Abusive spouse from the horoscope

All of us want a happy married life, with a loving husband/wife, sweet children, domestic peace and harmony. Then again as married couples know, marriage, just like any other relationship has its ups and downs, and most of us are ok with that. But for a few of us this dream of a happy marriage shatters completely as we face up to the reality of an abusive spouse.

Most Indian parents match the charts of their children before getting them married to avoid problems later. But sooner or later you will get a client who says that he/she is being abused in the marriage. Abuse can be on several levels, physical hurts even murder, psychological, mental, financial, jealousy, control, domination, blaming, etc. Both the husband and the wife can be cruel, I have seen both examples. However the woman is more likely to try and seek help. In cases where the wife is abusing the husband, he generally remains silent unable to speak out regarding his misery.

You might be given horoscopes of both the husband and wife. Generally the question is if they should try to conciliate or go for a divorce. You should analyse the victim’s chart for specific pointers for ‘victim-hood’. Check the chart of the spouse if he is involved himself or is it his family doing the torture. If the spouse is clearly the aggressor. Or is he a mute by-stander while his family is abusing the spouse. (In one eg. it was the brothers of the wife were abusing the husband). If you get their children’s horoscopes too, they might show typical combinations where the parents do not get along well together, ie their 4th, 10th houses will show the effects.

In this situation generally everyone either lies or exaggerates, so be dispassionate, check the horoscope for the truth, or refer to a prashna kundali for confirmation.

Abusive spouse from the horoscope

First the houses, check if there are overt malefic influences and no supportive beneficial influences. Go through the following houses, depending on what kind of a problem is being described by the victim you will see the patterns.

Some typical combinations. Fiery or dissociative planets like Sun, Mars, Saturn, and Rahu /Ketu in the 1st or 7th house can indicate the violent nature of the spouse. Any association of Venus and Rahu should be examined with due care, ie even if they are in the same trikon they can influence each other. They can give affairs outside marriage. Look into the relationship of 3rd and 6th houses with Mars, Moon and ascendant lord. Another pattern is if the ascendant lord and the lord of 7th are in the 6/8 axis. (eg Cancer ascendant, Moon in 3rd house, Saturn in 8th house, the 6/8 axis operating). If the owner of the ascendant or 7th house with the nodes/ functional malefics. If the 2nd 4th 7th houses together are damaged at birth or in transit there is a marital problem with clashes in the family/house, etc.

  • The ascendant sign i.e. the 1st house will indicate the personality and the environment that the person has.
  • 2nd house – indicates the birth family of the person. Sometimes the birth family does not support the person if he/she complains of problems in the in-laws house. (I saw one horrific example where the father point-blank refused to support his daughter. She was left with nowhere to go, died soon after.)
  • 3rd house – can indicate a potential criminal mind-set (read a post here)or the involvement of the siblings.
  • 4th house – the environment of the home where he/she lives, the birth mother, the father-in-law. Analyse this in detail.
  • 6th house – problems that the person faces, debt, enemies, infamy, bad luck, slavery, servitude, being sold off?
  • 7th house – relationship with the life partner and social status after marriage. this house will require detailed analysis.
  • 8th house – organs of reproduction, hormonal issues, marital-relations, accidents, surgeries, secrets which can create traumas, etc. The family of the spouse. The 8th house is catastrophic transformations, which also includes marital abuse, divorce, widowhood, death etc. It indicate impotency or deviant sexual habits which can exacerbate domestic violence. Malefics here, even if they own that same sign can cause problems. Analyse this house critically.
  • 10th house – the specific mother-in-law
  • 12th house – subconscious hate, guilt, suppressed feelings, things that happen behind closed doors in secret, behaviours in the bedroom.

Now check the planets for their power to give auspicious/inauspicious results. The ascendant house/ lord, the birth Moon and the 7th house/ lord in the birth chart are especially important. If these are strongly placed there may be problems but the marriage might survive but if these are severely damaged then the possibility of divorce cannot be ruled out.

  • Ascendant lord – how well does the personality and the environment match. Is the personality stable, well-adjusted or not
  • Moon – Identifying criminal tendencies and perversions of the mind is linked to the position of the birth moon. The mind-set as a whole. If he is afflicted by cruel and malefic planets.
  • Sun – a very powerful Sun in the spouse’s house invariably means unhappiness in the marriage. If this strong Sun further occupies the 1st 4th 7th 10th houses, this person ignores the spouse, can be ruthless, dominant and psychological torture cannot be ruled out.
  • Jupiter: as a significator of husband Dharma-pati, marital auspiciousness. If there are any positive aspects of Jupiter on the 7th house or its lord, he can reduce the malefic impacts. But if he is stopped from giving his beneficial results then the problems can be aggravated.
  • Venus: pleasures in marriage. pleasures outside marriage. If with Rahu/Ketu or influenced by the malefics can indicate extra marital affairs.
  • Mars: if damaged can indicate a jealous, violent and aggressive, nature, sexual energy, accidents, physical violence, murders, surgeries, trauma, risky behaviour etc. This is why a Manglik nature is considered risky in marriage. This means that Mars in the 1st, 4th, 7th, 8th and 12th houses counted from your ascendent or even your birth Moon. Mars aspecting 7th house/lord. So analyse Mars carefully.
  • Saturn: can give fear, guilt, dejection, insensitivity, strictness in the marriage. There is little or no love if the 7th house is in any way connected to Saturn (you will get classic examples in some Cancer and Leo ascendants).
  • Rahu: can give tendency towards harshness, lying, socially unaccepted behaviour, cheating, psychological issues etc. Mars or Saturn or Rahu combination in any way can give violent traits. eg Mars aspecting Saturn, Saturn aspecting Rahu, Rahu and Mars in same trikon, or Saturn in scorpio etc. You will see patterns in the horoscope.
  • Ketu: can give an erratic nature, sly, not concerned about the spouse/marriage, cold, psychological issues etc.

Finally go through the transits/ Dashas. Even if the horoscope shows negative readings, if the dasha is of a supportive planet then severe negative results do not show up. ie If the Dasha periods after the marriage event are of auspicious planets as per the person’s chart there may be some painful events from time to time but the situation does not get really bad. The marriage survives so you can predict some hopeful results in the future. And do look for such patterns which can help the marriage survive. We are supposed to counsel and help the clients not scare them out of their wits.

But if the ongoing Dasha periods are of the malefics in the chart who will actively cause havoc in the marriage then the clashes start and continue on high pitch levels. Transits over the 1st, 7th houses, the birth Moon can cause temporary issues or bring a simmering situation to a boil. (If you have any Cancer or Leo ascendants in your sample study, for the next 5yrs Saturn will be transiting Capricorn/ Aquarius, this is a very significant transit for these people). The role of current transits/Dashas is important in analysis, and the future transits/dashas are essential for predictions so take time over it. (Astrologer’s keep track of the planet’s current position in the skies, over time it becomes a habit to mentally superimpose these positions over the birth charts. But to begin with draw the chart on paper and use a different colored pens.)

Abusive spouse from the horoscope

Finally remember that there should be at least 3 or more combinations in the birth chart and these should be powerful enough to cause the unhappiness in marriage. Just one combination does not make a reading. The current transit/ dashas should activate that tendency of the birth chart ie its influence should be active at that point of time. This is making a very personal judgement on someone’s personality, married life etc so do analyse properly.

One point is this, the birth chart has to show the ‘victim’ combinations for the abuse to occur in real life. The moon chart is used as extra data.

  • eg if the Moon chart shows ‘victim’ combinations but the basic birth chart is auspicious. And the chart of the spouse shows that he is incapable of abusing anyone. Then this means that the person is living a good life but her own mindset is not allowing her to enjoy it and the claim of intentional abuse is not correct. She would then require some psychological counselling.

In my opinion these are the most difficult cases to judge. It is a traumatic situation in the first place and if there are children then the trauma for the little ones is very intense.  Advising some one to continue the marriage or go for a divorce is a very difficult analysis especially if there are children involved. If the children’s charts are a bit supportive then also you can advise them to remain together for the sake of the children, ‘agree to disagree’ types. But every situation is different.

If you see danger to the life/ health of the victim spouse and the children, you can ask them to consider a temporary separation till the triggering transit/ dasha passes over. (eg, a client couple separated and reconciled 14yrs later. They already had one daughter and 15yrs later they had one more son.) But if the situation is irreversible then a legal divorce remains the most logical option. However all these are very sensitive issues so do handle them with due tact. As astrologers, we must not get involved personally in any client’s life else it becomes our karma too. But because it is our karma to see the charts and counsel, we must always follow the predictive principles, our intuition and our conscience. This sometimes is analysing the darker side of human nature.

 

Abusive spouse from the horoscope

The Dark and bright halves – Part 1

Astrology is not just about which planet falls in which sign and aspects what. It is seeing patterns. There are just the 12 houses, 9 planets and they tell you about your entire life. Every nuance is important here. Analysing the distribution of the planets in the horoscope can be used to determine if your current life is for ‘enjoying’ the ‘fruits’ of your past lives karma (bhog yoni) or are you more into action using the potential of your past lives (karma-yoni)? Open your horoscope, (Vedic astrology app). Locate your exact rising degree. Add (or subtract) 180 deg from this to get the exact setting degree. The 10th house is the zenith, the highest degree above your head as you were born. The 4th house is the nadir, the degree exactly below your feet.

The 1st and the 7th houses are a bit special as the center of the house lies on the horizon. Half above, the ‘bright half’ the conscious and half below, ‘dark half’ the subconscious. These two houses are different, planets placed here also behave differently. But for the purposes of this post, let’s divide them also into two halves, one in each half of the zodiac, dark and bright. (But do try to think for yourself the significance of the 1/7 axis and their half bright/dark natures.)

The houses 2nd 3rd 4th 5th 6th and half of the 1st and 7th are in the dark half. You have limited conscious control on these things. Here you are dished out karma, depending on your past lives actions. If you have more planets below the horizon ie 5 or more planets, then you are in a Bhog-yoni. You are more into enjoying the fruits of your past karma. These fruits may be auspicious or not depending on the actual placement and power of the horoscope. The planets are the karma active for you in this life. Eg planets here can give a luxurious life but only for this one, their influence will not go onward to the further lives. The houses/ signs/ planets here are active for only one life, the present one. You are required to bear with this karma, sweet or rotten, in this life. You do not have significant opportunities to create new directions for your future lives now. Involution.

The houses 8th 9th 10th 11th and the halves of the 1st and 7th above the horizon (bright half). If you have more planets above the horizon ie 5 or more planets, then you are the action hero, it is a karma-yoni. Here you can change the direction of your current and future lives by your conscious actions. If the planets here are capable of giving auspicious results, you have more options, if they are unfavourable you have less options. But you will have the option of active choice. The possibility of creating new karma exists as you use the potential of these planets to act. And what can create can also destroy, so if you use these planet’s energies, you can also destroy the seeds of karma and also prevent new karma from being created. You will be put in situations where you will choose your path. These choices will be very significant, momentous even, as the path you choose will affect your current as well as future lives, far-reaching karmic consequences. Evolution! Choose well.

Note in which half, the Ascendant lord, the Sun and the Moon lie in. These 3 planets are the most important ones for your chart. They work differently in the dark and the bright half.

There is nothing good/bad, correct/wrong or auspicious/unfavourable here. Both bhog-yoni and karma-yoni are important for the soul’s evolution. One represents the power of current choice and the other is the choice of birth. You might think of them as ‘will’ and ‘instinct’. These represent the way your current life is oriented. If you know this you can be better adjusted and satisfied with your current life, Jyotish is self-illumination.

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The 1st house is half dark and half bright, its exact center on the horizon. Your essence, personality/immediate environment. Some of these things are in your control but some are in-built. Eg your vitality or your body structure is in-built but you can consciously increase it by doing spiritual practice or going to the gym. Or you can reduce it by living an unhealthy lifestyle. Your choice. This house represents your potential energy and your conscious action both. How you convert the entire potential of the dark half into the action of the bright half is majorly controlled by the 1st house.

If you have a planet in your 1st house, he will have a very significant effect on your entire self. The sub-conscious karma can be converted into a powerful spurt of conscious action if this planet is very strong. Now is this planet is in the bright half, you will have a choice on where you direct the energy, the conscious will is strong. But if he is in the dark half of the 1st house this choice was made by you at the time of birth, the instinct will dominate.

(I know a chart with a Yogkarak Mars debilitated in the dark half of Cancer ascendant. It is very instructive to observe him, his birth chart, the effects of transits on him and the conflict between his sub-conscious instinct and conscious will. If you have any Cancer or Leo ascendants in your study, observe them the next 5yrs are going to be very happening. More so for Cancer.)

The ‘bhog’ fruits of karma represented by the subconscious half have to be gone through. This fruit baggage at your back determines the power of your essence, your personality. As you finish these fruits, you are given options to create new. This is the morning dawn, things are being brought out into the open, into the active conscious. Remember the direction of movement of the zodiac? 1st house is your essence, try to use this essence so as to get the maximum benefit from what you expend.

The 2nd is family, the family’s accumulated wealth, its history, voice, vision etc. You cannot change these things much just accept them and try to live with them. Any planet here will give its effect and you cannot do much to alter it. Eg one chart is born in a very rich family, but Ketu in the 2nd cleanly separated him from his family’s assets, he sees the astral dimension clearly and also stammers.

The 3rd is courage, boldness to choose between options, neighbourhood, extended family, small trade, team-workers, siblings, even gossip and rumours. Planets here will influence these things but again you consciously do not have much control over these things. You simply have them. eg Moon here may give a lot of boldness in the astral realms and the strength of the mind and Jupiter here can add his dose of hope to it but where will you use this boldness? The 3rd house just gives you this modified boldness. This is your ‘possession’, you possess these things, the planets can only modify the qualities cannot direct them. The goals must come from somewhere else (1st or 9th house?).

Now the 4th house, one of the pillars of the chart. The act of arriving on this earth, the mother, houses, safety, comforts, early education, heart, innate intelligence, the bindings of your current incarnation on your individual soul. Any planet here contributes immensely to your emotional, spiritual, physical make-up. You cannot alter or modify these influences much, slightly tweak them at max. Can you change your birth mother? Eg if you have a Sun+Mercury here it will make you very analytical, intelligent, matter-of-fact, limited external display of emotions. But what you analyse and use your intelligence for, is not decided by this house.

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The 5th is personal genius, creativity, children, intelligence, confidence, etc. These are inborn traits, you cannot teach someone creativity. You possess these things, but using them? Eg Love affairs of the 5th can happen as a matter of routine, but converting them to marriage requires the 9th house’s destiny, 7th house’s choice powered by the 1st house’s essence. The 5th house strangely, is also all those situations where you have limited scope of choice! A simplistic eg, you use your 5th house, create a child, now you do not have the option of ignoring it. You have to carry on with what you create here. A very strong planet here, eg a single Rahu will give immense personal creativity, make you very famous in society, occult abilities and love affairs too, but will leave no scope for one-one equal partnerships ie marriage/ business, spiritual practice is also affected. Ketu here will give flashes of creativity, incisive intelligence which might be diverted in several love affairs or extreme asceticism. Again you do not have wilful control over the planets here and the tendencies they indicate, it is more on instinct.

When reading the horoscope, the 1-5-9 axis should be analysed in depth. This is the Dharma trikon, the Foundations. It shows how innate genius and divine luck feeds into your personal essence.

The 6th house is your karmic impediments, the requirement to serve or suffer. Is your life journey easy or difficult? If the scope for mental, physical, emotional suffering is restrained it is a good thing, so malefics work better here. Disease, debts, enemies, conflicts all ‘loss of balance’ are the domain of the 6th house. These are karmic stumbling blocks from your own deepest psyche. They are active in this life and in the dark half. You suffer or serve but at least pending karma is rebalanced. You cannot wish this away/avoid it now, it is the fruit of your past life’s actions. Facing up to them courageously is perhaps the only option.

Now we come to the 7th house. I find this house the most dangerous. This house is just like the 1st house, half dark and bright. This house is called the mirror of the 1st house and is the second most important house of your chart. But here we have conditions exactly opposite to the 1st house. The 1st is the time of birth, the 7th gives you the time of death. Here it is the metaphorical dusk, evening twilight, things are being obscured. The movement is towards the dark half. You choose, you act and immediately the energy is obscured, it enters the sub-conscious. Have you balanced pending karma or created a new mess, this is not clear to you now.

The karmic choices you make here will have their consequences in some future life’s bhog-yoni, they will become the fruit which you will enjoy/endure then. This is the hidden danger of the 7th house. You create karma under the influence of desire (kaam trikon), this karma then destabilises your essence, ie the 1st house/foundation (dharm trikon). Then you endure its ‘fruits’. Then when you finish the ‘fruits’, you get the scope for new choices in some future karma-yoni. It can get very convoluted if you are not alert. (Plus its Bhavat bhavam effect on the 1st house)

The 7th house is half in the bright side. So you have the option of choice. But half is in the dark so you are not in the least consciously aware of what that choice has done to you. (Direction of the zodiac’s movement). Has it drained your essence or has it given more power to your 1st house? And once a choice is made here it cannot be revisited. You make the conscious choice in the bright half and immediately the subconscious registers it in the dark half. Here instant karma is dished out in the same life and a portion kept for the next lives.

The point is that you can make conscious choices about the stuff related to the 7th house. You can choose which blanks you want to fill. The choice of one-one partnerships, business partners, marriage or spiritual practice is critical. The rising and setting degrees of the chart are very sensitive points of the chart and any decision you make here can have very deep repercussions. Eg if you select a wrong business partner he might cheat you. If you marry the wrong person he will drain you and you might regret it. If you choose the wrong spiritual practice it will harm. This is the house of the evening twilight, the malevolent forces are more active here. If you have a planet placed in the 7th examine his effect on your life-choices in depth.

And also be alert when other planets transit this sensitive house. That is why the current Saturn transit over Capricorn is so interesting for the astrology student. If you have any Cancer ascendant sample in your database, do follow his life-events for the next 5yrs. Or even Leo ascendants.

(I had touched on this topic briefly in my earlier post but someone wanted to know more so a full post. Have continued with the other ‘bright’ half in my this post.)

 

The Dark and bright halves - Part 1

(‘To choose consciously’ or to ‘follow your sub-conscious’ is often a debate.

  • For the karma-yoni people, individual conscious choice may predominate as per your own chart’s positions.
  • I go with the sub-conscious as per my own chart combinations I am enjoying the fruits of my past karma. If I feel something very strongly, it is correct. Once long ago, I was so worried and thought that I didn’t have a third eye! Sounds very funny! I confided in my brother, he too laughed. But nearly 4yrs later we both realised that there was an actual serious problem. So the silly doubt was actually a very genuine hint from my own sub-conscious.)

The 7th house, self, home, partners and profession

The 7th house is your mirror, the missing pieces that you search for. Also legal contracts, business partners, gains from one-one relationships, maternal grandmother, paternal grandfather, children of the siblings, your own second child. Everyone whom you transact /exchange with, on a one-one basis, for mutual gain is the 7th house, your doctor, your banker, your grocer etc. It also describes your relationship with your husband/wife including the quality of intimacy. The 7th house completes your personality.

The ascendant house was rising when you were being born and the 7th house was setting at that very instant. As the 1st house was rising to the light, the 7th house was setting into the night. The ascendant sign is the summary of the personality and the environment that one finds oneself in. The pre-programmed automatic stuff. This sign and its lord also define our response to our environment. How we go about life, our behaviour to emergent situations and what people notice first about us. The 7th is called the Asta-rashi, the sign which was setting in your horoscope. ‘Rashi’ is not just plain simple ‘sign’. Rashi is more correctly understood as a ‘collection of attributes’. These attributes were going below the horizon as you were being born. Planets placed in your 7th house were setting. The 7th house then is more like the hidden springboard that propels you onwards. And that is why perhaps you are always searching for the things that are signified by the 7th house. You want these springboards to jump higher on.

If the 1st house is timing of birth then the 7th house represents the timing of death. The 7th house is a very important house as it defines everything that is opposite to your personality and your environment. It can also be considered to be complimenting your person/ environment  if taken in the spirit of filling-in-the-blanks! Remember this while interpreting anything to do with the 7th house.

The 7th house, self, home, partnership and profession

There is a principle called ‘house of the house’ or Bhavat Bhavam. This means that to analyse a house, eg the 3th house, you also need to look at the house placed the same number of houses away from it, i.e the 5th house.

So if you have to analyse the 7th house completely you also need to analyse the house placed 7th from it ie the 1st house. The 7th house is thus very deeply linked to your own personality. To use the potential of the 7th house the personality/ environment described by the 1st house has to be strong enough. And the 7th house becomes the Bhavat bhavam for the 4th house as it is located fourth from it. It is also the Bhavat bhavam for the 10th house as it is placed tenth from it. So to make full use of the 4th or the 10th house energies the 7th house has to be strong in itself. And the power of the 7th house is amplified by a strong 1st house! Astrology is about analysing patterns within patterns, a fractal. So you see the 7th is deeply interlinked to the other three kendra houses (The four kendra houses, 1st, 4th, 7th 10th are the pillars of your life). A strong 7th house is then helpful in so many ways!

The home is defined by the 4th house. But after you get married your husband/ wife is your home. So the 7th house has a role in determining the congeniality of the home. Even if you are not married yet, your share a one-one relationship with your parents/brother/sister etc. This is also the domain of the 7th house.

Then the 1st house’s personality/ immediate environment is naturally linked to the 7th house. It is in the 7-7 axis. You are defined and surrounded by one-on-one legal relationships. eg If I call up my son’s school, I have to identify myself as ‘—‘s’ Mom, if I go with my husband I am identified as ‘—‘s wife’ and so on. (Libra is the natural 7th house of the zodiac ruled by Venus. If you were born with Libra moon or Libra ascendant you are driven by the need to balance. It is not a choice, but a life purpose.)

The 10th house is of the profession, social status and the karmic duty you are required to perform. It is not just the salary you earn, but is also the work that you would like to perform. The abilities and talents which can be expressed, the potential capacity. Eg if your 10th house indicates that you have an aptitude for serving in the armed forces. But if you will pass the exam and how successful you will be in this profession will also depend on the strength of the 7th house. Sometimes you get horoscopes where the 10th house is superbly placed yet the person has a mediocre job and a low profile life. This occurs when the 7th house is not capable of supporting the 10th thus its potential remains unrealised. The 7th house provides opportunities for the 10th house energies to express themselves. The talents of the 10th house remain latent unless activated by the power of the 7th house. The 7th house is the basis of all one-one relationships which gradually accumulate and take the form of the 10th house. If you think deeply all your social position, professional roles etc is built on the foundation of one-one relationships.

(In case of spiritual aspirants/ Sanyasi, the deity/ higher self is the partner. Such a person’s home and karmic duties are also linked to his concept.)

The 7th house, self, home, partnership and profession

Marriage is the most important event on a person’s life. The wife/ husband plays a very significant role in one’s life successes or failures. Such a marriage helps in completing the Dharmic and Karmic duties both. (The only people exempted from the requirement to get married are those who take up Sanyas. But they are ‘married’ in a way, ie in a ‘relationship’ with their higher self/ deity.)

If the chart has good potential, ie the 7th house is auspicious, the 7th lord is capable of giving favourable results and Venus is placed well, then a marriage event which gives favourable results will occur in life. Such a placement will give pleasure from the husband/wife, good terms with the spouse’s family, healthy children etc. The 1st 4th 10th houses will also be strengthened and there will be overall prosperity. A marriage can occur only if there is a suitable Dasha period on along with transits which are favourable. If you miss these favourable time periods the actual marriage event may not materialise.

Such favourable Dasha/transit can happen a few times in life, but the planets will be powerful enough to cause the actual material event only rarely. Mostly these Dasha/transits are not powerful to trigger full-fledged marriages, but can result in temporary flings, emotional attachments or even marriage like events in dreams! (A more intelligent use of these time periods would be to use the energies for the other 7th house controlled things, like business or spiritual practice rather than wasting them on temporary linkages with other people.)

Multiple spouses too are possible. There are cultures which allow multiple husbands or multiple wives at the same time. Generally the trend is one living husband/ wife at a time, where multiple spouses are possible only after a legal divorce or physical death. On the energy levels, there is nothing called a ‘legal divorce’. Once you ‘marry’ someone the impressions remain till physical death of either of the two.

So when you analyse the 1st 4th or 10th houses, a detailed look into the power of the 7th house will bring more clarity. And since the husband/ wife is the most clear manifestation of the 7th house, be very careful when choosing your spouse as this person’s horoscope is going to influence your own 1st 4th 7th and 10th houses very intimately and play an important role in your self, your home, your profession and the environment around you.

 

The 7th house, self, home, partnership and profession

Virgo and Pisces, the most sensitive axis – Part 3

Virgo is the manifested and Pisces is its dissolution.

These two signs make up the most sensitive axis of the zodiac. They are the most beneficial signs and represent ‘endings’ in different ways. Each is the ending of one half of the zodiac. Pisces is 7th from Virgo and likewise. The first half of the zodiac is where you are creating your reality and your karma. Virgo represents the point where you realise what you have gone and created for yourself. Here you understand the problem statement and work out the best method to solve it. At this point you have had enough of creation and want to rebalance everything that Virgo represents in your chart. So the second half of the zodiac unfolds till you reach Pisces where you finally reach completion.

A Pisces needs the qualities of a Virgo and a Virgo requires traits from a Pisces to complete their personalities. Both are mirror images of each other and on a spiritual level they complete each other.

Virgo and Pisces, the most sensitive axis - Part 3

A Pisces may be outwardly whatever as per his chart, but in his innermost heart he desires to be of help, he is kind, not just to humanity, but to all the beings living in all the dimensions he has access to! The scope of a Pisces is infinite. He is created from the infinite of Aquarius and he uses this infinite resource available to him. He wants the cycle to complete and he knows that with this completion, his existence will be subsumed by the greater Reality. He is driven by experience, he wants to Experience it all and thus transcend it.

Pisces represents the sum total of everything while Virgo represents that part you are aware of and are actively working on. Virgo keeps accurate track of which karma, how much and when to be repaid. Pisces feels his way through. In this axis, when Pisces acts, he feels the joy of liberation as Virgo guides where to act. Pisces is abstract while Virgo is his rational pragmatic mate. A Virgo acts with precision, Pisces goes with the flow. Together they work beautifully, the iron fist in a velvet glove, completing karma, experiencing the understanding and joy of completion.

Virgo means imbalance and is required by karma to serve. He is a product of self-ego, personal intelligence. (Self-ego is produced from Divine Intelligence.) Thus Virgo is, the One who Experiences. Virgo desires to serve for completing his karma, he does not act out of not love/kindness. He is quite materialistic and individual in this way. In Pisces he gets infinite scope to serve. Realisation of imbalance and balance of karma drives him. He wants to subsume the self-ego and scatter it into the vastness of the Divine Self. He is created from a brilliant single pointed focus and his partner Pisces is the diffused infinite. Both together are the two sides of the same coin.

During the wake/Jagruti state a Pisces is a clumsy confused individual. But in the other 2 states of existence, dream/ Swapna and deep sleep/ Sushupti he is formidable. He respects no limits, he can traverse dimensions and link up with any sort of beings, he can act as a bridge between dimensions and do things with his energy which cannot be imagined in the waking state. This however drains him, as he never really sleeps, and he seems hazed out in the awake state. If he does his spiritual practice, he can reach the ultimate prize, the 4th state of existence/Turiya/Om and then he will act as a guide/Guru for others too.

Virgo is awareness. He is very analytical, precise. He can put his emotions aside and think his way out. A very private individual just like his mirror, Pisces. Pisces is completion and the self-reflection but these individuals do not have very defined boundaries of the self. Often they get into trouble, because out of the kindness and love for others they take on other’s burdens. This can and does overwhelm them sapping them of precious spiritual energy. Virgo however clearly knows the demarcations, of personal karma and other’s stuff. When Pisces is confused (happens quite often), he needs the support of a practical, pragmatic, thinking Virgo. And he offers unconditional and complete love in return. It is very easy to take advantage of a Pisces and Virgo has his back on this.

This Virgo-Pisces axis represents karmic balance, completion, realisation of the Ultimate Experience and dissolution of the self-ego. If you have your ascendant sign, moon sign as Virgo or Pisces, do understand that you are not made for the material life, your real life is in the astral, the spiritual, the subconscious. Your goal is Inner Reality. Both these signs are required to serve, one because it knows this logically and analytically through its mental processes, the other because of the genuine infinite kindness of its heart. For both, their material lives will be more happier if they work for others. If they get caught in worldly material pleasures, it will make them quite miserable. Doing spiritual practice for both is essential, solitude and personal space is necessary. Look deep into your nature and think of what qualities you can pick up from your mirror sign so that you can live a better adjusted life.

And for everyone, in your chart, whatever this axis means to you, which ever houses it controls depending on your ascendant, be very aware of its agents and the experience you will gain from these aspects of your life. Expect your karma to be linked to them in very deep and subtle ways. Together they represent the completion of karma and the understanding that it is complete. If there are benefics aspecting these signs it will positively affect the entire personality, while malefics here can cause deep-seated problems.

 

Virgo and Pisces, the most sensitive axis - Part 3

(I know a few Virgo personalities, all are into divination, astrologers, Cards readers, or tantriks/shamans. Most of them started very young, in their teens, have considerable psychic ability, help their clients very professionally and are very dedicated but detached. Are kind in their personal lives with their loved one, but in their professional manner and in the family are not. And I had a Pisces client, who despite all possible spiritual practice and stuff, was always drained and tired. ‘Looking’ at his back, I saw literally millions of tiny ‘hooks’, other beings were happily sucking up his energy. And the strangest part was that he was vaguely aware of this but was not too bothered about giving away his energy. He was like, ‘the Universe gives and takes away too, why should I bother!’. Had to get him cut all these cords and counsel him about boundaries and to stop being so free with himself.)

This was a summary of the Virgo and Pisces axis, the last part of this 3 post series.

Of Evil eyes and Children

All of us have auras which are extensions of our personalities. Auras do a lot of things including protecting us. Aura is the biological energy of the body. Similarly our thoughts also have energy. All such energies generated by a conscious living being is something like a ‘bio-energy’.

When someone looks at a sweet-looking child with wishful eyes it is said to be an ‘evil eye’ on the child, and the child might actually suffer. That person may be childless so might be longing for a child herself, or may just be watching the child very intently, or may be just casually watching with a penetrating gaze, no ill will for the child as such. Her subconscious mind thinks, ‘I wish I had such a lovely child’, ‘Such a sweet child, I wish he were my child’, etc. These subtle thoughts are not deliberate or malignant, they are just subconscious ‘longing’.

What is ‘evil eye’ really? It is basically a minor version of a psychic attack. Now a child is small with very little defence mechanisms in his aura and the energy link created by the adult’s gaze is so strong that it is a shock for his energy body. A large chunk of energy gets pulled out of his aura and he feels the energy shock followed by a physical illness.

Of Evil eyes and Children

Staring with intense longing attracts the person who is being looked at, irrespective of age. If your husband is going away for a few days and you bid him bye with penetrating wishful eyes, he is also going to feel uncomfortable for a while as he travels.

In India, small children are intentionally protected from the ‘evil eye’. The mother puts a dot of her kajal/kohl behind the child’s left ear, or left side of the forehead. She thus creates an energy-link supporting her child. Tying black threads or amulets around the child’s neck is also a common way of protection. Children are kept presentable, not heavily dressed up so that random people stare. Small children are not taken out on days when there is thunder and lightening in the sky, on such days the atmosphere is charged with electricity and the body can lose some of its bio-energy. Babies, until the ritual of Annaprashan (eating the first food other than milk), are cuddled only by their parents and close relatives. Children less than 1yr of age are generally not taken out in public gatherings etc where random strangers can see or touch them. Most adults here do not kiss or cuddle babies from other families as a matter of tradition.

Here we also do not let our young children sleep alone. Sleep is not ‘shut-down’, it a state of existence where there exist different energies and dangers. The child always sleeps next to his mother so that while sleeping her bio-energy supports him. She is the only one who gives to her child, even subconsciously she will only give, never take. In some modern Indian houses, I have observed the parents send the child to sleep with the grandparents rather than keeping him with them at night. This causes a very different problem for the child, it is strange and rather difficult to understand but this happens. The older person has a very strong bioenergy field and subconsciously drains the vitality of the child. The grandparents love the child dearly, but the subconscious reality while sleeping is different. Children have very weak defences and a thinner bio-energy shield so are very vulnerable, so might even fall ill. (It is something like a tree, an older tree has greater capacity to draw nourishment compared to a young sapling. And if you have observed, small saplings do not grow in the shade of older trees.)

Where I live now, the local tradition is that the husband is generally 10yr or so older than the wife. I have attended a few local weddings where the rosy cheeked young women looking so very pretty and within a year of the marriage they age, often with some illness. Conversely, the husbands seem to glow with health after the marriage. The reason is the same. After marriage when these women engage in physical activity and also sleep next to their much older husbands, their bio-vitality is being drawn off by them. So marry someone around your own age, too much of an age gap is not advisable. In some cultures there is a system where a man marries several women younger to him. If you are observant you might see that the man is glowing with health while his wives seem weak and ill. The bio-energy reason is the same.

Of Evil eyes and Children

Back to children. We do not allow children near places of negative energy. Places like hospitals, sites of tragedy, ancient wars, or violence, or a house where someone has died, cemeteries etc. The imprint of these negative events in these places is enough to cause a bio-shock to the energy of the child. A small child is neither completely aware nor unaware of things. He still carries with him the impressions of his immediate past life as these have not yet been wiped off and neither has he gained sufficient new experiences of this life. He is also willing to learn in every way. He does not have the will to resist impressions from people and environments yet. So his personality will be moulded as per the environment he lives in and the people he interacts with. So protect your small children.

Another problem is that parents think that their baby is unable to understand things, so often get physical with each other with the small child sleeping near them. But the child has fully functional ‘extra-senses’, and his aura shield is also weak and thin. So the energy of the physical act is pulled deeply into the subconscious of the child which causes great damage and will affect his behaviour as he gets older.

When two people meet, who will influence the other? It is like a fight at the bio-energy level. The one who has the greater bio-energy wins. We are electromagnetic beings and we all interact at levels much deeper than what can be sensed by our limited 5 senses. We all love our children, and it is our responsibility to protect them while they are young and vulnerable to ‘evil eye’.

 

Of Evil eyes and Children

 

Tensions in relationships astrologically

There are some periods when you and your wife is going to really be best buddies and you two will have loads of fun together, made for each other types. And then those times when both of you will be so irritated with each other. Nothing will be right and both of you will be in despair.

Tensions in relationships astrologically

Time is everything. If the planetary positions in transit and in Dasha are good to you, you will receive appreciation, love and respect. There will be enjoyable moments which will boost your ego, sense of worth and validation. Your loved one will be with you. Your boss will be happy with your work, your mom happy with your choice of wife, dad proud of your your social position. Your children will actually listen to you, your wife will kiss you, your husband will remember your birthday and you will get gifts. These are times spent with friends and parties. You gain in business and expand your profits. Materially you feel creative and may be blessed with children.

And then you have those periods/Vimshottari dasha of the planetary owners of the houses of turmoil, dushamsthan, 6th, 8th and 12th. The theme of these planetary periods will be a sense of general invalidation, un-love and unworthiness which will result in pain.

As always you have to see the physical manifested reality from the birth chart D-1, emotional context from the birth moon sign and the astral/sub-conscious expectations and potential from the divisional chart D-9, Navamsha. For example Ketu may be placed in the 3rd house from ascendant and 2nd when counted from the birth Moon sign in the D-1 birth chart. And placed in the 7th house in the D-9. So in Ketu’s periods, there will be a physical detachment from cousins, team-mates, trade, communication. This will be felt emotionally as a dissociation from the family resources and interactions. And the astral expectation will be a break in legal contracts and separation in partnerships. So now how you interpret it will depend on the client’s entire chart.

Now to narrow down those planetary periods which can create tensions in marriage. These planets in their periods and sub-periods even sub-sub periods can create a break in the feeling of being ‘loved’ and ‘valued’ by your loved one. If your horoscopes have been matched before marriage these periods will be less intense but no one can escape tiffs in married life.

  1. Open your birth chart, and note the owner of the 12th house.
    • The 12th house when counted from the 7th house is sixth. Sixth from any house is an expression of ‘breaking of partnerships’, ‘unfair alliances’, ‘breakdown of bargains’, ‘accusations’, ‘invalidation’, ‘arguments’ and ‘un-appreciation’ of the matters related to this house.
    • The 12th house counted from the 1st house/ascendant sign is naturally twelfth, indicating a loss in the manifested physical self, confidence, strength, social status etc.
    • So the 12th house lord in his periods will cause tensions in your personal and professional partnerships. Depending on the other factors it can cause permanent breaks, followed by depression, sleeplessness and losses to health, social status, etc which are indicated by the 12th house normally.
  2. Now note the planetary owner of the 6th house counted from the ascendant sign
    • The 6th house is breakage of legal witnessed contracts as always.
    • And this 6th house from the ascendant is twelfth when counted from the 7th house. The 12th house from anywhere represents the losses of whatever is indicated by that house
    • So the 6th house lord will represent the loss of the partnership. Depending on the power of this planet he can pull you upto divorce and dissolution of the alliance.
  3. Now the planet owning the 2nd house from the ascendant sign.
    • It represents the family lineage, treasures, family wealth and all sort of resources available to you.
    • But it also represents the 2nd spouse.
    • And it is the eighth house when counted from the 7th house. The 8th counted from any house defines the sudden, forced, fast and chaotic transformations associated with that house. When the house we are concerned about is the 7th, the 2nd lord can create changes in the ‘love’, ‘value’ felt in the marriage. Then 8th is also secret stuff, so there will be loss of transparency in the relationship perhaps secret affairs. The ‘worthiness’ felt in the lawful marriage may change into a ‘validation’ and ‘love’ experience from the secret paramour.
    • So this planet too has the potential to create tensions in your married life during his planetary periods.

Tensions in relationships astrologically

So now you know what is possibly going wrong in marriage and why. But this is not what we are after, we want to fix things. So this how you get through this period of tensions. Divorce though legal and accepted does not really work on the emotional and spiritual levels. This should be the very last option. Things always change. If you can get through this bad patch, which you soon will as your planetary period changes, you might regret the dissolution. So what can you do to reduce tensions and use this period productively? Shift your focus on something else?

So check the quality of the horoscope. Some of us can survive in a marriage with the barest minimum of ‘love’ expressions. If the Ascendant lord and the Moon are powerful enough such a person can manage on his sense of self-worth and self-love. He won’t need expressions of ‘appreciation’ from his wife. But if these 2 important planets are not able to generate enough self-love it can get quite tricky. In such cases there may be support from the other planets who can compensate by providing validation through the aspects of life that they control.

Check out who can help. The siblings, friends, team-mates, office-mates and your positive thought processes – Mercury. The society, boss, knowing you are doing a good job in the social and professional field – Saturn. The self-ego, the children, taking up higher education and knowing you are creative and confident – Sun. Getting to know yourself and knowing that you are doing your spiritual practice regularly – Venus. Your philosophy, kindness and a sense of humanity which you have nourished by reading books and learning more and more – Jupiter. A sense of detachment which Ketu can confer. And finally a new ambition and new direction in life which Rahu can supply.

There is a time when you need to sit down and talk through things and there is also a time where you have remain silent and let events unfold. You are not defined just by your relationship with your loved one. There is so much more to you. Let the relationship take a back seat and focus on other aspects of life for a while. You will get the appreciation you deserve, always!

No one goes anywhere, least of all your loved one. Times always change, and there is always going to be a Time.

 

Tensions in relationships astrologically

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 1

In Vedic/Sanatan Dharm/Hinduism marriage is called Vivah and is a Sanskar. It means that this is compulsory for a man and a woman to undergo this Vivah-Sanskar and thus enter the Gruhast-ashram stage of life. There are 16 Sanskars in life.

  • Vivah is a ‘force which is used to bear/carry’. It is not just a ‘marriage’.
  • Sanskar is ‘accomplishment, refinement, culture, foundation, purification, formation, creation, making ready, creation of the mind/mental processes, education’ etc. Sanskar does not mean just a ‘ritual’.

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 1

There are 4 stages of the Vedic/Sanatan Dharm/Hindu life.

  1. Balya-ashram – The childhood phase where you are taken care of by your parents, family, neighbourhood and the society. During this period from the age of 6yrs you learn basic schooling and the foundations of your life’s philosophy from your teachers. After you cross 16yrs of age you start learning your business/profession from your peers and senior family members.
  2. Gruhasta-ashram – The married life where you are the active Karta/doer of the family. Vivah is the Sanskar which brings you into this phase of life. It is ideal to get married before or around 25yrs of age. Everyone has to get married and contribute to the society in different ways. Also produce children, teach them, as they are going to be a part of the society in a few years. All 4 aspects of life Dharma, Artha, Kaam and Moksh are linked to a successful gruhast phase. The only people exempt from this phase are those who take Sanyas and thus leave their Family and Society forever.
  3. Vanprastha-ashram – At around 51yrs of age is the gradual withdrawal from the society coupled with passing on the baton of Karta/doer-ship to your children. This phase starts with you ensuring your children’s Vivah Sanskar when they are around 25yrs of age.
  4. Sanyasa-ashram – At the age of about 76yrs you completely withdraw from the society and family concerns and concentrate only on your spiritual path and practice. Your children are also in their 45-50yrs of age on the verge of their Vanprasthashram age and your grandchildren are on the verge of becoming Gruhast themselves.

In Vedic/Sanatan Dharm/Hinduism, in all astrology texts from Parashar to Jaimini etc and all the the Indian systems of astrology Vedic, KP etc, refer to marriage as between a man and a woman. In a Vivah the husband and wife are called Dharmapati and Dharmapatni. These are again Sanskrit words so have several layers of meanings.

  • Dharma – knowing, justice, virtue, right, religion, establishment law, practice, merit, steadfastness, observation, property, propriety, duty, ethics, use, to-become, good works, devotion, character, morality, arrangement, support etc. This in short is the foundation of your life, from the physical environments to the spiritual principles.
  • Pati – Is the one who is – honor of, responsible to, going with, owner of, possessor of, protector of, ruler of, male spouse of – Dharma. He is always called Dharmapati.
  • Patni – Is the one who is – female spouse of, owner of, mistress of, ruler of, protector of, being with – Dharma. She is always called Dharmapatni.

Vivah is the main phase of life which supports the other three, the young, the retired and the aged. The man and woman who marry each other are required not only to look after their personal family and their children but also protect the larger interests of the society. It is a very serious commitment as the witness of this Sanskar is the Sun/Agni/Internal Sun. There is no word for divorce in Sanskrit. And if you can see auras, then it is a delight to see the two auras interacting so deeply during the Vivah ceremony, the astral selves/Jeevatmas also accept this Sanskar. The two allow it because of their Intention and Will which are reinforced by the MantrasWomen are more suitable for micro-managing and men for marco-managing. Both the woman and the man are required to contribute to the family. And families contribute to the society.

Marriage is arranged between a man and a woman depending on several factors, social to astrological. The most important one is the gotra, a person can marry only into a family whose gotra is different from his/her father’s, mother’s, maternal grandmother’s and maternal great-grandmother’s gotra. This ensures healthy progeny in every way. The astrological basis of matching charts is detailed in this post here. Maybe readers from other Non-Vedic cultures may find this strange, but we follow these rules so as to maintain a happy and healthy husband-wife relationship, healthy children and positive contribution to the family and society. Marriage is just not a personal private affair, it has social, cultural and spiritual ramifications too. (It is especially important in the spiritual sense that unmarried men/women, or widowers/widows cannot do important pujas. Only Sanyasis and persons with a living husband/wife can perform them.)

If you get a chart for analysing the marriage prospects these are the few basic houses you should analyse, have written about this in details in my previous posts on analysing marriage. But briefly.

  1. The 7th house in the birth chart for the manifested real life. Also its owner planet.
  2. The 7th house from the birth moon for the emotions, stability, comfort and security expected from the marriage.
  3. The navamsha, divisional chart 9, D-9 for the sub-conscious expectations regarding marriage and the ‘mirror’ you expect in life.
    • The 7th house and the placement of the 7th lord in this D-9.
    • The placement of the 7th house sign and lord from D-1 seen in D-9.
  4. Jupiter and Venus in the charts, both D-1 and D-9 and from the birth moon sign
  5. Other details like Manglik or multiple spouses etc which I have mentioned earlier.

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 1

Ultimately why do we marry? If we think deeply, we are all looking for our mirror, the one who has the missing pieces of our life. Now just close your eyes and ask yourself what kind of a wife/husband you want? What do you feel about your desired spouse? Be true to yourself, know that only your own Conscience is judging you. This is your private feeling. And then read this following list.

  1. Sun – You want someone glorious, regal, rich and creative, with lots of money, fame and position. You want to marry a king or a popular cine-star.
  2. Moon – you will feel that you need emotional comfort, protection and comfort and shelter. Someone who will tuck you in bed sort of maternal support.
  3. Venus – you are attracted to the surface, beauty, looks and soft sensual pleasures. A very handsome/beautiful husband/wife who will give you undivided attention.
  4. Mars – you are interested in a physically strong, bold, competitive and the rougher more physical pleasures. You might like your spouse to go with you to drinking contests, to the stadium, or a hike or for jogging daily in the park.
  5. Mercury – you want someone rich, interesting, youthful and intelligent. You would love having long chats and read interesting books with your spouse. Your spouse is your best friend.
  6. Saturn – will make you focus on the social image, the necessity of marriage, you think of marriage as a a work you have to do. Even after getting the spouse you want you will be more engaged in the social aspects of the Vivah union.
  7. Jupiter – you want someone more mature than you, older perhaps, and who will take care of you in a more paternal expansive way. Someone who will teach you and guide you, help you make sense of this world and life.
  8. Rahu – someone like the stars, unattainable from your current situation in life. It will be a constant craving for someone much higher than you in terms of social mobility and privileges . ‘Everyone wants him/her so I want too, and I will do anything to get him/her.’
  9. Ketu – you are not really into marriage so much. If your family and society are after you, you might just drift into marriage without much sense of attachment. Or you might in a flash of extreme dissociation just take Sanyas and leave the society for ever.

Now look back into your childhood, all the memories you have buried in your sub-conscious. Did you feel your mother wasn’t around? Or your dad was not available? You had no brothers/siblings to play with in your house? You had no friends to play with in the neighbourhood? Didn’t get pocket money or were poor? Wanted to learn in school but were unable to understand your teacher? Was left out of popular activities? Felt that your family’s social status was a liability? You have felt that you are nothing yourself but felt that there is something bigger at the edge of your awareness? Do these deep feelings relate in any way with how you feel about your ideal partner?

These emotional unmet needs from your childhood are often caused by very subtle or one-off events. A random unkind word or act hit you with more force that it should have. Your astral self registered it. If your conscious self had noticed it you would have taken active steps to fulfil this need. But the impact on the astral can be so deep that you feel this part of you is lost and you search for it in your spouse, your mirror! Sometimes guided mediation helps in bringing out answers from your sub-conscious in a very gentle way.

Some of life’s events and questions are just so very deep. One can just hope that with time and experience we will find the answers and solutions. We need to understand that every relationship especially that of Vivah/’marriage’ brings us face to face with our deepest emotional unmet needs. And the sooner we understand, the better we can resolve it and move towards understanding our own self, our Real Self. Else everything is between ourselves and our conscience.

This post will be in 2 parts. Link to part 2 here.

 

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 1

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 2

This post is a continuation to the part 1 linked here.

Now for those charts who do not follow the Vedic definition of Vivah there are certain pointers. This does not happen much in India, but here is a logical answer based on Vedic astrology principles. As this question relates to a person’s very personal psychology you need to analyse things in detail before coming to a conclusion. The positions from the birth chart D-1 will indicate the manifested reality. Counting from the birth moon sign will give the emotional context and the Navamsha, 9th Divisional chart D-9 will give an insight into the astral/sub-conscious expectations.

  1. The Ascendant and Ascendant lord. There is a deviation from the Dharma of the biological sex which the client him/herself had chosen at birth. So there will be discomfort and malefic influences here. The personality and its environment are at odds and in extreme unease.
    • In a female nativity, the ascendant sign or ascendant lord being under the effect of neuter or masculine planets. In male nativities the same being under the influence of female/neuter planets.
    • Malefic planets placed here or aspecting, especially the influences on the Ascendant lord.
    • Ascendant lord being placed in 6th, 8th, 12th houses will also tend towards secret diseases, shorter life-spans and several secret losses in life.
    • The power of the ascendant lord to give benefic results is very important. Where is he placed and is he comfortable? Is he in the sign of a friend/neutral/enemy planet, is he exalted/debilitated, or combust, or retrograde, or conjoint or aspected by malefics/benefics etc. Can you expect it to give its results completely or not? Has it matured etc. Do check this out carefully.
  2. The emotional context is also conflicted. The client had chosen his biological sex at birth, thus the mirror sex too at birth. Some event occurred somewhere which caused a change in the way ‘gender’ was felt later. Then the answers must come from the astral/sub-conscious realm too. So analyse the Moon, the sign he is placed in and the planets conjoint and aspects. Dissociative and malefic influences should predominate.
  3. The 5th house – This is the house of creativity and higher education and also represents selfish passions, lust and self-referential behaviours.
    • The natural ruler of the 5th house is the Sun (Leo being the natural 5th house of the Zodiac). The Royal one is often not bothered with rules, equitable alliances and considers himself above the society.
    • Malefic influences on the 5th house will turn the chart away from socially accepted spousal relationships.
    • Check the position of the 5th house and its owner’s placements too.
    • 5th house represents children too, obviously denial of naturally conceived children will be indicated here.
  4. The 7th house is true alliances and legal partnerships which are recognised by the society and also the soul.
    • the 7th house represents Vivah. In such charts the 7th house will be under malefic influences which will deny marriage. Check out the aspects on the 7th house and the placement of the 7th lord.
    • Venus will also not be very comfortable wherever he may be. He always has a subtle influence on the legally accepted and witnessed alliances of the 7th.
  5. The 8th house for hormonal issues and oddities related to the reproductive organs. Also analyse the owner of the 8th house. Mars as always with his subtle influence will be a factor.
  6. The 9th house is the Dharmasthan. The ancestors are seen from here. Do you have permission from them to carry forward their DNA? Check out the owner of this house and also Jupiter with his subtle influence on the matters of the 9th house.
  7. Finally the 12th house will show some irregularities regarding sexual activity.

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 1

Wherever there is breaking of rules and taboos you will have Rahu. He will flaunt himself, until he loses control and falls. Saturn to some extent can control Rahu’s society-disruptive behaviour. Sun, if decides to turn bad, will be selfish, the rock-star bad boy, and will break rules. Such a Sun will develop a strange above-the-masses type of ego, not be bothered with societal norms. Moon if scared of losing emotional security, under Saturn’s influence or debilitation or goaded by Mars will seek comfort in which ever way makes sense to him. Now if there is support from other planets, this Moon can seek comfort in breaking the rules. Mercury in his childishness or peer pressure may experiment in college and with friends. Venus if debilitated may decide to seek pleasure in the off-the-beaten-track. Ketu is headless and if gets in the driver’s seat on relationships you really dont know what all he can get into! But the gist is, look into vulnerable planets and houses which are responsible for mental and emotional security. Relationships and intimate pleasures.

I hope these posts have been of some use for you. However as you are required to respond to questions and counsel people on their relationships with their partners, I would suggest using Cards, both Cartomancy or Tarot give very good answers. Or Runes. These divination systems give on the spot and amazingly accurate answers. And if you ask questions like, ‘What can be done to make this situation better?’ you will be able to counsel regarding the best possible line of action. But if you want to use Astrology, consider focussing on the 5th house rather than the 7th house as an indicator of such partnerships. You can also use Prashna rather than a full blown astrological chart analysis if there is only a single pressing question.

So now for those who reject the Vivah Sanskar, do search into the childhood memories of the male and female relatives you were in contact with. Evaluate especially your deepest feelings related to your mother and father (and grandad/grandmom if they lived with you.) Why did you choose to reject your birth choice of biological sex, male/female and the associated biological sex mirror image? Why did you change your definition of ‘gender’?. ‘Sex’ is a reality it is biological, ‘gender’ is a concept, an idea. You cannot change your sex, it is either XX or XY but you can change your gender. Why did you choose to search for a person of the same sex and the same/opposite gender as yours, in your search to fill your blanks? There is no right or wrong but you need to know why? Even if you fail a school paper you want to know why!

Even for those who are in abusive and chaotic marriages, do this bit of introspection. Why? The spouse is behaving the way you want him/her to behave in your deepest subconscious.  Why have you held such damaging beliefs so tightly in your depths? You are experiencing your own beliefs, fears, expectations and karmic baggage through your spouse. Marriage amplifies all of our feelings about our own self. We receive our deepest Karmic lessons from those closest to us. We love someone, means we wish him/her the deepest happiness. We expect the same love from him/her. In short we expect validation. But validation from another human will always be erratic and uncertain. All relationships will have their periods of tensions and problems, one cannot expect a complete merging with another human. Even in the closest relationships there exists an infinite distance.

So understand that you have to love yourself too, wish yourself the deepest happiness. That is the way you will ultimately realise the consciousness in your own self and the real source of happiness.

There is no right or wrong. Each one chooses their path and then accepts the consequences of the choice.

 

Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 2

These 2 posts are in response to this comment I received in the Contact form. “Hello astrologer by default! I am an astrologer myself and so much to learn from your blog which I randomly found… Recently been receiving a lot of requests about same-sex relations in my practice. How do you spot the same in the chart? What does Hinduism have to say? Can it be judged from birthchart or divisional charts?”

Matching Charts for marriage

Families go to astrologers for matching charts of their children before getting them married. It is very important to match the charts before marriage rather than facing problems later. Even if the young man and woman are in ‘love‘ and do not want to base their decision on the charts, it is important that they go to an astrologer and at least hear to what the charts are saying. They can consider it as additional information to base their decision on. In Sanskrit, Sanatan Dharma (Hinduism) and Vedic philosophy there is no word for ‘divorce’.

Matching Charts for marriage

You will get the charts only after the families have matched their gotra, social and financial conditions. So this is how you go about matching them. Each of these points are to be seen individually for each person. Also because marriage links the persons very deeply their charts also influence each other, so these factors are also to be seen as overlaid one chart over the other.

Longevity and physical health – this is perhaps the most important parameter which has to be gauged at the start itself. The life span of both should be reasonably beyond 50yrs at least. If either of the prospective partners have indications of premature death the matching should always be rejected. Early death is always traumatic and results in great pain and unhappiness to the surviving partner and also to the children if any. You are not required to calculate the exact life expectancy of the charts, but it should reasonably cross about 50yrs of age, as most activities related to the householder’s life are complete by this age.

For the individual readings check out the following.

  • Longevity will depend on the Ascendant sign, the planets placed in the ascendant sign, the position and placement of the ascendant lord and the planets conjoint and aspecting him.
  • Also the 8th house and its lord should be similarly examined for longevity.
  • The 6th house and its lord will give indications on the possibility of physical diseases so give them a once-over.
  • And the 12th house and its lord represent the loss of the manifested, physical and visible attributes so in a way linked to health. So a quick look on this house too.

For a combined effect of one over the other check out this one important house.

  • The placement of the 7th house, the planets present and aspecting.
  • The placement of the 7th lord and the planets who are conjunct/aspecting him.
  • eg. a 7th lord placed in the 12th will indicate that the person who marries this chart will have to suffer the diseases that are in the karma of this chart’s partner, in addition to his own placements.

Matching Charts for marriage

Mental and emotional health – This is very important that both partners enjoy emotional and intellectual company with each other and also that the mind and the emotions of both remain comfortable and secure. Else it is quite possible that one person ruins the happiness of the marital home with his/her faulty mental processes. For this you will need to analyse these 2 planets.

  • Moon – This is not only the agent of the mind and emotional stability but also if afflicted can reduce the longevity of the person. Outwardly normal seeming persons can suddenly change overnight into nut-cases fit for the psychiatrists.
    • Check out in the individual horoscopes the birth moon sign
    • The house that this moon get placed into
    • The planets is is conjoint or aspecting him
    • And to check out how this person will interact emotionally with his spouse? Will he derive satisfaction/emotional security/comfort etc from his spouse? Check out the 7th house from his birth moon.
  • Mercury – He represents the mental processes, what kind of conclusions (negative/positive) do you draw from the life-events you go through. Also the ability to communicate clearly, thus there are no doubts, misunderstandings, miscommunications and suspicions between the couple.
    • Check out in the individual horoscopes the birth mercury, the sign he is placed in
    • The house that this mercury gets placed into
    • Which planets are conjoint or aspecting him
    • And to check out how this person will interact on the intellectual level with his spouse, will their thinking processes match, do check out the 7th house from his birth mercury.

Matching Charts for marriage

Possibility of multiple spouses – Since this is a marriage between 2 individuals and our society and legal systems by and large allow one spouse only, it is important to check out if there is a possibility of multiple spouses in either of the charts.

Benefic and malefic influences in the overall horoscope – Look at the overall placements in the horoscope, especially strengths of the ‘good houses’ 1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 7th, 9th, 10th, 11th, the placements of benefics and the malefics. The dushamsthana 6th, 8th, 12th houses of turmoil should be vacant or not have benefic planets as far as possible. (a short explanation in this post)

The position of Mars has become quite the deciding factor in marriage matching. If someone is labelled ‘Manglik‘ then his/her marriage prospects suffer drastically. But if the above points are found to be satisfactory then this becomes more of a psychological issue about channelising the energies of Mars and with proper counselling and understanding is quite manageable.

And then we come to the last factor, the Ashtakoot matching – Here we give complete importance to the birth Moon nakshatra of the two. There are 8/Ashta groups/koot in this matching. There are a maximum of 36points and 18+ points is generally considered ok. There are several websites which can give you your score directly but have put the theory here so that you can appreciate the thought process behind this matching.

  1. Varna (1 point) – is the outward appearance/quality/strength, thinking ability and work and spiritual development.
  2. Vashya (2 points) – this indicates the interdependence between the two and whether the two will listen to each other’s opinions, i.e. the degree to which both will influence each other.
  3. Tara (3 points) – Mutual understanding, sensibility and destiny between the two is indicated from this.
  4. Yoni (4 points) –  Mutual sexual and physical compatibility between the two is given importance.
  5. Grahamaitri (5 points) – the rulers of the birth Moon sign are considered here. If both are friends, enemies or neutral to each other. The mental compatibility, mutual interests and desires, also the genuine friendship and affection that develops between the two can be analysed from here.
  6. Gana (6 points) – The 27 nakshatras are divided into 3 categories depending on their essential natures, peaceful-spiritual, materialistic-fair and aggressive-demanding. The match has to consider these essential natures else there will be discord. This indicates temperament and the emotional response to a situation (also potential for violence).
  7. Rashi Bhakoot (7 points) – The moon sign of the boy is counted from the girl’s moon rashi. This defines the daily behaviour between the two, is their daily life with each other going to be peaceful or tense.
  8. Nadi (8 points) – The 27 nakshatras are again divided into 3 categories (Vaat, Pitta, Sleshma) depending on their physical health. The Nadi koot has been given the maximum points in this system because the health of the couple after they get married and the health of the children they will have depends on this. If their Nakshatras belong to different Nadis the score is outrightly 8, if belonging to the same Nadi it becomes 0.

Of course in the present times, ‘arranged marriages’ are being phased out slowly, even ‘love marriages’ are on the way out perhaps. Live-in relationships or flings are more fashionable now. But do remember that Marraige/Vivah is a Sanskar, not just a religious/legal/social ceremony. It is the foundation of our society as it provides care and protection to small children, to the aged parents and is the thread which binds us all in relationships, mom, dad, child, brother, sister, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, grandmom, grandad and the in-laws. Our lives are more richer because of these relationships of mutual love and all these are based on the foundation of marriage/vivah.

 

Matching Charts for marriage

 

Navamsha, 9th divisional chart

Astrology is a bottomless ocean of information. Jyotish is one of the 6 branches of Vedanta and is the science used to find out the events which are going to happen in a life time and their timing. Thus it is high mathematics coupled with deep study and intuition. Divisional charts are extremely useful, however you need the exact birth-time, an error of even 15 seconds is not acceptable. If accurate birth time is not available the divisional charts are extremely misleading and should never be calculated.

For a complete analysis of your personality you will need to analyse at least the following

  1. The birth chart with the ascendant as the first house – This is the 1st divisional chart or D-1. The basic chart which we always refer to, the birth chart with the ascendant as the first house. The D-1 is rooted in time/space. This determines the physical, material and social aspects of your life. It is ideal for predicting the tangible events which occur in the ‘real life’, marriage, education, children, travel, business, health, death etc.
  2. The birth chart with the moon sign as the first house – This sets up the emotional context and the comfort zones of your personality. This is how every tangible event affects you on the emotional level. Eg, the Saturn influencing the Moon will restrict emotions, the person’s mother may die, a tangible event, but he will not be so emotionally disturbed because Saturn restricts the mind and emotions.
  3. The Navamsha, 9-th divisional chart – D-9, is used to analyse the astral, spiritual, emotional and psychological planes. These are the real source from which the chart D-1 derives its power and context.

Navamsha, 9th divisional chart

Professional astrologers will not do all this as they have no need or time. Most clients have very materialistic questions. However for knowing more about your own self, everyone should do this analysis for his own horoscope.

You are not just the physical self which you see in the mirror, you have various sides to your personality and also several parallel states of existence. Jyotish has ways to look deep into all these personalities and planes of existence. And these charts are called divisional or Varga charts. In this post we will discuss the 9-th divisional chart or navamsha. The mathematics for calculating varga is quite different but we have software that does this, for Indian/Vedic system, for windows, “Jagannatha Hora” or “Parashar’s Light” gives all the several types of divisional charts. But if you need just the Navamsha/9-th divisional chart, for iphones “Drik panchang” by developer “Adarsh apps” is quite accurate.

The D-9 is used to determine the strength and pre-dispositions of the astral self. We spend about 8 hrs completely in the astral realm when we are asleep. But even when are are awake, the events from the astral are going on side-by-side with the conscious self. If you are aware, you can ‘see’ these from the corner of your eyes, or register them as a 6-th sense. If you engage in some spiritual practice it will be easier to notice these events. The D-9 will not make much sense to you unless you are a bit spiritually inclined.

The D-9 is not used for predicting the tangible life events. The D-9 is sort of a complicated continuous ‘Now’. You ‘are’ your D-9 which is manifested in the physical environment as the D-1. The D-9 is not linked to time/space and it represents everything from your past and parallel lives which is influencing your reality/D-1. You are your astral self, you manifest portions from your astral periodically with the placements of the D-1, and then again go the astral to recover. This happens temporarily while you sleep and permanently when your body dies. Do read my post on Moksh trikon to understand more.

The D-9 tells you, what is possible, what you actually want. So, in a way, it sets the range for the D-1. The D-1 happens within this range. The indications of the astral are slightly in advance of the physical, so if you can see the astral body/aura you can predict a disease or death upto 6months in advance.

Navamsha, 9th divisional chart

Most astrologers will use the D-9 to determine the actual strengths of the planet positions in the D-1. Or for marriage predictions. But in reality all the graha in D-9 should be analysed. The relationship between the D-1 position and the D-9 position of a graha will determine if the astral expectations are in harmony with the material reality that it manifests.

Eg, one of my clients has the D-1 Saturn in the 12th house and in the D-9 it shifts to 4th house. The astral D-9 Saturn restricts emotional shelter, comfort, maternal love, deep healing and recovery. He enforces un-protection, rootless-ness, homeless-ness and not-belonging. This astral expectation is manifested in the D-1 12th house Saturn which further restricts access to the sub-conscious, rest, sleep, guidance from the astral and spiritual. Thus this person never had an emotional connect with his mother or relatives, is working and living away from his home town, shifted residences several times. Has a need for emotional support which will never be granted and his spiritual practice is also highly restricted, he never sleeps properly. So the readings from the D-9 and D-1 match. The karmic/Saturn solution for him is to learn by the negative example. He will be required to comfort/help others who suffer the same problems as him. And because he knows exactly how bad it feels, he will be required to ensure that these others do not feel the same. Thus he will heal slowly/Saturn.

So how to link the D-1 and the D-9.

Our life is a sequence of events. These events are neutral by themselves but when emotional labels put on them, they become ‘experience’. The D-1 is the ‘sequence’ and the D-9 is the ‘label’. Check out the planets in the D-9 charts, their placement houses and their keywords. These will be important as significant emotional labels/experiences will be associated with them. If a particular house has more planets, this house will be in the center stage for ‘experience’.

D-9 placements are like emotional triggers. If you can analyse them, you can heal them. E.g. D-1 South node/Ketu in the 5th will give a disconnect with the children. Now if the D-9 also affected, eg Saturn in the 5th, this reality of disconnect will be accepted internally. But if the D-9, 5th house has a Moon placed in it, the physical reality of disconnect to the child will be severely traumatic on the sub-conscious emotional level.

Navamsha, 9th divisional chart

The most intimate relations can be the cruelest teachers linked to the deepest ‘experiences’ requiring re-balancing and healing. Thus the experience of marriage is always seen in context of the D-9. The more intimate the relationship, the more intensely emotional the interactions. So in matching horoscopes for marriage, you should also match the two D-9’s. There should be some linkage between the two D-9 charts at the deepest sub-conscious levels to avoid trauma and pain of failed expectations. The other in a relationship is often the mirror. The significant relationships of our life follow this rule to a great extent, mother-child, father-child, husband-wife, teacher-student, boss-employee are some of the relations which deeply affect our psyche. So all these experiences can be interpreted from the D-9 so you can try to improve your responses in these relationships and learn your lessons so that you can escape being caught in these learning situations again in the future lives.

The D-9 is the basis on which the immediate next life will be created. The astral moves a bit faster than the physical, thus the astral is also the seed for rebirth. Your emotional affinity and the direction of your energies is already shown here. Most important is to remain calm, focussed and actively participate at the moment of exit, this can be achieved by intellectually analysing your deepest motivations and expectations. If you can interpret the D-9 you can change your choices for the next birth by actively redressing the imbalances shown in it. Generally no one thinks on these lines but you can redress the imbalances by

  • actively helping others who are suffering in the same manner as you are. Learning by negative example is the domain of Karma. Eg if your parents never looked after you, you could go help out at a children’s orphanage.
  • doing mantra pujas for the unbalanced planets. I had written a whole post on this, but perhaps this is too technical.
  • sending energy to the unbalanced planets. Sounds too wild? But as I have repeatedly said, you can do anything with your intention. Reiki, chi-balls, or even the natural energy of the Universe can be directed to the planets in your horoscope. Planets are energy!
  • doing regular spiritual practice where you silence your conscious mind and allow your sub-conscious mind to operate.

So do remember that you always manifest what you sub-consciously expect. The truest indicator of these sub-conscious expectations is the D-9, these are the seeds of the future which will be manifested soon. Studying the D-9 and taking remedial actions can resolve un-balanced planetary energies which would otherwise impact several lifetimes.