So you are a Manglik?

I have seen so many young men and women traumatized by the bogey of this “Mangal dosha” so I had to put this post. If your Mars at birth is the 1st, 4th, 7th, 8th and 12th houses counted from your ascendent or even your birth lunar horoscope the “astrologer next door” will declare you to be Manglik.  And once labeled, getting a good arranged match will be so utterly difficult. So just see this, in your horoscope, birth Mars in 5 out of 12 houses is considered Manglik and if you escape this then the astrologers will count these 5 houses from your birth moon sign also. If still your Mars is clear he may even open your 9th divisional chart/ navamsha chart to further check. So now everyone will turn out to be a Manglik (facepalm) !

So you are a Manglik?

At the outset, the Manglik tag for a woman is more severe than for a man. For a man, Mangal Dosha is not really a dosha. It in fact is an advantage if you can direct the energies. But there are some important things which must be highlighted. If you are such a “Manglik” man remember,

  1. You are a highly masculine man, and your energies of high competitiveness, vitality and drive should be directed away from your marriage and house. Go to the gym, train for marathons, learn physical contact games, football, boxing/karate etc. On your spare evenings go driving or any other physical activity to take the edge off your aggression. Create opportunities in your life outside the house where you can be aggressive and channelize your competitive spirit responsibly not rashly.
  2. Take vacations like trekking and camping outdoorsy vigorous things.
  3. Marry a feminine woman. You wont think of her as a competitor rather you will want to protect her. Preferably one who is a homemaker, likes dressing up and girly things and would prefer having lots children and take care of them too. Give her total freedom in the house and let her be creative about it. Let her make your house beautiful and harmonious. The house is her domain, do not compete with her here.
  4. Or if you marry the same Manglik type of woman then both of you should remember that you are not competitors against each other, but are a united One against everyone else. Your aggressive energies will at least be directed outside your home and your marriage.
  5. You cannot take out your aggression on your wife/children or family members.
  6. Avoid alcohol. Substitute for lemon sodas and grape juice but avoid alcohol and other addictions.
  7. Take up some spiritual practice or meditative exercise for just 5 mins a day.

Mars, the Red Planet, is the Expression of your Ego. How you express your internal energies, your boldness, dynamism, competitiveness, vitality is the domain of Mars. He grants us the energy, independence, will and self-confidence to carry out our endeavours. He is the active brave warrior who can be noble and dynamic but also rash and ruthless. A low Mars energy will mean a droopy frail person with little energy, no real interest, passion or motivation. If unchecked, a wild Mars can lead to accidents, aggression, domination, violence, injury and death. As too much or too less of anything causes problems, similarly too much or too little Mars energy will be a problem. A correct balance of Mars is quite rare. Mars does not share, he competes and wins. In a partnership his ideal partner is Venus whose karmic responsibility is to teach him to harmony, beauty and to share fairly.

Mars influences 4 aspects of your life, 4 houses of the horosope directly. The house he is in, the house 4th from it, the house 7th from it and the house 8th from it. Eg, If your Mars is in Aries, it will influence Aries, Cancer, Libra and Scorpio directly.

Mars is exalted in Capricorn. Saturn teaches Mars discipline and restricts his energies to just the what is required and useable. He also provides him a goal of working for the general welfare and society. And Mars is debilitated in Cancer. Moon drowns the vitality and fire of Mars in dreaminess, vagueness, emotions and confusion.

The traditional mind-set in India is still that the bride must not be aggressive, not work professionally, stay at home, not break up the house etc. A manglik woman finds it more difficult in the marriage arena rather than a manglik man. But in today’s life the man himself wants a wife who works outside and the houses are so small that the parents themselves buy a separate flat for their son after his marriage. So while checking out the horoscope matching do keep the realities of today’s lifestyle in perspective.

So you are a Manglik?

If you are such a Manglik woman remember the following.

  1. Work professionally in a regular job, or start a home business or try to find a job where some physical activity is indicated. Or a job like a lawyer maybe where you can be aggressive. You need to find a channel for your aggression. Go to a gym if you have the time.
  2. Take vacations like trekking and camping outdoorsy vigorous things.
  3. Try to get on with your father/mother or mother/father-in-law. Request them to live near you, maybe a flat in the same building and help look after the children. This is something you have to do, no options.
  4. In India at least your marriage options will be limited to similar Manglik men. Then both of you should remember that you are not competitors against each other, but are a united One against everyone else. Your aggressive energies will at least be directed outside your home and your marriage.
  5. Do not take your aggression out on your family members, husband and children.
  6. Take up some spiritual practice or meditative exercise for just 5 mins a day.

Lets briefly see how Mars’s Mangal dosha in the 5 houses will perform in real life. These descriptions are the extreme cases, the aspects of benefic planets will make it better and the aspects of malefic planets will make it worse. So if you or your prospective partner has such combinations take remedial action.

1st house/Ascendent – Mars will influence, 1st, 4th, 7th and 8th houses. Mars is the natural owner of the first house as his rashi Mesha is the natural 1st sign. If Mars himself occupies the first house, you are highly active, energetic, super-competitive individual and your anger is of a typical animal nature. You must always be on the move and need targets to achieve, cant sit still. You might expect friction and competition with your maternal relatives, mother, concerning landed properties, partnerships, wife/husband and occasional accidents.

4th house – Mars will influence 4th, 7th, 10th, 11th houses. You might expect friction and competition with your maternal relatives, mother, father, profession, concerning landed properties, partnerships, wife/husband, in social situations and sources of income. Mars aspects the 10th house, thus you might be better off directing your energies in your career.

7th house – Mars will influence the 7th, 10th, 1st, and 2nd houses. You might expect friction and competition with your partnerships, husband/wife, father, profession, family assets, lineage, concerning personal ego and role in society. Mars aspects the 10th house, thus you might be better off directing your energies in your career.

8th house – Mars influences the 8th, 11th, 2nd and 3rd houses. Mars is the natural owner of the 8th house. His scorpio is the natural 8th rashi. If in the 8th house himself, he may be an agent of major surgery, deep therapeutic healing, emergence from catastrophic change, tantrik magic, accidents and death too. You might expect friction and competition in social situations, networks, sources of income, family assets, lineage, extended family, brothers/cousins, neighbours. Reproductive organs may be weak or the diseases you may suffer will have hidden beginnings and then suddenly flare up.

12th house – He will influence 12th, 3rd, 6th and 7th houses. His energies will be directed to the subconscious, astral, spirit worlds. Essentially drowned fire. May manifest as over-stimulation of imagination, disturbance to emotions and intuition and even insanity in presence of malefic aspects. You might expect friction and competition in family assets, lineage, extended family, brothers/cousins, neighbours, your partnerships, husband/wife, may suffer from poisoning type of diseases eg food poisoning, septicemia. Overly anxious personality may develop and express as verbal criticism and resentment.

And at the last as I am an astrologer, every Tuesday morning, to keep your mars energies positive, light a small copper lamp with sesame oil and cotton wick with this mantra, “Om kraang kreeng kraung sah mangalaya namah, om”, repeat it once, thrice or 108 times as you wish. Request for help from your Mars and intend that you will live a happy healthy life with your wife/husband, children and family.

I have written a post on the deep motivations and inner psychology of Mars and the signs he rules, Aries and Scorpio here.


So you are a Manglik?

The tantra of the Sriyantra and Meru

I had to write this today. There are just too many pujaris and pandits who love keeping power in their own hands and scaring people.

This is again related to the Kundalini. As we all know the 7 energy vertices of the body are actually points within the main energy channel/naadi named sushumna, but the energy of each vertex can be geometrically represented as a diagram in 2 dimensions. The energy diagrams are called “yantra”.

Then the energy of each vertex corresponds to a sound and this sound is called a “beej mantra“. Eg the sound “Rang” is the beej mantra of the manipur chakra. Try this if you are feeling cold. Repeatedly chant “rang” either verbally or in your mind, if you do it for too long you will feel so hot that you will actually start sweating. There is nothing mystic about it! It is all about resonance, simple physics.

The seven chakras have their individual yantra geometric diagrams and the entire set of 7 when viewed from the top takes the shape of the fundamental geometry Sriyantra.

Now if the Sri yantra is pulled into 3D we get a Mahameru. As your consciousness expands you will be able to visialize this geometry in 4, 5, 6 and even more dimensions. This happens in a state of deep Dhyan when you actually mindfully look inside yourself.

Pranayam, the basic 3 methods

Now this is the geometry of your own personal energies. It is not something outside of you. This is how a perfectly balanced human energy should look like. Right now we average humans have energies out of kilter and topsy turvy and out of balance. This out of balance energy leads to all sorts of emotional and physical problems.

The objective of a human life is to perfectly balance our internal energies.

So these individual Chakra yantras, Sriyantra  and the Mahameru are a visual reminder of how the perfectly balanced energy should look like and the beej mantras are an auditory reminder of how the energies should sound like. By looking at these geometries or by uttering these beej mantras we are trying to resonate our unbalanced chakras with the perfect Srichakra. We are trying to induce resonance, something we learnt in school physics, remember the tuning fork experiments?

So I want you all to get yourself a Sriyantra drawn perfectly, or a Mahameru carved perfectly and gaze into the center Bindu of the geometry. Do this exercise for 3 minutes everyday and see how things start getting balanced on deep levels internally.

But our priests and pujaris are so clueless that they cloak everything in rituals and what nots and scare people. One of my clients was so scared to keep this tool in his house because his family pujari told him that it requires heavy duty puja else the Goddess Laxmi will be cross with him.

You can safely keep the Yantra in your house, even use it as a paperweight if you desire, it looks quite pretty! But as it is an object of energy it will be of more use as a Tool rather than as a paperweight.

And yes, if you do a small puja with your Sriyantra/Mahameru everyday the resonance will definitely be better. Yantra is the tool / geometry, Mantra is the sanskrit words used to trigger it and Tantra is knowing how to do it!

So learn how to resonate your energies with the Perfect Geometry.

Just one precondition, your Intention should be clear, You are doing this for balancing your own energies, it is your own private affair, it a moment of joy, and it is not a meaningless ritual. If you are not clear about your own Intention please do not do it. Intention is everything.

Place your yantra in a clean place. (I keep my Clear Quartz, 2 kg weight, Mahameru in a silver plate, filled with unbroken raw rice grains and the grains then covered with a yellow cotton cloth.) Sit in front of it on your asan, face east or north. Clean the yantra daily with clean water and wipe with a cotton cloth. You can use either or both one after the other, the following 2 mantras to activate your yantra as you wish.

  1. Srisukata – the first 16 shlokas/stanzas are to be recited – While reciting look at the central point/ Bindu of your yantra. Take one strand of wet kesar/saffron and apply it to the bindu with the ring finger of your right hand after you finish.
  2. Devi Khadgamala stotra – When you start take 3 grains of unbroken uncooked perfect rice grains and hold then with your right hand thumb, middle finger and ring finger. After you finish put these 3 rice grains on the central Bindu. I could not find an error free text but found an error free recital on youtube. The part from 2.41 seconds to 7.50 seconds is the main stotra.
  3. Or if you find these 2 difficult to start with recite the devi gayatri, “Om devyaii Brahmandyaii vidmahe, Mahatshaktyaii cha dhimahi, tanno Devi prachodayat Om” and apply one wet strand of kesar/saffron on the Bindu.
  4. If not this, then at least “Om”, recited for 3 times?

The Yantra is a representation of Perfection and Perfection is Shri  /Laxmi/  Devi /Mahamaya. So do treat it with the basic amount of respect. Shri will resonate with your intentions and amplify them. So if you get scared, it will amplify those feelings. If you are happy, it will amplify that too. See She is very kind, She does what you ask of Her. So be very clear, about your Intentions, the Yantra will give you back exactly what you want. And your Intentions are your own Free Will.

This is the only warning necessary.


Who is a Guru?


Remedy for weak planets, Homa

In my several posts I have suggested that you yourself do a small homam (sacred fire ritual) at home. Now the ritualistic Brahmins will be shouting out that it is not possible and neither advisable for you to do a homam without experts/pandits. Then women should not do it and only married men can do it. So many rules, may be meaningful to some, but make no sense to me.

Fire/Agni is called Jaataveda/the one who knows everything. The fire we see with our eyes represents the internal fire and the light of Parabrahma. So naturally he knows everything and is the Jaataveda. In all Sanatan dharma rituals fire/agni is the witness. Even when you get married there are 2 conditions there should be a sun in the sky (daytime) and a fire lit in the homam kund who will be the witness to the marriage ceremony.

So if you are interested in doing a sacred fire ritual at home you will need 2 things, a clear heart and pure intention. There is nothing right and nothing wrong. When you are doing a homam you are invoking with the means of the fire that portion of the energies inside your own self. Divinity is not outside, it is right inside you, always remember this.

So the physical things you will need are, a copper kumbh/a pot, a copper pyramidal homa kund, a copper cup and spoon in the shape as per the pictures, cowdung cakes of Desi cows dung and ghee made of desi cow milk. (Desi cows are those Indian cattle breeds who have a prominent hump). Balance the homa kund on a couple of bricks so that the heat does not spoil the flooring. You will also need an asan to sit on. An asan at the very basic should be a layer of pure wool and a layer of pure silk on it.

homa- kund

Remedy for weak planets, Homa desi humped cow-dung cakes

Remedy for weak planets, Homa

The simplest homam that you can do yourself at home is of course the Agnihotra. But Agnihotra is very time specific and you are required to say the mantras and offer the rice and ghee exactly at the moment of sunrise and sunset. If you search online there are are several websites which give the details.

What I prescribe as a simple astrological remedy to do at home yourself is this very simple process with the sequence of mantras. You can do it anytime of the day, preferably in the morning or evening twilight, or you can do it anytime in the day or the night. Men can do it anytime, women should not do it on the 5 days of the monthly cycle. (The body is undergoing physical destruction internally and needs rest.)

  1. Dress, wear something of natural fibre, eg silk/ cotton which you wind around you. a dhoti, or a cloth wrapped around your waist. Women can wear a sari or if its too much trouble you can wear a cotton nightie like garment which does not pinch and you can cross your legs comfortably. Do not use it like a nightie then, keep it separate.
  2. Set up the asan facing north or east. In this have written on how to sit crosslegged or in a asan like siddhasan, sukahsan, padmasan etc.
  3. Set the homa kund carefully. Place 3-4 small pieces of cowdung dipped in ghee inside it. Keep the cup filled with ghee and spoon at your right hand. In the other kumbh/pot keep clean water at your left hand.
  4. Set alight a separate small piece of cowdung and use it to light your homam fire. While you are doing so say the Agni Gayatri, “Om Saptajihvaaya vidhmahe havyabhadraaya dhimahi tanno Agnih prachodayaat Om”. Then add a few drops of ghee with the spoon and let the fire get lit properly.
  5. Now take the pot of water in your left hand and pour a few drops in the palm of the right. Focus on the water and put in all your intention into that water. Your intention can be any one of the following, I want to be happy, healthy, rich, heal myself or anyone, get a wife, get children, be protected, increase my —- planets energy, just enjoy the homam, express my love to my god, express my love to myself, etc. Just remember your heart should be clear and your intention should be intense and pure. Now let the water drops fall to the ground at your right hand.
  6. Fold your palms and recite “OM”, three times and feel your body relax.
  7. Then recite the Ganapati Gayatri, “Om Ekadantaya Vidhmahe, Vakratundaya Dhimahi, Tanno Dantih Prachodayaat Om” for invoking the energies of Ganapati.
  8. Then this mantra is for invoking the Gods, Brahma, Vishnu, Shiva and the Nine grahas/planets, recite, “Om Brahma Murari Tripurantkari Bhanuh Shashih Bhumi Suto Budhah cha Guruh cha Shukrah Shani Rahu Ketavah Sarve Graha Shantikara bhavantu Om”.
  9. Then remember the Goddess Earth with love and gratitude, recite. “Om Samudra Vasane Devi, Parvatah Stana Mandale Vishnupatni Namastubhyam Paada Sparsham Kshamasva May Om”.
  10. Finally “Om Guruh Brahma Guruh Vishnu Guruh Devo Maheshwara Guruh Saakshat Para Brahma Tasmai Shree Gurave Namaha Om”. In this mantra you are acknowledging the Brahma, Vishnu, Shiva, and the pure Parabrahma as your Guru. None other. And bowing to that Supreme consciousness, the Universal energy. Here you are asking for divine inspiration and acknowledging that Parabrahma itself is your Guru. Always remember this, your Ultimate Guru is the Parabrahma none other. And this exists within you not outside anywhere.

Thus you have finished the preparatory phase. Now for the mantra phase where you will actually be invoking the energies of the mantra. This will vary as per the mantra you are using.

  1. Example. Homam for Surya, on a Sunday after the above mantras recite the Surya gayatri once, “Om Bhaskaraya Vidhmahe Divakaraya Dheemahi Tanno Suryah Prachodayat Om”.
  2. Then recite the surya beej mantra 108 times, “Om hraang hreeng hraung sah suryaya swaha”. At the swaha, use the spoon to drop a drop of ghee into the fire. To count to 108, use beads which you will count with the left hand.

This was the mantra-ahuti phase where you have given 108 drops of ghee to the conscious energy of the fire. You have repeated the mantra with ‘swaha’ at its end 108 times. Now you will conclude the Homa like this.

  1. After you finish the 108 repetitions, recite “Om” once.
  2. Recite “Om Shri Paradevata arpanmastu Om”
  3. Then sit in an attitude of contemplation, breathe slowly, relax, in front of the fire till it extinguishes naturally. Focus on the fire and draw its energies inside you. With these mantras you have generated a huge amount of energy, now pull it inside you and absorb it.
  4. After the fire extinguishes and the embers cool, put a pinch of that ash/Vibhuti on your forehead and top of head. Eat a pinch too.
  5. After it cools down to room temperature you can store it in a covered glass bowl and use it whenever you want to. It is Vibhuti now, and you yourself have made it. It is your personal energy infused with mantras and the power of the fire. You should use it in your energy work. Its energy will last for about 15days.

For the other grahas the process is same with the following mantras for the second part.

Moon – Monday – Om Padmadhwajaya Vidmahe Haemaroopaya Dheemahi Tanno Somah Prachodayat is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is Om” – “Om shraang shreeng shroung sah chandraya swaha”

Mars – Tuesday – Om Veeradhwajaya Vidmahe Vighnahasthaya Dheemahi Tanno Bhaumah Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is  “Om kraang kreeng kraung sah mangalaya swaha”

Rahu – Tuesday – “Om Nagadhwajaya Vidmahe Padma Hastaya Dheemahi Tanno Rahuh Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is  – “Om bhraang bhreeng bhraoung sah Rahave swaha”

Mercury – Wednesday – Om Gajadhwajaya Vidmahe Shuka Hastaya Dheemahi Tanno Budha Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is – “O braang, breeng broung sah budhayah swaha”

Jupiter – thursday – Om Vrishabhadhwajaya Vidmahe Ghrini Hastaya Dheemahi Tanno Guru Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is  – “Om graang greeng groung sah gurave swaha”

Venus – Om Ashwadhwajaya Vidmahe Dhanur Hastaya Dheemahi Tanno Shukrah Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is – Om draang dreeng droung sah shukraya swaha”

Saturn – Saturday – “Om Kakahdhwajaya Vidmahe Khadga Hastaya Dheemahi Tanno Mandah Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is Om praang preeng proung sah Shanisharaya swaha”

Ketu – Saturday – Om Ashwadhwajaya Vidmahe Shoola Hastaya Dheemahi Tanno Ketuh Prachodayat Om” is the invocation Gayatri and the mantra to recite 108 times is  – “Om sraang sreeng sroung sah ketave swaha”

This was a rather technical post, but well worth my and your time too if you ever decide to do it.


Vivah Sanskar as per Vedic Astrology Part 1