious. Remember the direction of movement of the zodiac? 1st house is your essence, try to use this essence so as to get the maximum benefit from what you expend.

The 2nd is family, the family’s accumulated wealth, its history, voice, vision etc. You cannot change these things much just accept them and try to live with them. Any planet here will give its effect and you cannot do much to alter it. Eg one chart is born in a very rich family, but Ketu in the 2nd cleanly separated him from his family’s assets, he sees the astral dimension clearly and also stammers.

The 3rd is courage, boldness to choose between options, neighbourhood, extended family, small trade, team-workers, siblings, even gossip and rumours. Planets here will influence these things but again you consciously do not have much control over these things. You simply have them. eg Moon here may give a lot of boldness in the astral realms and the strength of the mind and Jupiter here can add his dose of hope to it but where will you use this boldness? The 3rd house just gives you this modified boldness. This is your ‘possession’, you possess these things, the planets can only modify the qualities cannot direct them. The goals must come from somewhere else (1st or 9th house?).

Now the 4th house, one of the pillars of the chart. The act of arriving on this earth, the mother, houses, safety, comforts, early education, heart, innate intelligence, the bindings of your current incarnation on your individual soul. Any planet here contributes immensely to your emotional, spiritual, physical make-up. You cannot alter or modify these influences much, slightly tweak them at max. Can you change your birth mother? Eg if you have a Sun+Mercury here it will make you very analytical, intelligent, matter-of-fact, limited external display of emotions. But what you analyse and use your intelligence for, is not decided by this house.

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The 5th is personal genius, creativity, children, intelligence, confidence, etc. These are inborn traits, you cannot teach someone creativity. You possess these things, but using them? Eg Love affairs of the 5th can happen as a matter of routine, but converting them to marriage requires the 9th house’s destiny, 7th house’s choice powered by the 1st house’s essence. The 5th house strangely, is also all those situations where you have limited scope of choice! A simplistic eg, you use your 5th house, create a child, now you do not have the option of ignoring it. You have to carry on with what you create here. A very strong planet here, eg a single Rahu will give immense personal creativity, make you very famous in society, occult abilities and love affairs too, but will leave no scope for one-one equal partnerships ie marriage/ business, spiritual practice is also affected. Ketu here will give flashes of creativity, incisive intelligence which might be diverted in several love affairs or extreme asceticism. Again you do not have wilful control over the planets here and the tendencies they indicate, it is more on instinct.

When reading the horoscope, the 1-5-9 axis should be analysed in depth. This is the Dharma trikon, the Foundations. It shows how innate genius and divine luck feeds into your personal essence.

The 6th house is your karmic impediments, the requirement to serve or suffer. Is your life journey easy or difficult? If the scope for mental, physical, emotional suffering is restrained it is a good thing, so malefics work better here. Disease, debts, enemies, conflicts all ‘loss of balance’ are the domain of the 6th house. These are karmic stumbling blocks from your own deepest psyche. They are active in this life and in the dark half. You suffer or serve but at least pending karma is rebalanced. You cannot wish this away/avoid it now, it is the fruit of your past life’s actions. Facing up to them courageously is perhaps the only option.

Now we come to the 7th house. I find this house the most dangerous. This house is just like the 1st house, half dark and bright. This house is called the mirror of the 1st house and is the second most important house of your chart. But here we have conditions exactly opposite to the 1st house. The 1st is the time of birth, the 7th gives you the time of death. Here it is the metaphorical dusk, evening twilight, things are being obscured. The movement is towards the dark half. You choose, you act and immediately the energy is obscured, it enters the sub-conscious. Have you balanced pending karma or created a new mess, this is not clear to you now.

The karmic choices you make here will have their consequences in some future life’s bhog-yoni, they will become the fruit which you will enjoy/endure then. This is the hidden danger of the 7th house. You create karma under the influence of desire (kaam trikon), this karma then destabilises your essence, ie the 1st house/foundation (dharm trikon). Then you endure its ‘fruits’. Then when you finish the ‘fruits’, you get the scope for new choices in some future karma-yoni. It can get very convoluted if you are not alert. (Plus its Bhavat bhavam effect on the 1st house)

The 7th house is half in the bright side. So you have the option of choice. But half is in the dark so you are not in the least consciously aware of what that choice has done to you. (Direction of the zodiac’s movement). Has it drained your essence or has it given more power to your 1st house? And once a choice is made here it cannot be revisited. You make the conscious choice in the bright half and immediately the subconscious registers it in the dark half. Here instant karma is dished out in the same life and a portion kept for the next lives.

The point is that you can make conscious choices about the stuff related to the 7th house. You can choose which blanks you want to fill. The choice of one-one partnerships, business partners, marriage or spiritual practice is critical. The rising and setting degrees of the chart are very sensitive points of the chart and any decision you make here can have very deep repercussions. Eg if you select a wrong business partner he might cheat you. If you marry the wrong person he will drain you and you might regret it. If you choose the wrong spiritual practice it will harm. This is the house of the evening twilight, the malevolent forces are more active here. If you have a planet placed in the 7th examine his effect on your life-choices in depth.

And also be alert when other planets transit this sensitive house. That is why the current Saturn transit over Capricorn is so interesting for the astrology student. If you have any Cancer ascendant sample in your database, do follow his life-events for the next 5yrs. Or even Leo ascendants.

(I had touched on this topic briefly in my earlier post but someone wanted to know more so a full post. Have continued with the other ‘bright’ half in my this post.)

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(‘To choose consciously’ or to ‘follow your sub-conscious’ is often a debate.

  • For the karma-yoni people, individual conscious choice may predominate as per your own chart’s positions.
  • I go with the sub-conscious as per my own chart combinations I am enjoying the fruits of my past karma. If I feel something very strongly, it is correct.

The 7th house, self, home, partners and profession

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The 7th house is your mirror, the missing pieces that you search for. Also legal contracts, business partners, gains from one-one relationships, maternal grandmother, paternal grandfather, children of the siblings, your own second child. Everyone whom you transact /exchange with, on a one-one basis, for mutual gain is the 7th house, your doctor, your banker, your grocer etc. It also describes your relationship with your husband/wife including the quality of intimacy. The 7th house completes your personality.

The ascendant house was rising when you were being born and the 7th house was setting at that very instant. As the 1st house was rising to the light, the 7th house was setting into the night. The ascendant sign is the summary of the personality and the environment that one finds oneself in. The pre-programmed automatic stuff. This sign and its lord also define our response to our environment. How we go about life, our behaviour to emergent situations and what people notice first about us. The 7th is called the Asta-rashi, the sign which was setting in your horoscope. ‘Rashi’ is not just plain simple ‘sign’. Rashi is more correctly understood as a ‘collection of attributes’. These attributes were going below the horizon as you were being born. Planets placed in your 7th house were setting. The 7th house then is more like the hidden springboard that propels you onwards. And that is why perhaps you are always searching for the things that are signified by the 7th house. You want these springboards to jump higher on.

If the 1st house is timing of birth then the 7th house represents the timing of death. The 7th house is a very important house as it defines everything that is opposite to your personality and your environment. It can also be considered to be complimenting your person/ environment  if taken in the spirit of filling-in-the-blanks! Remember this while interpreting anything to do with the 7th house.

The 7th house, self, home, partnership and profession

There is a principle called ‘house of the house’ or Bhavat Bhavam. This means that to analyse a house, eg the 3th house, you also need to look at the house placed the same number of houses away from it, i.e the 5th house.

So if you have to analyse the 7th house completely you also need to analyse the house placed 7th from it ie the 1st house. The 7th house is thus very deeply linked to your own personality. To use the potential of the 7th house the personality/ environment described by the 1st house has to be strong enough. And the 7th house becomes the Bhavat bhavam for the 4th house as it is located fourth from it. It is also the Bhavat bhavam for the 10th house as it is placed tenth from it. So to make full use of the 4th or the 10th house energies the 7th house has to be strong in itself. And the power of the 7th house is amplified by a strong 1st house! Astrology is about analysing patterns within patterns, a fractal. So you see the 7th is deeply interlinked to the other three kendra houses (The four kendra houses, 1st, 4th, 7th 10th are the pillars of your life). A strong 7th house is then helpful in so many ways!

The home is defined by the 4th house. But after you get married your husband/ wife is your home. So the 7th house has a role in determining the congeniality of the home. Even if you are not married yet, your share a one-one relationship with your parents/brother/sister etc. This is also the domain of the 7th house.

Then the 1st house’s personality/ immediate environment is naturally linked to the 7th house. It is in the 7-7 axis. You are defined and surrounded by one-on-one legal relationships. eg If I call up my son’s school, I have to identify myself as ‘—‘s’ Mom, if I go with my husband I am identified as ‘—‘s wife’ and so on. (Libra is the natural 7th house of the zodiac ruled by Venus. If you were born with Libra moon or Libra ascendant you are driven by the need to balance. It is not a choice, but a life purpose.)

The 10th house is of the profession, social status and the karmic duty you are required to perform. It is not just the salary you earn, but is also the work that you would like to perform. The abilities and talents which can be expressed, the potential capacity. Eg if your 10th house indicates that you have an aptitude for serving in the armed forces. But if you will pass the exam and how successful you will be in this profession will also depend on the strength of the 7th house. Sometimes you get horoscopes where the 10th house is superbly placed yet the person has a mediocre job and a low profile life. This occurs when the 7th house is not capable of supporting the 10th thus its potential remains unrealised. The 7th house provides opportunities for the 10th house energies to express themselves. The talents of the 10th house remain latent unless activated by the power of the 7th house. The 7th house is the basis of all one-one relationships which gradually accumulate and take the form of the 10th house. If you think deeply all your social position, professional roles etc is built on the foundation of one-one relationships.

(In case of spiritual aspirants/ Sanyasi, the deity/ higher self is the partner. Such a person’s home and karmic duties are also linked to his concept.)

The 7th house, self, home, partnership and profession

Marriage is the most important event on a person’s life. The wife/ husband plays a very significant role in one’s life successes or failures. Such a marriage helps in completing the Dharmic and Karmic duties both. (The only people exempted from the requirement to get married are those who take up Sanyas. But they are ‘married’ in a way, ie in a ‘relationship’ with their higher self/ deity.)

If the chart has good potential, ie the 7th house is auspicious, the 7th lord is capable of giving favourable results and Venus is placed well, then a marriage event which gives favourable results will occur in life. Such a placement will give pleasure from the husband/wife, good terms with the spouse’s family, healthy children etc. The 1st 4th 10th houses will also be strengthened and there will be overall prosperity. A marriage can occur only if there is a suitable Dasha period on along with transits which are favourable. If you miss these favourable time periods the actual marriage event may not materialise.

Such favourable Dasha/transit can happen a few times in life, but the planets will be powerful enough to cause the actual material event only rarely. Mostly these Dasha/transits are not powerful to trigger full-fledged marriages, but can result in temporary flings, emotional attachments or even marriage like events in dreams! (A more intelligent use of these time periods would be to use the energies for the other 7th house controlled things, like business or spiritual practice rather than wasting them on temporary linkages with other people.)

Multiple spouses too are possible. There are cultures which allow multiple husbands or multiple wives at the same time. Generally the trend is one living husband/ wife at a time, where multiple spouses are possible only after a legal divorce or physical death. On the energy levels, there is nothing called a ‘legal divorce’. Once you ‘marry’ someone the impressions remain till physical death of either of the two.

So when you analyse the 1st 4th or 10th houses, a detailed look into the power of the 7th house will bring more clarity. And since the husband/ wife is the most clear manifestation of the 7th house, be very careful when choosing your spouse as this person’s horoscope is going to influence your own 1st 4th 7th and 10th houses very intimately and play an important role in your self, your home, your profession and the environment around you.

 

The 7th house, self, home, partnership and profession

Virgo and Pisces, the most sensitive axis – Part 3

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Virgo is the manifested and Pisces is its dissolution.

These two signs make up the most sensitive axis of the zodiac. They are the most beneficial signs and represent ‘endings’ in different ways. Each is the ending of one half of the zodiac. Pisces is 7th from Virgo and likewise. The first half of the zodiac is where you are creating your reality and your karma. Virgo represents the point where you realise what you have gone and created for yourself. Here you understand the problem statement and work out the best method to solve it. At this point you have had enough of creation and want to rebalance everything that Virgo represents in your chart. So the second half of the zodiac unfolds till you reach Pisces where you finally reach completion.

A Pisces needs the qualities of a Virgo and a Virgo requires traits from a Pisces to complete their personalities. Both are mirror images of each other and on a spiritual level they complete each other.

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A Pisces may be outwardly whatever as per his chart, but in his innermost heart he desires to be of help, he is kind, not just to humanity, but to all the beings living in all the dimensions he has access to! The scope of a Pisces is infinite. He is created from the infinite of Aquarius and he uses this infinite resource available to him. He wants the cycle to complete and he knows that with this completion, his existence will be subsumed by the greater Reality. He is driven by experience, he wants to Experience it all and thus transcend it.

Pisces represents the sum total of everything while Virgo represents that part you are aware of and are actively working on. Virgo keeps accurate track of which karma, how much and when to be repaid. Pisces feels his way through. In this axis, when Pisces acts, he feels the joy of liberation as Virgo guides where to act. Pisces is abstract while Virgo is his rational pragmatic mate. A Virgo acts with precision, Pisces goes with the flow. Together they work beautifully, the iron fist in a velvet glove, completing karma, experiencing the understanding and joy of completion.

Virgo means imbalance and is required by karma to serve. He is a product of self-ego, personal intelligence. (Self-ego is produced from Divine Intelligence.) Thus Virgo is, the One who Experiences. Virgo desires to serve for completing his karma, he does not act out of not love/kindness. He is quite materialistic and individual in this way. In Pisces he gets infinite scope to serve. Realisation of imbalance and balance of karma drives him. He wants to subsume the self-ego and scatter it into the vastness of the Divine Self. He is created from a brilliant single pointed focus and his partner Pisces is the diffused infinite. Both together are the two sides of the same coin.

During the wake/Jagruti state a Pisces is a clumsy confused individual. But in the other 2 states of existence, dream/ Swapna and deep sleep/ Sushupti he is formidable. He respects no limits, he can traverse dimensions and link up with any sort of beings, he can act as a bridge between dimensions and do things with his energy which cannot be imagined in the waking state. This however drains him, as he never really sleeps, and he seems hazed out in the awake state. If he does his spiritual practice, he can reach the ultimate prize, the 4th state of existence/Turiya/Om and then he will act as a guide/Guru for others too.

Virgo is awareness. He is very analytical, precise. He can put his emotions aside and think his way out. A very private individual just like his mirror, Pisces. Pisces is completion and the self-reflection but these individuals do not have very defined boundaries of the self. Often they get into trouble, because out of the kindness and love for others they take on other’s burdens. This can and does overwhelm them sapping them of precious spiritual energy. Virgo however clearly knows the demarcations, of personal karma and other’s stuff. When Pisces is confused (happens quite often), he needs the support of a practical, pragmatic, thinking Virgo. And he offers unconditional and complete love in return. It is very easy to take advantage of a Pisces and Virgo has his back on this.

This Virgo-Pisces axis represents karmic balance, completion, realisation of the Ultimate Experience and dissolution of the self-ego. If you have your ascendant sign, moon sign as Virgo or Pisces, do understand that you are not made for the material life, your real life is in the astral, the spiritual, the subconscious. Your goal is Inner Reality. Both these signs are required to serve, one because it knows this logically and analytically through its mental processes, the other because of the genuine infinite kindness of its heart. For both, their material lives will be more happier if they work for others. If they get caught in worldly material pleasures, it will make them quite miserable. Doing spiritual practice for both is essential, solitude and personal space is necessary. Look deep into your nature and think of what qualities you can pick up from your mirror sign so that you can live a better adjusted life.

And for everyone, in your chart, whatever this axis means to you, which ever houses it controls depending on your ascendant, be very aware of its agents and the experience you will gain from these aspects of your life. Expect your karma to be linked to them in very deep and subtle ways. Together they represent the completion of karma and the understanding that it is complete. If there are benefics aspecting these signs it will positively affect the entire personality, while malefics here can cause deep-seated problems.

 

Virgo and Pisces, the most sensitive axis - Part 3

(I know a few Virgo personalities, all are into divination, astrologers, Cards readers, or tantriks/shamans. Most of them started very young, in their teens, have considerable psychic ability, help their clients very professionally and are very dedicated but detached. Are kind in their personal lives with their loved one, but in their professional manner and in the family are not. And I had a Pisces client, who despite all possible spiritual practice and stuff, was always drained and tired. ‘Looking’ at his back, I saw literally millions of tiny ‘hooks’, other beings were happily sucking up his energy. And the strangest part was that he was vaguely aware of this but was not too bothered about giving away his energy. He was like, ‘the Universe gives and takes away too, why should I bother!’. Had to get him cut all these cords and counsel him about boundaries and to stop being so free with himself.)

This was a summary of the Virgo and Pisces axis, the last part of this 3 post series.

Of Evil eyes and Children

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All of us have auras which are extensions of our personalities. Auras do a lot of things including protecting us. Aura is the biological energy of the body. Similarly our thoughts also have energy. All such energies generated by a conscious living being is something like a ‘bio-energy’.

When someone looks at a sweet-looking child with wishful eyes it is said to be an ‘evil eye’ on the child, and the child might actually suffer. That person may be childless so might be longing for a child herself, or may just be watching the child very intently, or may be just casually watching with a penetrating gaze, no ill will for the child as such. Her subconscious mind thinks, ‘I wish I had such a lovely child’, ‘Such a sweet child, I wish he were my child’, etc. These subtle thoughts are not deliberate or malignant, they are just subconscious ‘longing’.

What is ‘evil eye’ really? It is basically a minor version of a psychic attack. Now a child is small with very little defence mechanisms in his aura and the energy link created by the adult’s gaze is so strong that it is a shock for his energy body. A large chunk of energy gets pulled out of his aura and he feels the energy shock followed by a physical illness.

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Staring with intense longing attracts the person who is being looked at, irrespective of age. If your husband is going away for a few days and you bid him bye with penetrating wishful eyes, he is also going to feel uncomfortable for a while as he travels.

In India, small children are intentionally protected from the ‘evil eye’. The mother puts a dot of her kajal/kohl behind the child’s left ear, or left side of the forehead. She thus creates an energy-link supporting her child. Tying black threads or amulets around the child’s neck is also a common way of protection. Children are kept presentable, not heavily dressed up so that random people stare. Small children are not taken out on days when there is thunder and lightening in the sky, on such days the atmosphere is charged with electricity and the body can lose some of its bio-energy. Babies, until the ritual of Annaprashan (eating the first food other than milk), are cuddled only by their parents and close relatives. Children less than 1yr of age are generally not taken out in public gatherings etc where random strangers can see or touch them. Most adults here do not kiss or cuddle babies from other families as a matter of tradition.

Here we also do not let our young children sleep alone. Sleep is not ‘shut-down’, it a state of existence where there exist different energies and dangers. The child always sleeps next to his mother so that while sleeping her bio-energy supports him. She is the only one who gives to her child, even subconsciously she will only give, never take. In some modern Indian houses, I have observed the parents send the child to sleep with the grandparents rather than keeping him with them at night. This causes a very different problem for the child, it is strange and rather difficult to understand but this happens. The older person has a very strong bioenergy field and subconsciously drains the vitality of the child. The grandparents love the child dearly, but the subconscious reality while sleeping is different. Children have very weak defences and a thinner bio-energy shield so are very vulnerable, so might even fall ill. (It is something like a tree, an older tree has greater capacity to draw nourishment compared to a young sapling. And if you have observed, small saplings do not grow in the shade of older trees.)

Where I live now, the local tradition is that the husband is generally 10yr or so older than the wife. I have attended a few local weddings where the rosy cheeked young women looking so very pretty and within a year of the marriage they age, often with some illness. Conversely, the husbands seem to glow with health after the marriage. The reason is the same. After marriage when these women engage in physical activity and also sleep next to their much older husbands, their bio-vitality is being drawn off by them. So marry someone around your own age, too much of an age gap is not advisable. In some cultures there is a system where a man marries several women younger to him. If you are observant you might see that the man is glowing with health while his wives seem weak and ill. The bio-energy reason is the same.

Of Evil eyes and Children

Back to children. We do not allow children near places of negative energy. Places like hospitals, sites of tragedy, ancient wars, or violence, or a house where someone has died, cemeteries etc. The imprint of these negative events in these places is enough to cause a bio-shock to the energy of the child. A small child is neither completely aware nor unaware of things. He still carries with him the impressions of his immediate past life as these have not yet been wiped off and neither has he gained sufficient new experiences of this life. He is also willing to learn in every way. He does not have the will to resist impressions from people and environments yet. So his personality will be moulded as per the environment he lives in and the people he interacts with. So protect your small children.

Another problem is that parents think that their baby is unable to understand things, so often get physical with each other with the small child sleeping near them. But the child has fully functional ‘extra-senses’, and his aura shield is also weak and thin. So the energy of the physical act is pulled deeply into the subconscious of the child which causes great damage and will affect his behaviour as he gets older.

When two people meet, who will influence the other? It is like a fight at the bio-energy level. The one who has the greater bio-energy wins. We are electromagnetic beings and we all interact at levels much deeper than what can be sensed by our limited 5 senses. We all love our children, and it is our responsibility to protect them while they are young and vulnerable to ‘evil eye’.

 

Of Evil eyes and Children